Monday Bitchfest

MamaMunn

Lets hear em ladies!

picklesplease

My MBF is that I tried to talk to one of my best friends about TTC and she pretty much acted like she was totally bored. I was listening to her update me on how things were going with her, and then she asked what was new with me. I wanted to share this lovely moment with her when I would surprise her with telling her that we were TTC. Nope. No moment. She was bored. She didn't even care and then she changed the subject. I finished out my evening with her and then broke down at home. DH was so caring and just let me have my cry. It just makes the TTC process lonely sometimes. I'm thankful for you ladies and being able to talk here, but it sucks to want to confide in one of your best friends, and they act like they don't care...

ChaoticWolf

My MBF is a Monday CD1 when I have the most meetings. 

picklesplease

@TotororyInLove - Monday CD1s are the WORST!

Here's a funny gif to get you through.

MamaMunn

My MBF is DH. Every single time we had to HIO during fertile week he complained about it. Every. Single. Time. It's so frustrating, because I'm exhausted too, but I still try to make things fun to hopefully make it seem less like a chore. I just hate that ttc is taking a toll on our sex life, ugh.  

ChaoticWolf

Aw thanks @BerkeBaby puppy gifs are always appreciated!

linzrunz

There is snow in the forecast for tomorrow.  SNOW!  I am definitely one of those people that thinks as soon as we hit that official first day of spring, that it should be gorgeous weather.  Too bad I live in the mountains of California where there's been a drought.  Whenever I have a negative reaction to rain/snow, I always get bombarded with "Oh, but we need it!".  I don't care!  GIVE ME SOME SUNSHINE!!  (I'd like to specify WARM sunshine.)  I am a desert girl who would rather have 100* weather any day than snow or rain.  So I'll be over here pouting until the sun decides to show its face again.  (Which is in a couple days...but still....)

RatsPJ

My MBF is DH. He continues to not understand how science works, and despite having the FF app on his phone so he'll stop asking questions, he just asks more questions now. "Did you temp at the right time" or "what's going on" or "maybe you O without a temp spike." Um, no, it doesn't work that way because SCIENCE. I keep telling him he needs to read up, but then he either doesn't or it just doesn't compute. He's a smart man, he can figure this out. I'm already frustrated, no need to ask questions when you already have the answers. 

linzrunz

RatsPJ said:

My MBF is DH. He continues to not understand how science works, and despite having the FF app on his phone so he'll stop asking questions, he just asks more questions now. "Did you temp at the right time" or "what's going on" or "maybe you O without a temp spike." Um, no, it doesn't work that way because SCIENCE. I keep telling him he needs to read up, but then he either doesn't or it just doesn't compute. He's a smart man, he can figure this out. I'm already frustrated, no need to ask questions when you already have the answers. 

My DH is almost the opposite attitude, but same reaction from me - frustration!  This happened yesterday.... "Why are you taking your temperature every morning?"  *starts on a simple, but detailed explanation of how temping works*  DH interrupts me... "Uh, first - did you just say temping?  Is that even a word?  Second - I don't need the details.  That's weird."

I know he doesn't mean anything by it - he can be very blunt without realizing how he sounds.  But I'm at the point that I almost wish he would ask questions about something!  He's so laid back about everything and it some ways it's good because he brings me down from my craziness.  But in other ways, like this, I wish he would be more into the whole process and not just the sex part.

Sparty18

Well, I left you guys on a cliffhanger last MBF that I would tell you next week.  Now we are here and I'm sure you have all been sitting on the edge of your seats.  My parents just told us a few weeks ago that they are moving to Virginia. They currently live about 4 hours away, but I still manage to see them a lot.  They will now be almost 12 hours away, so I don't call that driveable.  I always imagined they would eventually come live closer to me and my brother (my sis is currently out of state for school) and they had hinted at that from time to time.  I am absolutely crushed by this news.  I just can't imagine not having them around once we have kids and it just breaks my heart.  I'm going to see them this weekend and I have been putting off really talking to them about it until I am there. So this on top of the rough TTC week has just been a recipe for a lot of tears lately.

