Pregnant Women are Nice

flowerpower5838

I just wanted to give a shoutout to all of the lovely pregnant women I have come across this pregnancy so far - IRL, on my BMB and of course here on the tri boards. Thanks for being super informative, supportive, knowledgeable and above all else telling me things I may not like to hear but need to hear!

Since this isn't dear diary, anyone care to share instances of other fellow pregnant women being nice towards them?

 

Monkeybutt80

My husband tells me I am nicer when I am pregnant. It's probably because I have no energy to argue and fight with anyone. Or maybe that's his way of telling me that I am a real b*tch when i am not pregnant. 

soxfan9968

soxfan9968

A few months ago, I needed an emergency root canal because I broke a tooth. I went to my dentist (primarily because my sister works there) and my dentist was also pregnant. She came into work on her day off and stayed late to take care of me. Gah, I hate working on my days off. I hate staying at work late and I'd imagine being in her third trimester when she saw me, working was not on her list of priorities but she was so kind. Since then, she'll ask my sister for updates on how my pregnancy is going.

She had her baby two weeks ago. When my sister went to see her and meet the baby this weekend, she had packed up a bag of maternity clothes to give me. Unfortunately, I'm short and she's tall but I thought it was such a selfless act of kindness. I thought she was so thoughtful to be at home with a new baby and to stop to think of someone else when she very well has every right to be selfish and focus only on her new baby.

SarahFoley725

When I had a scary AS, the women on my BMB were there to support me and help me through.

cmerribury

I've had some unreasonable reactions to things people around me have said and/or done while pregnant and the lovely ladies on my BMB have stood by my side, told me I was being unreasonable (when needed) and supported me despite it all. I find that most of the women here are really pleasant to talk to and I look forward to coming each and every day.

EvaD84

Flowerpower thanks for ur post... I admit some people here can be very direct which may come across to some people as rude but when you're pregnant, u need to be proactive and if you have conflicting info and want advice from other pregnant woman who have experienced what ur going thru, you just need people who will help...

I've had women get bitchy at me and call me annoying purely because i gave them a direct answer - sorry that u take offense to me saying that expecting a clear ultrasound pic of ur baby at 6 weeks pregnant when u may in fact be a few weeks off and tellin u that u could google this info easily but chose not to got taken too personally..

Some women aren't proactive and just come straight here without trying to search for info first and then they take offense when you tell them politely that they could easily find certain info by looking at certain sites etc,..

Sorry for my rant but just needed to state this

mamacastro

I would like to add that almost everyone here has made my experience better and have been pleasant and honest whether we like to hear honesty or not, this group has been by far the best from any app i've ever used and i've come to know these ladies are good, genuine kind people and mothers I hope to become like someday

dragonfly321

I agree with everything y'all have posted! I appreciate the straight up honesty I get when coming here- either when I ask a question, or when I read answers to someone else's.
My BMB is amazing- the regulars who I chat with on the daily specifically.
I wish we could go with out the SS, BUT they do make the board entertaining

Krisdee123

EvaD84 said:

Flowerpower thanks for ur post... I admit some people here can be very direct which may come across to some people as rude but when you're pregnant, u need to be proactive and if you have conflicting info and want advice from other pregnant woman who have experienced what ur going thru, you just need people who will help...

I've had women get bitchy at me and call me annoying purely because i gave them a direct answer - sorry that u take offense to me saying that expecting a clear ultrasound pic of ur baby at 6 weeks pregnant when u may in fact be a few weeks off and tellin u that u could google this info easily but chose not to got taken too personally..

Some women aren't proactive and just come straight here without trying to search for info first and then they take offense when you tell them politely that they could easily find certain info by looking at certain sites etc,..

Sorry for my rant but just needed to state this

I think you missed the point of OP's post.

sanayeli

Yes everyone on here is so lovely . I love how it was suggested to me I get my tubes tied and give up my LO for adoption once i have her just because I was feeling depressed . That did wonders for me. I also love the people who say I'm just saying it direct or telling it as it is but really they are just being judgemental B!!!! I love love all these nice people!!

