Sometimes it's irrational

SBH041815

but things can really annoy me in the first months after I have a baby; even when I know it's completely irrational and I wouldn't be annoyed by it if I wasn't so sleep deprived and didn't just have my baby 8 weeks ago (hormonal). 
However even if I know I'm being irrational, I still want to let it out and not to DH because he wouldn't understand. 
Things I'm currently irrationally annoyed about:

People (especially family) saying how much the baby looks like my DH. Just pisses me off right now...no idea why other than I had to be pregnant with this child, go through labor pain, and now take care of her day and night while DH is at work or sleeping all night (because I'm EBF). I could at least have the privilege of her resembling me! See- very irrational!

Or how  about being irrationally annoyed that DH gets a break from baby to go to a different job, gets out of the house, etc. and every time he wants to do something extra away from the baby I pretty much want to yell at him. 

So what are you irrationally annoyed about at the moment?

Achae

I'm also in the body of being annoyed at husband for getting to leave the house and have a break from the baby. It's like his social life hasn't changed at all. I know a lot of it is work and school commitments but it doesn't make me wish I could just leave the house with no kids in tow!

KFrob

I get irrationally mad about the husbands hobbies. He'll ask if he can do something before he does it, and I always get mad, hold it in, and say yes. But my irrationality is not about feeling trapped w the baby all day it's because I miss him and feel like I've barely seen, talked, or touched him in 8 weeks. It makes me feel like he doesn't want to spend time together. 

claireloSC

When people hold my baby and she fusses and they say "oh I don't have the goods...mama does". She's not trying to feed on you, just be quiet. More than likely I just fed her and she has gas. 

SBH041815

@claireloSC this^ 
I get that a lot and it's totally annoying!

UptownPearl

I'm the same way about DH's hobbies. I'm not jealous of him, I just want him to be home unless he can't be and if he wants to do anything that doesn't include me it hurts my feelings. I know it's silly. 

I hate when anyone thinks they know what my baby wants. Trust me, I have spent 24/7 with this baby since before he was born, I know him better than you and I know his needs. 

I get irritated when people ask when I'm going back to work or if I've enjoyed my "time off." It technically is time off of work and I am enjoying it, but it just makes me feel like they think maternity leave is vacation. It's absolutely not. 

jodiedrich18

My husband and i currently live with my parents as we are saving for a house and DH to finish school. I have great support but they all make me irrationally irritated about the help they offer because there's one area that makes me both angry and worried. Im blessed to have 3 volunteers for help on all things EXCEPT feeding...no one steps up to attempt to ask helping DD work with a bottle or try things out. Ive been EBF but i go back to work in 2 weeks. My LO took a couple bottles from me after 4 weeks, but has suddenly stopped for me. I'm so worried about what will happen when she has to start daycare soon if she can't get comfortable with eating another way. I just want to scream when my mom offers to rock LO or wants to cuddle with her. If you want to help, please try a bottle....you breastfed me a year and worked full time! Irrational feelings : (

krrpe99

I get irrationally irritated at my husband, not because he gets to go to work or the store when we need something, but that he does something else in the house when I have LO. I just want him to be with me (us,) and he would rather be doing something else. Definitely a little irrational. 

l4rk

My SO and I got into a spat a couple nights ago because he also hadn't given up any extracurricular activities and often volunteers to stay late at work. He kept arguing he wasn't doing that much. I eventually said, "Whether you actually are or aren't, it still feels like you are constantly away and I'm overwhelmed. I need you here more." I didn't think he even "heard" me but the next day, he cut down on one of his sports and has been much more compromising in his plans. It's important he has a bit of a life but not one that results in my mental breakdown.

alisongem

I'm irritated with people who beg to hold the baby (or even worse, demand to hold her) and then don't even pay attention to her. Like they're using her to get attention. "Look at me I'm holding the baby" 
I also can't stand when hubby is gone. Or has friends over. Or when I have friends over... I'm just super sick of people! Hahhah. 
And I'm DREADING going back to work. It'll be nice to get paid again but that's it. I'm going to miss her so much and I have this irrational fear that 1. We won't have as tight of a bond and 2. That my supply will drop. Ugh. 

mommachanner

I get irritated when people hold the baby and literally the second he starts whimpering/fussing/crying they hand him right back to me. Babies make all kinds of noises and cry. Relax. It's ok. You can still hold him! 

hannahduff3

I hate when every time the baby makes a noise they're like "do you think he's hungry?" Like no or else I'd be feeding him. 

