I saved my 8 week old unborn baby and haven't told anybody.

Bordeaux16

I had an ultrasound at 9 weeks and found out my baby died at about 8 weeks.  After 2 attempts at a medically induced miscarriage it worked.  However, I saw the baby and couldn't flush it.  I saved it and put it in my freezer.  Has anybody ever done this? What about cremation? I haven't told anyone and am heartbroken after losing our baby. I don't know what to do.  Please share with me any kind thoughts. 

zrain

First of all, I'm so sorry for your loss. No one should have to go through this kind of pain, especially not alone. As far as your baby, I think it all depends on what feels right for you. Wanting to save it is completely normal. I can't answer your question about cremation because I'm not familiar with how you'd go about that, but I think a lot of women do bury their baby after a miscarriage. I'm still waiting to miscarry but my husband and I decided we want to bury our baby when it does happen. We picked out a little box together. There's another thread on here where other women talk about what they did. https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12622507/what-did-you-do-with-your-miscarried-baby#latest
I don't know your family situation, but it might help to find friends and family you can talk to about what you're going through. A therapist might be helpful (it's been helping me), or a support group, or you're always welcome to talk here with us. Again, I'm very sorry for your loss and I hope you can find the support you need. *hugs*

fivetimesnoluck

I am so sorry for your loss. I collected the remains from two of mine and submitted them for pathology testing to help determine a cause. I am not sure how freezing affects your ability to do that, but if you're interested, ask your doctor about testing.

zrain offered the best advice I can think of (talking about it, with therapist or at least with friends/family) and the thread she linked to was informative... I hope you can find someone to offer comfort and support. This is a terribly difficult thing to process and handle and trying to do it alone would be daunting. More people than you would ever guess have experienced it. You are not alone, so even if it is just by using this platform, please reach out anytime you need to.

You are in my thoughts.

eightynine

Just remember that any choice you make in your coping is the right one for you. Only you know the best way for you to grieve & don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Do whatever feels right for you.