I have twin boys who will be 9months old next week. They were decent sleepers and then around 5-6 months became awful. They wake up multiple times a night, not hungry, just wanting to be held, and don't take great naps during the day.
I am currently seperated from my husband, we had to move out when the boys were 2 1/2 weeks old because it became an unhealthy and unsafe enviornment. I am really lucky to have a great, supportive family and am living with my parents. My mom gives me A LOT of help but it is still hard, and we don't agree on some things about how to raise the babies. Since I'm not in my own home, I feel awkward sometimes and it's hard to push for things to be exactly the way I want them or imagined they would be, especially since I am a ftm.
One of the things my mom and I don't see eye to eye on is sleep training. I am exhausted and I know my mom is too, since if they both wake up I have to call her in to help, but I am (of course) up more than she is (which I should be because they are my babies). I can't take it anymore, it is hard to function and I am back at work 2 days a week for 10 hrs plus an 1hr and 1/2 commute each way. Some nights I am getting an hour or two of straight sleep and that is it. My family isn't big on consistency--it's kind of a "we do the best we can do" situation, which doesn't work for sleep training. I would like to do the graduated training, going in to soothe at intervals, but you need two people and I don't always have the help. CIO isn't the first choice, because who likes to hear your babies cry but it's not healthy for any of us when we aren't sleeping.
Any advice would be awesome. Or any insight from anyone who has been in a similar situation would be really valuable.
Sorry for the long post, I'm just feeling at a loss between not sleeping, living with my parents and my marriage ending. Thanks for listening!!