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July 2016 Moms
Dravenel
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Baby shower
Dravenel
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Is there anyone in the New York City area have any suggestions as to where is a good place to host an inexpensive baby shower? Any suggestions will help. Its just my first baby and this venue thing is straining my relationship.
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Re: Baby shower
We have good friends that live in Manhattan. I didn't know you could use the word inexpensive and NYC in the same sentence.
Heads up... That won't go over well on TB.
Needn't get all stressed out about a baby shower, it's supposed to be fun!
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My best friend from college is hosting mine but she doesn't live in the area so she's letting me have the final say in regards to venue. But she's totally in charge and I trust her party planning skills
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She would show me a few options here and there, or ask my opinion . Such as 'pugs, do you like these invitations or these' or 'I was thinking about chicken tenders for the littles. Do you think they will like them'.
It was fun and calm. I requested no silly games because I hate those. Which was fine, my family does too.
Plus, i've been around here for a minute or two and have seen how this goes down. You should head over to the baby shower board if you would like to see firsthand
OP, I would also suggest checking out the local board here and on The Knot for bridal showers. If you were asked to give input but also know their budget, then give ideas. If you don't know the host's budget, I would let them figure it out. The only thing I talked about with my sister is theme (she came up with ideas and I said, "oh yea that sounds great!") and they've asked me for a guest list.
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I mean he really is one to be honest.
She calls me by a million nick names. Every one does actually.
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DS#1 July 2016
Baby #2 July 2018
If I were you, I would save the money you'd be spending on the baby shower and put it towards the baby items you'll need. There's a good chance you'll break even or possibly spend more on the shower than if you had bought the gifts yourself. Good luck to you.
DD #2: EDD July 2016
@dravenel I wasn't offended by your comment. I said it rubbed me the wrong way. That was a nice way of saying I thought it was really shitty and ridiculous to state that because you follow old school etiquette they're not forward thinking. This is how I was brought up, and I really don't give a shit if you throw your own shower. My best friend never got a shower for her baby or wedding, and she's still married and still has a fabulous son. The sense of entitlement to say "LOOK AT ME COME SHOWER ME WITH GIFTS" and throw your shower, in my eyes, is tacky.
Now, said best friend did have a BBQ following the birth of her son, and some people brought gifts. The gifts weren't necessary, (it is custom and suggested to bring gifts to a "shower" because the name literally implies you are supposed to shower a person with gifts fit for the occasion) but they were of course well received and thanked accordingly. I, personally, believe if no one is able to host a shower for the mom-to-be, the parents can definitely have a celebratory get together (because, cake), where gifts just wouldn't be something assumed.
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Next time just tell everyone what you want to hear so they can avoid your posts. etiquette is etiquette that doesn't make it " old school". just because you don't want to follow etiquette doesn't make you forward thinking. You either care about etiquette or you don't enough said.
You original post is so incredibly vague and broad that it is very difficult to even answer as New York is pretty big and inexpensive means very different things to different people.
furthermore you want respect and support from people here try giving it on this board first since you rarely post. try supporting some moms who have real issues first before demanding certain respects and support here even when you were given honest and appropriate answers. So if anyone needs to take a seat it is you.
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DS#1 July 2016
Baby #2 July 2018
After spending 5+ years on TB, I have noticed there are a two main types of Mothers-To-Be when it comes to showers. There are the ones that feel they DESERVE a shower, will host one themselves if nobody steps up, they want to tell people only to shop on the registry, and they get pissy after the shower because "nobody shopped off my registry, so now I have to go and buy all of these things the baby needs, that I don't have money for!" Then there are the ones that know that they will have a lot to buy, see what they get at their shower, are thankful for the items that gift-givers gave them, and then continue buying those items that they will need...without any ill comments about the fact that they still may have a lot of the items to purchase. Float around on the baby shower boards, and you will see them pop out. @LF93 although showers are not something that is the norm where you are, it is for many of us. And in those two main types of Mothers-To-Be that I described....I would say that a huge majority of us are the ones that just want people to come and celebrate with us. If they buy something off the registry, awesome. If they don't, thats cool too. Nobody is dragging the guest by the ear to the shower (they can decline if they want), and they all know that their child and all of the baby gadgets, in the end, are their responsibility to purchase if they aren't gifted to them. There are many people (myself included) that love buying gifts for other people's babies, because we don't always get to buy cute little items like that. But....there are some that are really into the baby shower for the gifts, and they are not treated well on the baby shower boards. They are gift-grabby, greedy, expect everyone to stick to their list and buy everything that they want on it...even if they ask for items WAY outside of friends/family members price ranges. Then they float around on the boards, pissing and moaning that now they "have all of this stuff I have to buy!" or upset that everyone bought them cute little clothes instead of "buying the carseat...something that we NEED!" It doesn't go over well.
So although it isn't the norm in your area, not everyone is acting entitled to receiving gifts that they have registered for and such. My DD's favorite gift that someone gave us, is a fleece blanket that my former boss made, that she still has 4 years later. Wasn't on my registry, but boy does that thing get used...and my former boss loves that her gift is so well loved by DD.