Gender Reveal Party, Your thoughts?

mstanfi

What are your thoughts...

Love or Hate the idea? 

Do you plan on having one? 

Is it just an excuse to have a party? lol 

krzyriver

I personally hate parties that are just for the purpose of revealing the sex. I feel that it's an excuse to party and get presents, etc etc. I wouldn't even go if it was for family, I think they're that ridiculous. No offense to anyone, that's just my personal opinion. To each their own. 

Hubby and I plan to find out the sex but keep it to ourselves. If we have a shower, I may announce it then. Otherwise I'll just announce when the baby is born. 

katiegeminimoon

Love or Hate the idea? I love them. Any reason to get people together is a good enough reason for me!

Do you plan on having one? Yes. Not inviting everyone we know, just immediate families and a few close friends.

Is it just an excuse to have a party? Yes? I love any reason to party. I do not believe this is a gift giving event, just a fun little get together.

gherkins

I think they are cute if they are your shower. 
But I have a friend who had one and her little boy ended up being a girl. You never know 100%. They got tons of boy stuff after that and had to buy all girl stuff themselves. 

PeggyOlsonFTW

If they're done separately from the shower, I think they're really AWish and unnecessary. I didn't have one with DS and if we find out the sex of this baby, we won't have one for him or her either. 

mstanfi

gherkins said:

I think they are cute if they are your shower. 
But I have a friend who had one and her little boy ended up being a girl. You never know 100%. They got tons of boy stuff after that and had to buy all girl stuff themselves. 

Oh Em Gee, lol! 
I know someone who that has happened to as well, I couldn't imagine. Just when you think you're prepared, you're not! 

Tara0604

I hate them. However, i'm not against announcing it at the baby shower. I just think a separate party is kind of silly. If you want to party, just party. Why is a reason needed? (My opinion, but i'm also a big "Team Green" supporter)

br0co1ii

I don't HATE them, I just feel they're kind of tacky. I can understand revealing at the shower or something, but a whole party dedicated to a baby's genitalia seems weird to me. 

I don't necessarily want this thread to go in a whole negative direction, but considering how some of the other discussions on the gender/sex have gone so far, I see a large debate coming up on this one. I personally don't want to pigeonhole my child into wearing "gender specific" clothing and such. If I could, I'd wait to reveal the sex to the general public until absolutely necessary. Like entering school or something. Gender reveal parties tend to make it "okay" for people to shower the child with all blue stuff and trucks, or all pink and princess. That's fine and all for those who are comfortable with that, just not my style.

That being said... If anyone LOVES these parties, no judgement from me! You do you! 

mstanfi

ktcakes87 said:

Love or Hate the idea? I love them. Any reason to get people together is a good enough reason for me!

Do you plan on having one? Yes. Not inviting everyone we know, just immediate families and a few close friends.

Is it just an excuse to have a party? Yes? I love any reason to party. I do not believe this is a gift giving event, just a fun little get together.

I'm considering having one. My family really wants to host a party , if I do agree, I think I will have it on a smaller scale as you stated with just immediate family and close friends. 

missteacherlady16

Love or Hate the idea? Hate it. You have no way of knowing with which gender your baby will identify. That takes a few years. A party to reveal the sex seems trivial. I mean, it's a 50/50 shot at either boy or girl, ya know? Not that much of a surprise. 

Do you plan on having one? Definitely not. I think I just vomited a little in my mouth thinking about me throwing one of these. 

Is it just an excuse to have a party? Yes. And a tacky excuse for attention and presents. 

Sorry - I have a strong opinion about this.

gatorMom2014

The weird thing is that I thought it was a little tacky when I was pregnant with my son, but now I'm more neutral on the idea.  Part of why I can't see doing it is because you're going to be in the room while they do the ultrasound, and they just skip over that part.  I like hearing them tell me everything.  I guess it's sort of the same way I feel about not finding out at all--it would feel weird to me to have the doctors know way before me.
I've actually never been to one, but I think the videos are cute on FB.

KLBell17

I don't have strong feelings one way or another. But my DH and I would never have one. One reason being, why would I want to find out at the same time as everyone else? I think this is a special thing that we should get to hear before anyone else. 

bornmommy

Love them. 

kmalls

Tacky. For me there's no way around it. If you host a party specifically to reveal the sex, I will side-eye it. I can't even pretend to be all "you do you!" I feel like it's a total play for attention. If you want to make a cute announcement on Facebook, that's totally fine. But host a party with friends and family and make it a big thing? Eesh. 

LGW2015

I don't see a problem with it, but we won't be having one. My cousin had one and it was cute and fun for the family. As others said, I don't think it's a gift-giving event. Either way, it's really trendy right now obviously, and I don't really like to follow "trendy" things just because they're trendy. I do like the idea of revealing at the shower although I think we're going to tell people beforehand.

artcheese

They seem cute. Never been to one though and doubt we will have one ourselves.

iceandsnowflakes29

I think they are AWish. A cute photo reveal on fb doesn't bother me. However, I hate parties and showers in general. I'm glad this my 3rd and we don't have a shower to worry about. 

MRSCORKER

I don't have a strong opinion either way. I think if we do a reveal it will either be at the shower or at a small family dinner with just our parents/siblings. 