SarahFoley725

sanayeli said:

Yes everyone on here is so lovely . I love how it was suggested to me I get my tubes tied and give up my LO for adoption once i have her just because I was feeling depressed . That did wonders for me. I also love the people who say I'm just saying it direct or telling it as it is but really they are just being judgemental B!!!! I love love all these nice people!!

This is a happy thread. Kindly take your drama elsewhere.

sanayeli

thank you for being so nice about it . Lol

Parker16772

cmerribury

I'm a firm believer that you get back what you put into the world. 

ambercakes92

Holding back my desire to gif and sticking to the point of this thread...

I am super grateful to have found this community. I haven't been here long, and have still been supported by the women here and gained a lot of useful knowledge about pregnancy and raising children. It is a great outlet for me and I'd feel super lost in my pregnancy without it.

SarahFoley725

sanayeli said:

thank you for being so nice about it . Lol

You're welcome!

ecwk

March BMB ftw

Seriously though, the collective knowledge of the community here as well as the support given just makes me all warm and tingly inside. It is so nice to have so many people to relate to and talk to about things that none of my friends IRL are currently experiencing. I love checking in every day

SarahFoley725

ecwk said:

March BMB ftw

Seriously though, the collective knowledge of the community here as well as the support given just makes me all warm and tingly inside. It is so nice to have so many people to relate to and talk to about things that none of my friends IRL are currently experiencing. I love checking in every day </p>

This. Thanks to specifically my March mamas for talking me off the FTM ledge

Mousie93

I have changed immensely as a person since being pregnant. I've had to grow up pretty fast and I'm grateful for it. My life has been blessed with direction and purpose! I hope I'm a nicer person now - I'm definitely more patient, which will definitely help once my baby boy is born! Pregnancy is an amazing time and you learn a lot about yourself.

flowerpower5838

sanayeli said:

Yes everyone on here is so lovely . I love how it was suggested to me I get my tubes tied and give up my LO for adoption once i have her just because I was feeling depressed . That did wonders for me. I also love the people who say I'm just saying it direct or telling it as it is but really they are just being judgemental B!!!! I love love all these nice people!!

I feel so sad for you that you choose to focus on the one negative comment in your Depressed and Hopeless thread instead of feeling uplifted by all of the supportive and helpful responses. And I don't mean this in a snarky way - I legitimately feel sorry for you that you choose to focus on the exponentially less negative moments than the more populous positive ones. I hope you receive the help/assistance/whatever it is that you are seeking. 

red3ye

March bmb rules! Lol, sorry, I do love my March mamas.
I also think alot of pregnant women are nicer simply because they are to tired or preoccupied to gaf.

tripledaggerWed95976

sanayeli said:

Yes everyone on here is so lovely . I love how it was suggested to me I get my tubes tied and give up my LO for adoption once i have her just because I was feeling depressed . That did wonders for me. I also love the people who say I'm just saying it direct or telling it as it is but really they are just being judgemental B!!!! I love love all these nice people!!

Ok we've had enough of your pot stirring for today

sanayeli

I let all the people who were actually helpful and nice know I was thankful. My point of the other thread was not to be so judge mental towards someone who wants to come on here and vent. I thought that was the point to come here and be able to talk about anything. Not everyone has had babies before so if something comes along and sounds stupid to someone that has had her fair share of experience then they should be understandable why they asked such question.

Anyways ladies have a good one . I've said what I think .

flowerpower5838

sanayeli said:

I let all the people who were actually helpful and nice know I was thankful. My point of the other thread was not to be so judge mental towards someone who wants to come on here and vent. I thought that was the point to come here and be able to talk about anything. Not everyone has had babies before so if something comes along and sounds stupid to someone that has had her fair share of experience then they should be understandable why they asked such question. Anyways ladies have a good one . I've said what I think .

You are free to post what you want, where you want. That's your right as a Bump user. It's also the right of all of the other users. So keep that in mind when you post here. I personally don't think it's required to have a thick skin, but I don't tend to take things that internet users say to heart.

You seem to have a very passive aggressive approach to life. That is known to be manipulative, cause anger and mistrust with others, and of course creates a lack of effective communication. It basically sabotages relationships. The world isn't out to get you - you really do get what you put in. If you're constantly putting off negativity then you are going to receive negativity - which is exactly what you have been doing here on The Bump.