mrsdaddario

My MBF is my OB's office. I was supposed
to get my CD 3 blood work done today. The lab paperwork said nonfasting. So I didn't. I go into the lab and they asked if I fasted. No, the paperwork said not too. They tried calling my OB's office but the line for other offices to call them wasn't answering. She called three times. Nothing. So I try calling and they immediately out my through to voicemail. The lab didn't want to do ANY of the blood work but I explained that this was a time sensitive issue. If I didn't get at least the rest of the labs done then I would most likely have to wait a few more months. (PCOS=irregular period). So the lady kindly obliged me and took three vials of blood but I was unable to do the glucose test. I left a vm with the OBGYN and I'm praying it's not going to push back my Hsg and US. And that I can do the glucose test at any point during my cycle and not specifically on CD 3. At the very least I'm happy I bullied them into giving me the blood work for the hormones and what not. Monday you cruel bitch. 

Lecool

I'm sorry about your friend @BerkeBaby. My friends have similar reactions. They are either 1) single, and not interested in babies whatsoever, or 2) already have kids & were able to get KU without trying, so they don't really think there's much to talk about. My friend was like "well, are you guys having sex?". Um, yes, we managed to figure that part out, thank you. So frustrating. Glad we have this community who gets it. 

My MBF: Third week in a row of a massive workload and working 12+ hour days. I have a meeting with my boss this week, and am wanting to bring up getting a raise, because frankly, I deserve it. 

Zoey1019

I feel ya @BerkeBaby  That is why I love it here too! I have a couple of friends that I can really confide in, but the rest I just keep in the dark because I know their responses. I finally talked to my maid of honor from my wedding (she lives in NYC and I live in FL now), and it was uneventful and sad  Not her fault, but just because she isn't trying to doesn't know the pressure that comes with it yet. When I told her I was getting AF in the next day or two she said...."you have some time to get a couple more shots in!" That made me cringe  lol Not how it works..

Sparty18

@BerkeBaby So sorry your friend was not showing any interest.  I have not yet talked about it with any of my friends either but I was considering bringing it up to my girlfriends when we went to get mani/pedis this weekend... until 2 of them announced they are pregnant (as you already saw from my rant yesterday).  Very thankful for all of you internet friends, but we all know it would be wonderful to have that same support from our real life friends.

picklesplease

Thanks, @Lecool, @Zoey1019, and @Sparty18! Just yet another reason why I absolutely love you all and appreciate being on TB. You ladies are awesome.

linzrunz

@Sparty18 I'm sorry!!  I live about 8 1/2 hours from my entire family and it'strough.  My mom was diagnosed with cancer a couple summers ago (she's in remission now and has a very small chance of it coming back) and I lost track of the amount of times my siblings would call to tell me our mom was in the hospital again.  I would literally pack a bag right then and drive all the way there.  It sucked.  I still manage to make it down there at least 4-5 times a year, but it's definitely not the same.  Twelve hours makes it rough.  Hang in there!

MonaLisaRalphio

Hi buddies!  Sorry to hear about all the crappy humans and crappy situations today.

My MBF is actually kind of funny now that it's been a few hours since it happened, but at the time I was a flustered hot mess.  A student asked me in front of 30 other kids, "when are you going to get pregnant?"  It's not like they know I'm trying or anything - I think they just assume since I got married this year that I'm going to have a baby soon.  My response was, "hmm, I'll have to check my calendar to see when that's scheduled to happen.  Because that's how that works."

meilay

@Sparty18  I'm sorry to hear that! It definitely sucks to imagine not having family close by. 
@BerkeBaby that sucks! I've gotten mixed reactions from friends. A couple are really understanding and helpful. A couple are more along the lines of well, if you bone it'll happen so what's the big deal? It can be an incredibly isolating experience. I've now determined that I have one friend who I can share those details with and everyone else just won't hear anything until it's time to announce. Even though I've been taking a step back for my own sanity, it's so helpful to have these boards when I feel too lonely in this process.

