Grandpa is dying

Lyette1206

Yesterday we received news that my grandpa (who's been battling bladder cancer for a year or two) now has a huge tumor on his liver and several in his lungs. He's in a lot of pain and is being heavily medicated. It's not looking good. All I could think of is that this will be the year my grandpa dies. I'm devastated. I'm sad he might not get to meet my new little one.
I'm also so torn. I've watched another family member live a long time while battling cancer, and it was terrible. So part of me hopes he doesn't suffer long, while another part of me wants my grandp around as long as possible.

meggyme

I'm sorry to hear you are going through this. My grandmother has endometrial cancer and has chosen to forego chemo, so I understand the internal conflict. Try to appreciate the time you currently have with them and know that despite the pain they have lived long, happy lives and are happy for us. I know my grandma loves telling people I'm carrying her great grandchild. I hope this gives you some comfort.

WaitingMay14

Very sorry to hear the sad news. Prayers of comfort for you and your family. Often times like this the decision is already made. Enjoy the time with him and ask for mercy hoping that if he's well he will meet your little one and if he isn't he is taken out of any type of pain. I'm so very sorry for you. Hang in there. Times like these are never easy.

Linsbins

I'm sorry to hear this. My thoughts and prayers go out to you.

stelov04

Aw. Babe. Think about the happy times not the suffering and pain I'm sure that's what your grandpa wants you to keep close to your heart and then share them with your bundle of joy.

fishwife799

I'm sorry you are going through this. My grandpa passed away in May of last year from complications from CPOD. He would have been 88 in July. It really was a lot to take in but I found happiness knowing that he lived a full life with lots of love and family in it. He may never know this baby but we will make sure that the baby knows who he was.

AmberLiz99

I'm so sorry. My grandfather passed away last year, and it was very unexpected. It's always a lot harder to deal with than I think it will be. Big hugs to you, I hope your grandfather and your entire family find the peace you need

VikingGirl12

I'm sorry to hear this. I'm sending many thoughts and prayers your way.

catherinekate

I'm so very sorry to hear this. Sending thoughts and prayers your way.

DeePaddy24

I'm so, so sorry. My thoughts & prayers are with you & your family! 

alylove11

So sorry to hear this. It's very hard losing a grandparent. Try to soak in as much time as possible, go over old stories and memories, and give lots of hugs. That helped me a lot with my grandma right before she passed. I wish I was able to talk to her more and ask questions of her childhood.

tjenkins528

I'm so sorry this is happening! This happened to me when I was pregnant with DS. I lost my grandpa a few months before he was born and always remind DS grandpa is watching over him. We also gave him my grandpa's middle name. Prayers for you!

JonesBaby0624

I'm sorry to hear this. You are in my prayers and thoughts.

BlackAndGold09

I'm so sorry to hear this. Dh step dad just passed away on the 14th after a 14 year battle with multiple cancers. He was doing in home hospice for the last 15 months. you will be in my thoughts!

HBamama2B

I'm so sorry. Thoughts and prayers for your family.

alysemci

My mother in law had ALS and we weren't sure if she was going to make it to our son's birth. She didn't unfortunately, she passed away at when I was 8 months along. This would have been her first grandchild and she was so excited to be a Babci. There are little things you can do to help everyone along- we always made sure she had an updated ultrasound picture of the baby, we got a recordable book so she could "read to the baby" long after she was gone (they sell them at hallmark and have the cutest ones), she wrote him little notes on things like books she got him so he has those forever, and whenever he kicked I made sure she got to feel it so she could at least feel her grandchild. It's not the same as being there but try and be creative and think of little ideas to bring them close together even after he leaves this earth. It might even help you feel close to him too. We visited the cemetery on the way home from the hospital even. My husband and his mom were very close and she was the most excited about my son coming.

hellomommas

I'm so sorry my dad died in a motorcycle accident when I was 5 months pregnant with my first baby. And then my only cousin (and only girl my age in the family) passed away at age 30 from cancer 3 months after my baby was born. This is not fun stuff to talk about. It is so hard and emotional esp when there is a new life coming and a life going. I named my sons middle name after my dad. And I keep a journal of any memory or characteristic of my dad I can think of for my boys to someday read. Anytime I think of a tradition, saying, or fun memory my dad is known for, I write about it. It makes me smile and reassures me that I will be able to describe to them who he was and how special he was to me. I don't know which was harder----my dad's death was so sudden and shocking and I didn't get to say goodbye. My cousins cancer was so difficult to endure with her suffering... But by the time she passed, there was def. a sense of relief that she was freed from her pain and we we're let off of the emotional roller coaster that cancer is. I was really glad I had the gift of saying goodbye to her and be with her in her final moments. I daydream about being there with my dad when he died. Sorry for rambling. Hits home

dennyandlee

Thoughts and prayers for you and your family.

totsabounding

So sorry you are going through this. 

mrsb8244

Praying for you and your famoly through this rough time

scotten

My FIL passed away from cancer when I was four months pregnant with my DD, at only age 47. He was adopted, and our baby was going to be his first "blood" grandchild. It was extremely difficult to handle at the time - both trying to care for my husband and his loss, and my own needs.

My daughter never knew her late grandfather, but she looks so much like him. I try to talk to her about him, and show her photos, to keep his memory alive. I'm so sorry you're going through this! I understand how difficult it can be.

likeabel

So sorry you're going through this! My grandmother just passed away on New Year's Eve and it's still sinking in. She's been ill for a while and had dementia so she was unaware I was pregnant (and really didn't know who I was). Share as much of your pregnancy as possible with him and make sure to write down any stories you remember (have your parents help too) so you can share them with your LO and remember them yourself. *Hugs*

mar101483

I am so sorry! I am extremely close with my grandfather, he basically raised me, and I almost lost him last year, not to cancer,but to a rare brain infection. I know how bad you want him to meet you're lo! Again, I'm so sorry you and your family are going through this. If he doesn't make it until your lo is here, he will live on through the memories you share.