@ahernandez16 & @MynaBird: I've lurked on the board for a while and I chat with my husband about what I'm reading and how I relate. Finally he said, "You know, if you relate, you could share your thoughts and feelings there too. That's what a forum is for right? Sharing, support, and learning." Duh haha, guess I'm just a little late!
@ahernandez16, I guess I figured there's no need to "reinvent the wheel" by starting a new one. Quick update! My husband spoke with his Mom over the phone last night and at one point said something to the effect of, "By the way, please don't touch her belly anymore. If you're invited to do so, that's entirely different but you weren't and you didn't ask either. You just went for it. It makes her uncomfortable when people just randomly do it without asking." She apparently got a bit indignant, "Well I'm not JUST anybody, I'm FAMILY!" To which he responded, "Mom, she doesn't even let HER family touch her belly without an invitation first. Just think about it....how would you feel if someone, friend or family, just walked up to you and started rubbing your stomach?" "Well I wouldn't like it, obviously." "Then why is this any different? It's her body and her belly." So hopefully that will stop the belly rubs in the future. I feel kinda like an [email protected]@ about it but I'm glad it's all resolved (hopefully).
I'm so not a toucher. At all. I work with pretty much all women and they all tried for belly rubs when they'd see me. I got really good at side-stepping and maneuvering out of the way, thankfully 90% of them were totally cool when I asked them for a little warning pre-touch. I mentioned the worst one in another post here, I'd worked with her all of twice and was barely showing when she found out I was pregnant, she used to walk up and start massaging my belly to try and get him to move. I was clearly uncomfortable with it and finally had to point blank tell her to stop it because it was fucking creepy and she got SUPER offended. Like, complained to a manager offended. But she's been fired so not my chairs, not my problem.