ChaoticWolf

I definitely know the feeling @BerkeBaby and @Lecool. I want to tell my sister soooo bad that we're TTC because then I could complain to her when our mom starts asking when we're going to get KU, but she's only 19 and probably wouldn't care about the "trying" part, just the actual "I'm KU" part. I'm keeping everyone in the dark because my mom would go into grandkid hyperdrive and be super nosy and disappointed when it wouldn't happen immediately. I just think it'll be even more special to completely surprise them when it does happen.

hupp0013

My MBF is that I am sick and one of my DD's is sick.  DH has been out of town since Friday (Thursday really since he has a night class,) and he won't be home until tomorrow after work.  I hope we both get better soon.

Sugargirl1019

@lcsrva I love your response! Kids say the darndest things sometimes.. what grade do you teach? But idk if seniors even know better. I hope you can brush the question off and continue laughing about it!

linzrunz

I have another MBF.  I just ran into an ex-best friend (we "broke up" about a year ago when she didn't agree with a major life decision I made even though she told me that she would always be there for me and support me.  Then spread rumors.) .  Apparently, she is working at my favorite café one day a week.  Today.  I just went in there to get a bagel and she looked appalled that she had to wait on me (the other waitress was busy).  Gave me the ticket with my total (instead of just telling me what it was - also pretty sure she charged me extra...whatever) and then set my change on the counter next to my hand.  I was polite and she was a total bitch who barely said two words to me.  I'm now back at work trying not to cry.  It's a really small town so running into her is something that is just going to happen.  But I hate that it happened at literally one of my favorite places in town.  And I hate that I'm not over it even a year later.

CoonMom

My mbf...the "man flu". DH is sick with a cold and won't stop complaining.  It's a cold. Get over it.
PS my fw is coming this weekend so you better be ready! 

picklesplease

@linzrunz - So sorry to hear about that.I had something similar happen a couple of years ago. I ran into one of my ex-best friends at a fundraiser for a mutual friend. She was totally rude, even though I was trying to be mature and friendly. It's rough. I'm sorry you have to deal with that. Creepy internet hugs.

linzrunz

Thanks @BerkeBaby Some days I have an easier time getting over it.  Other days...I'm a mess.  Today is a mess day, so I totally accept the creepy internet hugs. 

Dilynne

@linzrunz I feel like friend break ups are almost worse than relationship break ups.  Especially when you were friends for a long time. Sorry she sucks and works at your favourite place.

Neikoda

So I had surgery done in April to reattach my labrium in my shoulder and received a sling. Now, over 11 months later, I just received a call saying that I owe money for the sling I was given post surgery despite the facts that I was told it was covered by my insurance. Are you f@#*ing kidding me. I'm already an emotional mess this week and garbage like this is just pushing me over the edge. 

Sugargirl1019

@linzrunz I'm feeling evil today.. But your ex friend was really rude to you. I would make an anonymous complaint with the manager about how an employee was not friendly and the service was out of the ordinary for the exemplary service you normally receive, and oh, I believe she's not a good representative for your company. Why yes, I did catch her name.

... but I'm mean today.

MelissaM090

@BerkeBaby - I'm sorry, that sucks. I'm lucky to have a couple of friends that have been through the process, but I have more that don't, and I definitely find myself avoiding the topic with my single friends.

@sparty18 - I understand that being heartbreaking. It's one thing for kids to relocate away from their parents but I feel like parents are supposed to stay put. I traveled through all of my 20's, and eventually bought a house 2 minutes from my parents but I would have been super upset if they had relocated. 

@mrsdaddario - that's a bitch. I'd be frustrated too.

@linzrunz - that's rough, I'm sorry. I get the small town thing and how it seems like everyone you don't ever want to run into will cross your path at some point. Friend break-ups are tough.

My MBF is going to be the same all week because I'm dreading Saturday's Easter at DH's grandparents house. I complained about this before but this family (grandparents and mom) are super nice, but infuriatingly so, and occasions with them involve driving for two and a half hours, then me and DH, his surly younger brother, mother and stepfather crammed into his grandparents tiny house for 8 hours making annoying small talk. I can write the damn script for this before we even get there. When their interrogation of DH's surly younger brother gets no results and makes things awkward for everyone in the room, they'll turn to us and we'll get hammered with questions about what they think we need to do to fix up the house we only bought a year ago, why we're not pregnant yet, and what our plans for diet and exercise are, because clearly we're overweight and they're just 'wanting us to be healthy'. 