My SO's moms baby voice drives me up a wall. I have the pleasure of hearing that tomorrow. 

Many things irritate me but i don't wanna write a book. 

anightintunisia

I get irritated when my DH is on the phone/video games and I seriously struggle with doing things (two dogs and two cats) and he is in his own world. Like don't you see I'm dying over here?!

Becky012016

I hate when people other than DH refer to my baby as "my baby." As in, "Ooh can I hold my baby?!" You didn't carry him around for 9 months or go through labor so no, you don't get to call him yours. 

I also wish wish people would stop giving me their opinions on how I choose to diaper my baby. We cloth diaper and it's a great fit for us.  I usually just ignore the comments but if MIL is around she always defends my choice to use cloth. She's awesome in that regard. 

mrsgetz4000

I hate how people always have to be all in someone else's business. Oh you're using cloth diapers? Formula fed? Breasg fed? Co sleeping? As long as baby is happy and healthy it isn't your business. And even then i could argue that it's not. I know people mean well, but as mothers we already question everything we do. So shut up. 

mrsnc

012016 said:

I hate when people other than DH refer to my baby as "my baby." As in, "Ooh can I hold my baby?!" You didn't carry him around for 9 months or go through labor so no, you don't get to call him yours

This!! So much this!! My SIL does this all the time! I appreciate that she cares for my baby and she will be watching DD when I go back to work in 3 weeks, which I am sooo grateful for, but don't call her "my baby!" DH sent all his siblings DD's 1 month photo and she made it her Facebook picture before we even mad a chance to post anything ourselves. It's definitely one of those irrational things because I really am so happy that she loves her but it gets under my skin. 

MamaGooGoo

I get so annoyed when someone is holding the baby and he's crying or fussing and they don't do anything about it. Like, change his position, walk around, try to burp him. HELLO, he doesn't like what you're doing!! I also get annoyed when the husband gets the same amount of sleep as he always has (I'm breastfeeding), yet he complains about "how tired he is." I banned him from saying that in front of me! I also hate it when he does things to help with our 2 year old daughter and then acts like he's exhausted and did me this huge favor. Hey dummy, you're not doing me a favor here, it's called being a dad! Yeah I said that to him before and it didn't go over well.

SBH041815

@MamaGooGoo I know exactly what you mean about your husband saying he's tired even though he sleeps all night. It is the same with us. I'm up all night breastfeeding and he sleeps every night but is constantly saying how tired he is. I'm just like..really???

Oh and have you ever heard men say they are "babysitting" their own children? That kills me! You can't babysit your own child; you can be their parent however!

ondabianca

I don't even think its irrational but I hate when I hold, rock, or otherwise tend to my baby in the presence of others and am told that I am "spoiling him."

sunnydlight

When someone tries to tell me how to comfort my baby. I've had her for 6 weeks. I think I know what she likes and doesn't by now. And what's with old people (over 60) always slinging the baby over their shoulder the moment they get fussy? Mine wants to see the world and be held sitting up facing forward.
If one more person refers to my daughters bottom as biscuits they're getting smacked. Same if they call her toes piggies. It just really irratates me for some reason. Why do we need to give body parts pet names after food and animals anyways? Gaah!

