So my mom was just here for a visit over Easter weekend. She lives on the other side of the country, and has to fly here to visit. Her and I have always had a rocky relationship and she has always driven me nuts. My cousin works for an airline and when she learned that I was having a baby and my mom being so far away she *generously* gave my mom her buddy-pass (to fly stand-by for super cheap) for the next few months. My Mom thinks this is fantastic and is planning on coming to visit multiple times per month. This terrifies me. She was just here for 4 days and I thought I was going to murder her before she left. She is SO self centred. She 'claims' she is coming to 'help' but her visits always seem to revolve around her and her schedule. She never tells me when she is coming, she only tells me after she's booked the trip. When she's here, her days have to revolve around her workout schedule (she's unhealthily obsessed with working out). She 'helps' by doing the dishes after the baby has gone to bed and slams and bangs pots and pans around, constantly stomps through the house and slams every door she encounters. I ask her to be quiet and she gets defensive saying "well you were noisy when you use to live with me!"... This was 9 years ago and there wasn't a sleeping baby in the house! She books her flights at the most inconvenient times, for example she booked herself to fly out last night at 1am even though she knew we had LO's vaccines booked at 9 this morning. She completely takes over the house when she's here and leaves her stuff strewn throughout, uses my computer constantly to check facebook. I know the reasonable suggestion would be 'just talk to her' but the problem is every time I try and even gently offer criticism or suggestions she takes it personally and gets upset that I'm not making my life revolve around her. She allowed DH and I to go out for dinner without LO last night before she left and babysat, and all we could talk about was how stressed out we both were from her being here! I have no idea how I am going to handle her being here on a regular basis, she doesn't realize part of the reason I moved across the country was to get some distance between her and I.