The more I think about it, the more I just want to curl up in a ball in the fetal position and whimper until it's over.

sammajane19

@Zoey1019 and @BerkeBaby  I know how both of you feel, when it comes to confiding in close friends about this process. i was telling one of my good friends that i've been referred to an RE and got the "if you just relax, you're body will sort itself out" line. and this woman is a NURSE! i was so surprised. i've gotten the "just relax" line a few times, and i'm finally started to understand what it means when people say that TTC can be really lonely. i've decided to stop talking about it, for the most part, unless they ask, because the answers i get never make me feel any better, and they don't really understand the process anyway.

My MBF is the Provera I'm on to induce my period. My boobs are SORE. Like, ouch. I'm not used to this because my boobs typically never hurt - not during O, not during or before AF, not ever. But yikes. I'm been discreetly trying to massage them in my cube at work lol.  Also, I keep getting sharp pangs in my lower right abdomen so what the hell is going on?! Ughhh.

mrsdaddario

@sammajane19 I did 5 days of Provera, got AF 4 days after last pill. My boobs never hurt but holy hell, crampy like an SOB. And my period is heavy. I cannot wait for it to end. I did the unthinkable and Dr Googled all kinds of Provera/Cramps and Provera/Heavy Periods. I'm ashamed lol. The pangs/cramps are normal. From what I understand your body is getting ready to release months build up in one AF. Thus all the extra pain. Or so Dr Google says. I'm heading to heating pad city on couch lane lol. 

sammajane19

@mrsdaddario  LOL heading pad city on couch lane...love it. this is my second round of Provera, the first time I took it, my boobs were fine, and the cramping didn't start until day 1 of AF, but holy hell, when they did, it was like the fires of hell had been unleashed.  it was the worst cramps i've had in YEARS, so i totally get where you're comin' from! it just feels like this time around i've got a lot more uncomfortable side effects! 

linzrunz

@Dilynne and @MelissaM090 They are!  And everyone usually gives me weird looks when I mention friend break ups.  "Just find new friends!"  If only it were that easy...

@Sugargirl1019 Bahaha!  That gif is perfect!!  I've actually already spoken to the owner.  It's a small mom and pop type café and the owner is basically like a second mom.  She knows what happened between us and had already cut her hours, coincidentally to where she only works when the owner is off.  I just assumed she didn't work there anymore because I hadn't seen her there in a while.  Most of the time I can brush it off, but today was just a hard one.  I honestly don't wish anything bad to happen to her (like losing her job there) but... there are times I wish something really annoying would happen to her.  Like she'd get an itch in the middle of her back that she just can never scratch or a persistent ringing in her ears every time she starts talking.  That seems much more satisfying.

Thanks for all the kind words, ladies. 

mrsdaddario

@sammajane19 Did AF last longer than normal on your first round?

ws9448

mbf - 1st day back to work after vacation. Its a 10 hr day on Mondays for me... 84 new emails and 3 stackes of papers to go through. And I feel like every other email I opened today had either a complaint from a coworker or something was wrong on one of my accounts.  Grrr

Me and DH hope that we hit the "window" last week so starting the TWW.  **fingers crossed**

(PS how do you do the little things at the end of messages, like a photo, or a ticker?)

AliciaGoose

My first MBF is that the rest of you guys have had some shitty Monday's, and that's just not cool!

@berkebaby I'm so sorry about your friend being disinterested! That's not cool. You want to be able to share those special moments with the people who mean something to you! 

@TotororyInLove Ugh, a Monday CD1. So sorry!

@mamamunn@linzrunz@RatsPJ So sorry to hear about the trouble with your DHs! They can be so frustrating. Men just don't get it most of the time.

@sparty18 Oh no! So sorry to hear that. I would be devastated if my mom moved that far away. Especially while TTC. You have plans for what your life will look like when you have children and it stinks to have those changed.

@nwegman7878 What?! That is crazy. Sounds like a case of medical billers going through old files and saying hm, what can we harrass people about to bring in more money?

@lecool Ugh, that sounds brutal! Hope the crazy day is over or will be soon.