CopperBoom86

Love or Hate the idea? Love.

Do you plan on having one? I do, but only for close friends and family, NO GIFTS ALLOWED, and I'll be feeding everyone. This is my first and maybe only (DH and I agreed to decide after #1) and I'd really like to have every experience I can.

Is it just an excuse to have a party? I'm a baker, so it's more like an excuse to make an awesome reveal cake! 

_darth

Nope. I dislike baby-themed parties to begin with (showers are not culturally relevant to me). A gathering for a sex reveal is just not my thing. 

housewifehobbyist

I don't like much attention, so I kind of cringe at the idea of having a sex reveal party (because semantics are important).  I do think we'll do a little cute something to tell our parents, but that's about it.

vanessa11411

I've seen them online, but I've never been to one. Not my style. So that would be a no for me.

OrangeEv

We aren't finding out the sex until birth, but I would not have one. They are a trend that I sort of hope dies off soon....along with chalkboards that tell us your baby is the size of a banana...

freckledlemonade

I think if anything, a reveal with just you and your SO could be fun.  But honestly, no one cares what you're having as much as you do.  That's harsh, but true.  I've been to these, and while free cake and seeing friends and family is awesome, it wasn't really earth shattering to hear whether it was a boy or girl.  It was more exciting for me when I found out with my own baby.  In the privacy of our ultrasound room.

_darth

I do intend to throw a LAN party though. It will be a goodbye to the care-free days, and a much better reason to party.  

SuperKristy85

I love them! I plan on having one but I've never seen one done as another baby shower type of event with gifts. I don't want gifts I just want my family and closest friends there when we all find out! 

iceandsnowflakes29

@DarthFuriosa what is a LAN party? 

iceandsnowflakes29

No clue why there is a quote block! ^^

_darth

iceandsnowflakes29 said:

@DarthFuriosa what is a LAN party? 

It's a party where multiplayer games are played over a local area network.

EJChapman123

Parties dedicated to revealing the sex of the baby is not my style. It seems to be a pretty silly thing to have a party for - but if you and your family and whatnot are into it, its not like its hurting me

Hillzy30

We'll do something fun for our parents, but I wouldn't throw a whole party. And while I've never been to a gender reveal party, if I were ever invited to one I wouldn't bring a gift since I don't consider it a gift giving event. 

gatorMom2014

I just remembered seeing this a while back--Miss Manners does not approve of gender reveal parties LOL:  https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/style/miss-manners-announcement-of-babys-gender-is-not-an-occasion-for-party/2014/02/05/e87803e2-7eeb-11e3-9556-4a4bf7bcbd84_story.html

"Not everyone is as excited as you are about every detail of your child’s life, let alone the pre-life. It is best to know this now, before you start going on social media announcing baby’s first spit-up or throwing parties for when he or she sleeps through the night."

SuperNerd42

I'm indifferent to them at best. I don't like being the center of attention as it is, so I will definitely skip based just on that. I'm really glad that I don't have to worry about a shower this round either! However I will probably Facebook post some kind of cute picture of a colored cupcake because then I get to make and eat cupcakes.

annabenanna

Not for me.  I think I'd like a gender reveal party for 2 (just me and SO).  

von1976

It's not my bag, baby. But I don't think I'd judge anyone that had one too harshly, as long as it wasn't an obvious gift grab.

kamroberts

I love them! I am planning on having a "Bows or Arrows" themed gender reveal. My husband loves archery so we are going to have our best friend fill a balloon with pink or blue paint and then my husband will shoot an arrow through the balloon! I think gender reveal parties are super fun! To each their own though. (: 

JamieK1882

We're team green so none here. I think they're ok for family, but prob wouldn't do one for a whole bunch of friends.

JamieK1882

On a side note though, I fully intend on doing a "sip and see" get together when baby #2 arrives. With our first we had 3 weeks of daily visitors and I was exhausted. This time (aside from immediate family like grandparents), the first weekend were home I'll invite everyone over and order some pizza. Bam-done in one shot.

cbamama641

I would totally do something along these lines.  Most likely just for family because they are excited to know what we're having!  And quite honestly the majority of my girlfriends were texting me the minute they knew my ultrasound was done to see if our daughter was a boy or a girl.  I don't find it gift grabby  (how do you even bring a "sex appropriate" gift to a party where you'll be finding out the sex? You dont.) Nor do I find it attention seeking.  Friends and family love you and most likely love the little person growing inside you, which opens them up for excitement about that little person. To each their own and all that, but to get all worked up over someone else throwing a party like this seems pretty silly to me. :shrug:

kes0028

I think you should have one if you want to! I had one with my first, and we had a lot of fun. It was mostly family and we had pink filled cupcakes! I probably won't do one with this baby, but I'm glad I have those memories of having one with my first. 

Michi1382

I think they're super cute and I think of them as a get-together, not a gift-giving occasion. I wouldn't have one personally because I tend to be shy about things that celebrate "me", if that makes sense. I was even shy at my first babyshower because I felt like there was a ton of attention on me and I wasn't a fan lol But, having said that, I love attending gender reveals and I threw one for a good friend of mine. I'm sure they may be just an excuse for a party but getting close family and friends together is fun regardless.