April 2016 Moms
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TP Thursday
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Nobody started this yet either?? Where is everyone today?
It's a boy! Grow baby, grow! EDD: 4/22/2016
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It's a boy! Grow baby, grow! EDD: 4/22/2016
So tired! At this point I was on bed rest with DS, so NBD. This time ... so hard!
That's what they say after their wives pushed out a child, the size of a bowling ball?! I blasted at the 40 yr old single guy and he changed the subject.
My appt this past Monday was supposed to be with my Dr, who I haven't seen since I was 9 weeks. Well she was gone performing a delivery so I had to see one of the male doctors. Not a huge deal, but my cervical checks start next week and I'm not comfortable seeing a male OB. I've always chosen female gyns for this reason, and now there is a big possibility I will have to be checked by a male dr, who I don't know and he will basically be a stranger who is checking me down there. I was under the assumption when I chose this place that I would be seen by my dr (who Ive been seeing as my gyn). Its just been a big disapppintment that I havent seen her after my confirmation appt. I chose her because she is an awesome gyn. But I have no idea how she is as an OB, because Ive mostly been seen by an NP this whole pregnancy.
Do not suddenly tell a pregnant woman that you're done having kids when you already agreed to at least three children. As of right now, I can't see our family being complete with the four of us. Yes, I may feel differently once LO is here and we've had time to adjust to from being a family of three to a family of four. I don't want to come to a permanent decision about our family size until we are both positive about our family feeling complete... Which is why I plan on going on a long term and very effective birth control option. I get the fact that you can't see us having another kid with our financial situation right now. I wouldn't want to try and support three kids with what we make right now either, but I'm positive we won't be in this situation in 3-5 years when we decide to have our last child. I promise.
I'm also in desperate need of sex. I told DH this in the middle of the day. He tells me no problem and makes references to blow jobs most of the evening when we get home. Everything is great until about 9:30 PM... Right after he finishes telling me that he's been thinking about getting a vasectomy. When he all of a sudden loses any and all patience with trying to put DS to bed. DS is beyond attached to DH. It seriously breaks my heart that I'm chopped liver compares to DH or my MIL in that kids eyes. I gave birth to you, child. I suffered two losses before you, carried you for nine months, labored for 33 hours, pumped tirelessly for nine straight months... And you treat me like garbage... So DS doesn't end up going to bed until around midnight because DH loses his shit about 10 minutes before each time DS would have likely passed out. I'm waiting for DH to come back out into the living room after his third attempt to put DS in bed and all of a sudden all I hear is snoring... From both of them. So I crawled into bed and cried.
I feel like I'm huge and disgusting looking naked at this stage. At least sex makes me feel like I'm not and that I'm still desirable and sexy. We haven't had sex in over a week. I feel unwanted. I need that validation on top of the stress release, but DH keeps either not being in the mood or he kills the mood with his actions... Then proceeds to blame me for killing his mood. I'm sorry, but YOU ARE THE ONE WHO PISSED ME OFF. NOT VICE VERCA.
Yes this. You certainly can refuse the checks; however, one reason I wouldn't though is if you are high risk, they can evaluate your Bishop Score to determine how favorable your cervix is should an induction be considered.
Other than that, being dilated and effaced means absolutely jack when it comes to how close you are to delivery.
@knottie9983816 did they end up bringing it?
@fbanke42 Big creepy internet hugs! At least today is more than likely going to be much better for you.
Oh and to top it off he just interviewed for another job. It's a good job but the only down side of him getting it is time off after birth but I can accept that since it's a way better job.
TP to all the people in public that stare/gawk/glare at my belly lately.
Like, wtf, why???
I don't care if it's Friday, I need to complain about my sweet, wonderful MIL. PLEASE SHUT THE F UP!!!!!!!!!! We live with them rent free, and I am so grateful, I can't even tell you. But for goodness sake, leave me alone! She is good at staying away when I am in my bedroom with the door shut, but my room has no A/C and we live in Tucson. As soon as the door is open she wants to come in and talk to me. Any time I try to go to the bathroom she tries to visit with me. Any time I try to get food or water she is there to talk with me. Please just go away, I am begging you! I am miserable and in more pain than you can imagine (her pregnancy was the happiest time of her life, no challenges whatsoever) and I have nothing nice to say to you. Some days I skip meals and get dehydrated when DH is at work because I just can't take it. We've asked her to stop, but she "forgets" quite frequently. I am always hot, and I swear having the door shut is going to kill me, but as she reminds me, it is her house, and I am living there rent-free.
DH was an absolutely perfect baby (sleeping 8 hours at night within 8 weeks, never crying-only fussing, never wetting a diaper at night) and being a mother came as naturally to my MIL as breathing to hear her tell it. I just know she is going to be perplexed when things don't work out that way for me an LO-and be VERY eager to "help." Heaven help us, I am in a pretty murderous mood.
M seriously though, I also suffer from overly-nice MIL. The worst part is that you can't even complain to your friends like, "This bitch made 8 dozen tamales AND cleaned the whole house!" It's definitely not right for her to invade your space when you've asked for privacy, even if it is her house. Maybe the next time you need to open the door, strip naked and lay on your bed. Scare her into compliance.
We had a really great first month of pregnancy between "surprise you CAN get pregnant! Here's a baby!" And "Oh random bleeding, bedrest for you for the next month. (And pelvic rest too)" Then we only told my immediate and his immediate family at first, and we told our roommate saying we'll probably move out by November, because it isn't fair to you for us to have a baby here. He countered about a week later saying he was moving out in two weeks and we needed to figure something else out. So I got to pack up an entire house within that time, while I was supposed to be on bedrest, and dealing with his constant barrage of verbal attacking and hatefulness towards me.
I couldn't deal with having an overly nice MIL I don't think... I don't trust people who excessively go out of their way to spend time with me anyway