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LaurenAsh23

Well I never thought I would find myself back on this board...but here I am.

My first miscarriage was in 2013, was a mmc found just shy of 9w. I shortly after got KU with our dd who is now almost 2.

2nd mc was just this past September at 6 weeks.

Just last night, at 16 weeks we found out our baby boy's heart had stopped beating. He was coming quickly and I delivered him within an hour of finding out. We are completely broken.

Just looking for anyone who has been down this road of multiple miscarriages and/or a late miscarriage.

After our other 2 mc I was ready to start trying or at least think about it almost immediately. This time, I'm not even sure I want to again, and that scares me.

I'm sorry that we are all here and I'm here to talk about any other miscarriage questions anyone may have, unfortunately I've become too well versed in all of it over the past few years.

ThePax89

Goodness gracious. I am so completely sorry.

How are you feeling physically right now?

LaurenAsh23

Physically I'm not too bad. I'm not much of a bleeder ever, after all my miscarriages I've either not bled or just spotted, which is about all that's happening now. I'm exhausted (probably more of an emotional thing) and sore, I'm assuming that's from my muscles and everything stretching and going back down.

catiecatp

@LaurenAsh23 - I'm sorry for your losses

CaliWhit

@LaurenAsh23 -- I'm so so sorry for your losses! I just had my first mc (first pregnancy) at 9w, and I can't even imagine how devastating this must be for you, having been 16w. My heart goes out to you, and my hope and prayer for you is that even as you grieve the loss of your little boy, your desire for another baby will return in time. I have a friend who had a late mc (19w I believe) and she went on to have 2 healthy babies. Allow yourself time to heal and grieve, and who knows what the future may bring. 

dpjennifer

I'm sorry for your losses.

mrt

I'm so sorry for your losses. I just had my first miscarriage at 8 weeks and I asked my doctor for a birth control prescription because mentally I just don't want to do this again right away. I know I will, but I'm not ready yet.

Give yourself some time to heal emotionally and physically, then see how you feel about it. 

AL_TwinCities

@LaurenAsh23 I am so sorry. Multiple losses are so unfair, and to have one in the second tri is so difficult. There are ladies on TB who have had later losses, and unfortunately multiple losses as well. I just had my second loss, at 12+1, though we had known since 9+4 that it was coming. Are you doing testing with your doctor to try to identify what might be the cause of your losses? Will you be having testing done of the baby? I couldn't bear to bring the sac anywhere for testing after passing it, but if I were to have an third loss I would probably do that to try to get some answers.

I also felt unsure if I wanted to try again this time, for the first several weeks. Eventually I decided I did still want this, as difficult as the thought of going through infertility again and maybe another loss would be. But we are starting testing and will see if we can identify what is going on with us.

So many hugs to you, and I am just devastated to see that you have gone through this yet again.

kayham12

I didn't find out about my miscarriage until 16 weeks also. I missed my 12 week appointment or they would have been able to tell something was wrong there. I tried to reschedule it but they couldn't get me in. I started miscarrying the week of my 16 week appt.  I'm sorry for your loss and like @mrt I'm not sure when I will be ready to try again, but I know it's still so fresh for me. A guy I work with and his wife have just experienced their 4th loss and I'm not sure where their strength comes to keep trying. I have always felt connected to them since the first baby they lost would be the same age as my DD. Their 4th loss and my first were 3 days apart last week

LaurenAsh23

@AL_TwinCities I have my follow up this week and am going to talk to my dr about if she thinks we should get any testing done. Dh had his sperm tested years ago when we were having trouble ttc. Since then we haven't had any trouble getting pregnant, it's just staying pregnant. As far as baby, we did request testing but unfortunately we don't know if we will get any answers. We saw our son Monday on an ultrasound and lost him Saturday. By the time I delivered, he had been dead for at least 2 days and in order for pathology to test cells it has to be within 48 hours of death unfortunately. 

At this point I'm really waiting for everything to hit me. I feel like I'm in denial or just numb and know it'll have to hit me sooner or later.