XP: We lost the baby :(

mrshutch · January 2009

I just posted this on 1st tri, but I'm over here all the time as well. It's always helpful to talk to the ladies here and I'll be focusing on being thankful for having a healthy toddler

I so can't believe I'm having to write this. I've been shaking, just upset and baffled. I went in for the 2nd appt. this morning and my OB couldn't find the h/b with the doppler. Since I was supposed to be about 10 1/2 wks, she wasn't concerned, but since the tech was in, she was able to sneak me in for an u/s. No h/b, and even though the tech wasn't saying anything, I could see the measurements were popping up 9 wks 2 days. My heart sank. She said we'd do a trans-vag, which clearly showed no h/b. I just started crying and saying I didn't understand. At least my OB is super supportive and was patting my shoulder and saying she was sorry.

This just sucks. I've used that word about 100 times this morning, but I don't have a better one. I was so excited for an Aug baby (due date was Aug 1st) and to have our kids 2.5 years apart. No, you can't plan everything in life, and this is a good reminder to me to just relax and when it happens it happens. Ugggghhh. So, OB is doing a DNC tomorrow- having gone through a m/c @ 10 wks I cannot fathom taking meds to go through a natural m/c.

Like I said, I'm going to focus on being so fortunate w/ our Taylor and looking forward to when we can get pg again.

soontobecapek · January 2009

OMG I am soo sorry hun... everything happens for a reason, but it would help to know the reason ahead of time...

Pesky · January 2009

I'm so sorry. Left Hug

jessicada76 · January 2009

I am so sorry! (((((((HUGS))))))))

melsie · January 2009

<<hugs>> head over to the loss board, i found a lot of comfort there and a lot of help with dealing with my emotions and hormones after my loss (had two first tri losses).

i'm so sorry...

marriedchick06 · January 2009

omg no! I am so so sorry!!!

mrshutch · January 2009

Thanks very much, ladies. I really couldn't go into work after this morning so I'm curled up on the couch. Guess I'll just have to dig up some wedding and honeymoon pics for the other posts

pixelvixen · January 2009

I am so very very sorry for your loss. I hope your daughter gives you strength to heal and know that you will be able to get pregnant again. *big hugs to you*

PaigeC1981 · January 2009

I am so sorry. I pray that you'll get pg again quickly and that all will go well.

ginanjason · January 2009

Oh I'm so so sorry for your loss. Lots of Hugs for you ((((hugs))))

R&R082606 · January 2009

I'm so sorry. Don't let this get you down....you'll have a healthy pregnancy again soon. Like you said, at least you have your healthy toddler to keep you focused!

pea-kay · January 2009

i'm so sorry for your loss.

HawaiiBrideGrm · January 2009

Wow, that is heartwrenching. I am sooo sorry for your loss. ::hugs::

momofolivia · January 2009

I am so sorry for your loss. Please feel free to post here anytime about what you are going through. We will always be there for you.

j_hope · January 2009

I'm so sorry that you are going through this.

lisa777 · January 2009

I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my first pregnancy at 4 weeks and even though I was very early it was so hard for me. Take as much time off of work as you can, and if you need to cry then cry. I took about 4 days off of work and most of it was spent crying and wondering why this happened to me. There is no explanation for it but obviously you're body was trying to get rid of something that wasn't growing right. I am positive you will get pg again very shortly. Give yourself some time to heal and enjoy your other child. I believe everything happens for a reason and that is what got me through. Take care! xoxo