@lcsrva Oh man! Kids really do have no filter. I had a student ask me today if I would still be teaching in 8 years because that's when his youngest brother would get to the high school. I was like well I imagine so considering I'm pretty darn far from retiring. He was like well what about if you have kids? I was like well I'll probably still come back to work, I love my job! But I was thinking man kid, that's a pretty personal topic!

@mrsdaddario Good job bullying them into it! This is important stuff to be messing with.

@hupp0013@dogmomwantinghuman Sorry about the sickly family members! Hope they feel better soon. 

@MelissaM090 Ugh! That sounds brutal. Holidays can be the worst when it comes to prying family members. 

@sammajane19 Ugh! That sounds brutal. Hope it feels better soon.

@ws9448 First days back are always so terrible! Sorry, can't help you with the siggy cause I haven't done it yet myself. 

My actual MBF goes to myself. I've had two solid weeks of bad eating. In reality, I've had four months of it on and off since my wedding. Prior to my wedding I lost 50 pounds and was doing so well, and felt so motivated. DH lost 35 pounds and had been going to the gym. Now I'm up 8 pounds from my wedding weight and falling off the bandwagon fast. DH is still down 35, and he doesn't have any more to lose, so he's constantly suggesting bad food options that I cave on, because in reality, I want the bad food too! I just can't afford to eat it like he can. We went out for Mexican tonight even though I had a bunch of awesome healthy meals planned for at home this week to finally get back on track. Get it together self!

mrsdaddario

@aliciabhen Oh man I feel like I'm reading something I wrote! When did you get married? DH and I got married in September. I lost 26lbs (I always round up and tell everyone 30 LOL). Well I went batshit crazy on our honeymoon and gained 7lbs....over the course of the last 6 months I've gained 13lbs of the 26 back. I JUST pulled myself together and am forcing myself to workout (30 minutes of walking on Wii fit 4 days a week + started using my Fitbit again). And I'm so good during the week, it's on the weekends that I just feel the need to eat all the food! It was so easy to stick to it when I had the wedding as motivation! I did NOT want to look fat in my wedding pictures. Now I don't have that so it's harder! Though getting diagnosed with PCOS has also been a motivator to get back down to my prewedding weight! I just love food though lol. 

AliciaGoose

@mrsdaddario Right?! I lost exactly 50, not an ounce more haha. But food is just so good! I had the same motivation pre-wedding. I wanted to look good in my dress and the pictures I would see for the rest of my life. Now that the wedding is over my mom keeps telling me it should be TTC that motivates me because I want to have a healthy pregnancy, but for some reason it doesn't seem as tangible. I guess because it doesn't have a date on it like the wedding did. I am usually good during the week, but the past two weeks have been so off track that hasn't even happened which is why I have been gaining like crazy instead of maintaining. Also I don't know if you do the Fitness check ins but a bunch of us have fitbits and actually started doing weekly step challenges together last week! It's been fun. Also you made me miss wii fit. I haven't done that in so long!

MonaLisaRalphio

@aliciabhen @mrsdaddario I am so with you guys on the post-wedding weight gain.  I didn't lose a lot of weight for my wedding, but I did put on a ton of muscle, and I was rock solid at my wedding.  Since then, I gained almost 10 pounds. Funny enough, I lost 6 pounds when I got sick last week, and I can't seem to get my appetite back, so I've lost another 3 pounds - putting me right back at my wedding weight.  But I've already accepted that I'm going to gain weight, like, the moment we land in Florence on Thursday.  Literally my first plans involve gelato.  Not sorry.

When we get back, I'm going to pick up the new FitBit (Alta I think).  Some people had mentioned doing a FitBit challenge a few days back.  We should start a FitBit challenge in April!  I'll be late to the party, because we won't be back until the 2nd, but if yall start one, I'll get on board the following week!

linzrunz

@lcsrva I'd like to get in on the step challenge, if that's ok, but I have a Garmin.

AliciaGoose

@lcsrva Gelato is worth the weight gain! Enjoy your trip. We've been doing weekday challenges and then weekend challenges so you can totally jump in when you get back. Just PM me or go to the fitness check in when you're ready and I'll add you!

Edit: spelling and a new sentence.