I'll try to keep this as short as possible, ladies. i debated making a thread about this, but it kept me up until 3am last night, so any advice/support would be appreciated!
me & my SO keep getting into arguments over who will be in the delivery room with me. i know some hospitals only allow one of two people in there with you. if two people are allowed, i want my SO & my mother in there with me. my mom has always been a huge support for me & i feel like it would be very helpful for me to have her by my side while I'm pushing.
my SO, however, is being very adamant that we have his mother in there instead of my own. every time he mentions it, i politely correct him & remind him i want my mom in there with me. he always gets extremely defensive & acts like I'm trying to exclude his mother from "the birth of her first grandchild" (this is also my mother's first). it's not that i want to exclude her at all, i just don't feel comfortable with her watching me push a human being out of my vagina
anyways, this has caused a ton of added stress to my plate. I'm already under enough pressure trying to support the 2 of us & save for the baby on a 4 day a week serving job at a dying restaurant. everything i say to him about it goes in one ear & out the other. I'm getting so frustrated i wanna rip my hair out!! how do i get him to understand that this has nothing to do with "excluding" anyone..? i just really want my mom there with me.
thank you so much, ladies!!