Rach8672

I'm annoyed with my friends who are either single and claim they don't want kids or who are married and too self consumed to want kids . They come over and claim they are soo excited to see the baby but like PP said they just want to feel cool like oh I'm holding a baby but not paying attention. And then they make snooty comments like " don't spit up on me ",  " ugh why. Are you kicking me " " she  looks so grumpy , she doesn't like me ! I'm allergic to kids ". I don't know who she looks like , all baby's look the same " ....or they feel so special when they get a smile from her (is like no... She's looking at something shiney behind you!)  And that's why you are single and lonely! It's not like you don't want kids it's that no one will make then with you .. End of rant.  Needless to say , I'll be trimming my friend group down because who has time for that!       Sorry that was harsh

maureenmce

I'm irrationally annoyed with myself lately, for feeling like I have to be perfect.  Like I've been internally berating myself for not dealing with the exhaustion better, not going outside with the baby by myself, not being more productive while she sleeps, being annoyed that I've only lost 10 pounds in almost four weeks since she was born.  Everything!  And I know it's irrational to hold myself to a standard of perfection, so then I get mad at myself...for being mad at myself that I'm not perfect.  It's like an endless cycle of self criticism!

BarrettJ89

I could write a book in here! 

I get irrationally upset with my FIL. Every single time he sees me, he asks me if I'm pregnant again (he did this when I was 2 weeks pp). So today, knowing he was coming over, I put on my loosest hoodie and asked SO if it hid my belly. He got super upset with me! He said his dad doesn't mean it as to say I'm fat. Seriously? How else am I supposed to take it? We're done having babies! And we've told him that a thousand times, yet he still asks. This man also talks nasty about everyone's appearance behind their backs. So yes, you're damn right I take it as if he's calling me fat. It is NEVER ok to ask a woman if she is pregnant. It is incredibly disrespectful, but SO doesn't think so. 

So, I'm irrationally upset with both SO and FIL.

alisongem

@Rach8672 YES one of my friends had literally said all of that (except the smile part bc LO won't smile at her lol... AND on the same day kept talking about how she wants a baby and it seems easy... She completely contradicts herself but either way it pisses me off. I just hope she doesn't get any ideas because she would be a horrible parent. All she wants to do is smoke and party and be at different guys' houses all the time. And she justifies everything she does in order to not have to give bad stuff up. When she says she wants a baby I so badly want to be like NO YOU DONT. But I never say that bc I feel like id be betraying my own if I did. (Is that irrational? Lol)

Rach8672

Loll , parenting is not for everyone ! Some people are far too selfish 

anightintunisia

I get annoyed with my self lately because I feel like I am not doing enough. I want her to CONSTANTLY be smiles and giggles (6 weeks) and I know it isn't possible because she is a newborn but I can't help but feel guilty when she cries! 

Becky012016

Anytime I put LO down for sleep at night and go to my own bedroom, I have to go back to his room and check on him even though I just put him down, he's asleep, and I have an audio monitor on. I just get worried that he's too quiet so I have to check on him lol

ssavoie10

omg!  this. all. the. time.  I hate that I get overwhelmed...and have to ask SO for help. it makes me feel like a failure...even tho it takes two. I get irritated with my older son...and it's completely unfair bc he's just being a normal 4.5 year old...aaaahhhh such a mind fuck!

jtk4life

There have been several times when I'm talking to my FIL on the phone and the baby is fussy/crying.  The FIL always asks "What are you doing to my grandbaby?  Did you pinch him?"  As if I intentionally caused my son to cry.  Ok, I know he's trying to be funny but it's annoying.  (BTW, I'm not sure all of these things we're listing are irrational - most seem like pretty darn rational irritations to me!) 

BarrettJ89

New one... I get irrationally upset when my mother calls the baby "her little sweet pea." When I call my daughter by her nick name (as in the one we call her by) my mom literally says "don't call her that, she's my little sweet pea." Drives me bonkers! 

Also, when anyone sees my baby when she's not having a colic episode and they tell me how there's no possible way it could be her I'm talking about... no really, this adorable little sleeping bundle turns into a screaming banshee at the drop of a pin, I promise. Come by at 2 am and you'll see. 

l4rk

I can't stand when baby girl is fussy and people say she is hungry and suggest I feed her. As if the only reason she is ever cranky is hunger, and I'm going to starve her unless they point it out. No. I just fed her. She's just being a baby. My breasts need a break. Shut up.