I need to vent...

nicflo2120

So im a sahm because my husband decided he wanted me to take of my son instead of his mom. Long story short me and his mom dont get along too well from her trying to tell me what to do with my son. We are baptizing my son in april and well of course my mom dad his mom and the god parents are helping us out. His mom paid half the money for the hall today and on our way home she was talking about how she is going to decorate it and where shes going to get the cake from and all this stuff. Like hello im the mom isnt that my choice? This is why i never want to accept her help because then she thinks she can do whatever she wants. I said some stuff and she completely cut me off. We got home i spoke to my husband about it and he got mad and took her side. He literally was like well ur not helping in anything so dont complain. Like wtf??? Im so mad right now.

n3na94

Wow. To your husband..... I can't say anything but seriously!?? That is not right. And you know what mama if anything you have every right to be mad. You gotta talk to your husband and he can't keep playing that card with you. Being a stay at home mom is so much more work than a 8 hour shift so next time he says you aren't helping I'm anything, he should think to all you do as a mom and a wife! Dont stress over it mama! Keep us updated and let us know if anything!

AziaNick

I agree with the precious mom...wow to your husband...Maybe he didn't mean it as offensive as it sounded BUT let's just be honest here, Being a mom is a full time job. I see where you are coming from about not wanting help because then the other people feel like they have a right and you have a obligation. They do have a right to participate since they are family, and it really should be a happy and not stressful thing. Stay calm and communicate with your husband this is uour guys child and a special moment for all of you. You have a say no matter what money someone else is giving you. You are thankful, and express that to your husband BUT again, it is your child and YOU want a say in it as well. I planned my own baby shower, we paid for our own wedding and we are paying for our daughters birthday. We did this exactly for the same reason as you guys. We know how we want it, and we don't want to feel any obligations.