I wish you luck throughout the rest of your pregnancy. Good luck with everything.

sanayeli

............ You've figured me out . I'm such a bad person . Negativity ? I'm pretty sure I was trying to be considerate about the other woman's feeling who was bombarded with passive aggressive comments .

flowerpower5838

sanayeli said:

............ You've figured me out . I'm such a bad person . Negativity ? I'm pretty sure I was trying to be considerate about the other woman's feeling who was bombarded with passive aggressive comments .

You clearly want to be miserable and wallow in your own negativity. Good luck with that - I'll leave you to it!

sarahbeara25

I was so looking forward to this post. I've seen several like it and I love hearing good stories about people. Can it just be that please?

I have the BEST most supportive facebook birth club where we can ask the "stupid" questions and be FTM (of with more than one) and be worried, or share silly things. These pregnant ladies are the BEST

sanayeli

Thank you! I will

smount2011

I'll just put this right here..

mollypuss1

sanayeli said:

Yes everyone on here is so lovely . I love how it was suggested to me I get my tubes tied and give up my LO for adoption once i have her just because I was feeling depressed . That did wonders for me. I also love the people who say I'm just saying it direct or telling it as it is but really they are just being judgemental B!!!! I love love all these nice people!!

Now it all makes sense!

Seriously, take a step back, if a few comments by complete strangers get you this irate then maybe you've had too much internet.

2goofykids

I absolutely love the ladies in my BMB. I've had a couple scary things come up with this pregnancy, and they've all really been there to support and encourage me even through a phone screen! It's so much easier to do this pregnancy thing when you dont have to feel like you're doing it alone. So March BMB, you girls rock.

CecilB93

Another shoutout to March mamas!! Also a FTM here and it was very unexpected. Having a group of women who are experiencing similar things or have in the past is so helpful. No one in my family or circle of friends has had a baby since my cousin who is now 14, so needless to say I don't actually know much first-hand about pregnancy and babies and these moms have been a great support group!!

kyraaD

sanayeli said:

Yes everyone on here is so lovely . I love how it was suggested to me I get my tubes tied and give up my LO for adoption once i have her just because I was feeling depressed . That did wonders for me. I also love the people who say I'm just saying it direct or telling it as it is but really they are just being judgemental B!!!! I love love all these nice people!!

okay, seriously, are you done? I'm honestly sorry you recieved some negative comments on your thread. however, that doesn't mean you should make a thread about how "mean" all pregnant women are. this thread is meant to spread positivity & you only seem interested in filling it with negativity.

that being said, i LOVE being part of March 2016!! being a young FTM, I've learned so much from this forum & you ladies. I'm endlessly thankful to you all for being real about the advice you give. it's really made this whole process a lot easier for me thank you, thank you, thank you!!

SarahFoley725

@kyraaD you need to join us in the random thread!

kyraaD

SarahFoley725 said:

@kyraaD you need to join us in the random thread!

i actually forgot about looking through the random thread, hahah. I'll go scrolling through now (:

eliseandbaby

Nice to talk to ppl going through the same things! Pregnancy can be tough

groovylocks

sanayeli said:

Yes everyone on here is so lovely . I love how it was suggested to me I get my tubes tied and give up my LO for adoption once i have her just because I was feeling depressed . That did wonders for me. I also love the people who say I'm just saying it direct or telling it as it is but really they are just being judgemental B!!!! I love love all these nice people!!

Stupid gif-failing ipad. It was a good one...

stlmomof2

Yes everyone on here is so lovely . I love how it was suggested to me I get my tubes tied and give up my LO for adoption once i have her just because I was feeling depressed . That did wonders for me. I also love the people who say I'm just saying it direct or telling it as it is but really they are just being judgemental B!!!! I love love all these nice people!!

**Removed for TOU Violation** 

sanayeli

Thank you for your opinion I'm on my way to a crazy house because I obviously have issues by expressing my opinion . Please get off yalls high horse seriously . Yall keep proving me right . Yall keep talking sh*t even after I stopped responding so I will keep giving my opinion . Have a great day!

sanayeli

FYI it's the internet how do you start drama on here ? Different opinions different people . Sheesh .