no sex?

jenni31

i had a bad cut n tear n stitching with my delivery and wanted to wait to have sex. at 6 week check with doctor the exam hurt so i waited some more. at 3 months hubby n i tried but couldn't proceed cos it was still so painful. it's now been 6.5 MONTHS since we've had sex. im scares of the pain. is this normal? will the pain be less with time or practice?

nicflo2120

Same thing happened to me and i was scared. First time it hurt so bad but if you try it wont hurt anymore

krissyberb

Are you breastfeeding? That will make you really dry and you need to use a lot of lube. Keep trying. I found that initially it hurt but once things got going it felt better.

VToman

We got the clearance at 6 weeks. We had sex at 7 weeks and it really really (infinity) hurt. We used lube, but it was awful. We didn't try again for a couple of weeks and it still hurt, but it was better. Anyway, flash forward to now, 6 months PP. I still have a hard time, foreplay has to last a lot longer than it used to. But, the pain is gone and it's enjoyable again. The first two or three....or four times, it was just about getting used to sex again - and I felt bad for my husband because we didn't have much sex during pregnancy either!

msalada91

I still bleed sometimes when my husband and I have sex. I truly think they may have stitched me up too well... I also had bad tearing as well.

desquinones

Oh my gosh! Hot topic in our household! Yes it hurts but i have just lost all drive! I feel horrible for my husband. I know he needs it so i will literally just lay there but I just have zero desire. I think I am just so exhausted. My baby is WORK! I do t know but it makes me scared for our marriage if I am not "fixed" soon.

jessieR358

I had a second degree tear.  I accidentally popped the top stitch in the hospital and it ended up creating lots of scar tissue issues. The first couple times we had sex it was AWFUL. We had even waited about 12 weeks bc I was so scared. It was so incredibly painful.  My OB prescribed me estrogen cream which you may want to try. It helped a little.  I still bleed and the initial part is still painful but it's fine after we get going.  Lots of lube is required though. It's crazy that you can push a baby's head out but you feel like you'll never be able to have sex again! I think you just need to keep trying. It won't get better if you don't. I hardly have any drive but I know it's important for our marriage. 

desquinones

Just knowing that I am not alone makes me feel better.