Date night / going out?

lindseystans

My mom says my DH and I need to go on more date nights. She said when she had me, her and my dad went out EVERY Friday night to have their alone time. I agree, we do need to put our marriage first and have quality alone time but it's SO hard with having a little now plus other obligations. We both work full time so once
the weekend rolls around I want to be with my LO, like all the time.

How often do you go on date nights? We went when LO was 10 weeks old and then 6 months...seems so sad!! But we have gone to parties and stuff, holiday gatherings, just other people were there so I guess I wouldn't consider it alone time.

VToman

We have only had two date nights - our anniversary and to see Star Wars. I'd love to have more. But, I have no family here and DH'S parents still work full-time and I would hate to impose so often. I haven't left her with anyone else and am not really comfortable with that idea. My SIL has three very rambunctious (to put it mildly) kids and I don't trust them to be gentle with her.

If you and your DH are happy with the way things are, then you're fine. If you have the chance to have date nights and you want to, take them!

krissyberb

We've gone out maybe 3 times since LO was born. It's hard for us because we don't have family in the area to babysit. And we both work too, and I hear you on not wanting to leave LO. We have date nights at home now. On Fridays after LO is in bed we put on a movie.

AziaNick

the definition of date nights are different for everyone we have house date nights and when we go out with as a family we consider that a date night too. It just depends on the couple and there schedule just spending time together we consider a date, we have been like that even before our daughter. We cook meals together twice a week, and we switch off surprising each other. We have movie nights as well, and we go on walks and do outdoor things. It is important to nurture the relationship with your spouse we even spice up our sex lives during the week. It might not be a traditional date night, but you do what works for your you. Working and being a parent is hard, and you need to take whatever time you have for each other whenever it is.

semaggio

My husband and I have yet to go out on a date since before my daughter was born... 6 months ago!! I think it's safe to say it's been at least a year maybe. I've been dying to go out with just my husband but whenever I get someone to watch my daughter, (even just a trip to the store) I get such bad anxiety, I start crying and feel like i have to get back to her right that moment. And when I do get back to her, she's been feeling the same way. Crying and as soon I pick her up she stops and lays her head on me. I couldn't put her down and she wouldn't even let her daddy hold her. Broke my heart. We both seem to have some separation anxiety.

klirwin82

We've only gone out on dates twice - most recently for our anniversary in November. We'd both like to spend more time with each other but my mom watches LO all week so I feel like I'm burdening her if I ask her to watch him on a weekend night as well. Plus we're usually so tired from the work week that neither of us wants to dress up and go anywhere, on the weekends we hang out in our pajamas, watch TV and snuggle with LO.

sweetdream2004

My husband and I try to go out on a date night once a month since our LO has been born :-)

KelseySky

We make sure to spend a little time just the two of us each night but we go on a date each week. Sometimes we bring the baby along, sometimes she stays with family and some weeks we put her to bed and rent a movie and order in. We try to go out during nap time or around bedtime so she can sleep in her car seat while we get dinner or do some shopping. It's what works for us and I kind of like having her around, she's our little partner in crime.

kyrenora

We haven't had a date night yet, unless you count getting a Christmas tree with my dad. We keep talking about it, but we just want to be with the little one all the time. Plus, we've always been homebodies, so our dates have just consisted of pizza and snuggles on the couch. LO just makes for a bigger snuggle pile. 

abbymessina

Date night. What's that! Lol. We have 3 kiddos so date night for us is when we can be sleeping before 11pm.

cwstebbins

vcard091678 said:

We have only had two date nights - our anniversary and to see Star Wars. I'd love to have more. But, I have no family here and DH'S parents still work full-time and I would hate to impose so often. I haven't left her with anyone else and am not really comfortable with that idea. My SIL has three very rambunctious (to put it mildly) kids and I don't trust them to be gentle with her. If you and your DH are happy with the way things are, then you're fine. If you have the chance to have date nights and you want to, take them!

We have had the exact same two date nights! Glad to know we aren't the only ones

KAR8706

we went to dinner one night when LO was about a month old but haven't had an actual "date night" since. We do things as a family and once LO is asleep we spend time together. That time is very important. 

Melis222

If hubby and I are out without the kids I consider it a date night (even if we meet up with friends)...we have gone out 2x since LO was born. We really need to get out more!

desquinones

This is me... I miss my husband but I can't stand the thought of my baby crying