Moms of two -- when did it get really hard?

mamarazzi

I'm totally jinxing myself and shouldn't even post this, but so far, the adjustment from one to two has gone remarkably smoothly.  L loves the baby and hasn't shown any animosity or jealousy.  He wants to kiss him and hold him and asks for him as soon as he wakes up.  Breastfeeding is SO much easier this time around.  The recovery after delivery was unbelievably fast.  Last time, getting up off the couch was an ordeal because my vag hurt so bad.  This time, I was sitting cross-legged on the floor the day we were released from the hospital.  Andersen rarely cries and is super laid-back.  We had some issues with reflux, but we're treating it now and he seems to be doing better.  And he sleeps relatively well (as long as he's in my arms, but whatever).

A will be three weeks tomorrow.  When can I expect my world to come crashing down?  I feel like there's no way it can stay this "easy" (which I totally use as a relative term -- there's nothing "easy" about a toddler and a newborn).  Was there a certain age or stage where you wondered what the eff you got yourself into?

zacook

i am at the 5 mon mark, and its still how you describe above.. i am waiting for it to hit!!

getnmarried910

I thought the adjustment from taking care of one (alone since I'm a SAHM) to two was rough, but didn't take too long.  I just had to figure out how to make sure DD didn't feel left out since I was nursing so often and a new baby likes to be held a lot.  After the first couple weeks of getting that down it's been smooth sailing till recently.  Now that DS seems to have a mind of his own, he and DD play together, but it usually ends in fighting over a toy and both have those high pitched screams.  It's harder to take them both out alone now since DS isn't in a baby carrier anymore.  I liked when I could just stick his seat in the back of a cart and put DD in the front.  Now, neither wants to sit, and I can't get any of the things I need trying to chase just one of them.  DD IS getting better about walking next to me and holding onto the cart though.  Wow...after writing that it makes me wonder what I'll do when we have a third!

GreenEggs&Ham

When i brought my new born home, my DD went bugshit, so we never had the calmness you are describing. finally that got better and it was really not that bad. Now the baby (15 months) can move around and take toys away from my 3 year old. now it is tough again. he wants everything she has - no matter what it is and she never has a moment of peace from him unless we intervene.  good luck!

Alibabs

Kind of the same here.... BFding was sooo much better and I healed much better too (Vag wise) I couldn't even stand for 5 mins after #1 cos I was sure my insides were going to fall out!! Sorry TMI!

Anyhoo, I felt it was much easier too. Buuuuut the tiredness just about killed me! I was only getting back to normal when #3 decided to come

Jodi&Joe

8 weeks was a turning point for us.

8 weeks to 8 months was PURE HELL!  8 months to about 14 months was slightly better but still insanity!

DandR

enjoy it!  You got a great baby and Lawrence (obviously...because you are an awesome mom) is such a good big brother!

For me, the minute Audrey was born everything was harder.....and it didn't let up until she was 6 months, and completely go away until she was 9 months.

So, i think you are in the clear!!!!

amw80

I think it just totally depends on your children. Honestly, it was never as hard as I thought it would be, but I know plenty of people that say different. Jack is such a good baby and boy, that he never gave me any trouble. Lillian was so young that she doesn't know jealousy or any different.

 I will say though, when Jack got more mobile it got more challenging. I went out all the time when he was in the carrier. It was much easier than. There was a time when I would have put Jack in the front basket part of the shoopping cart and Lily would iterally be running all over the store. She is better now though. BFing was also a lot easier.

I would say just enjoy it

goodhartedmommy

When I had the third one. The first year and a half of having two was seemingly easy.

ready2go

I think it's different for everyone but for me, it didn't get hard until dd2 was about 10 months old.  that's when she was full out crawling, cruising and more into dd1's things.  dd1 had no problems until that point but then the jealousy/acting out began.  It didn't help that that was around the time that dd2 started regressing in her sleep and would be up multiple times . tired mommy + cranky 3 year old + active baby = stress!

shopgirl78

I am at the 15 month into being a mom of two and honestly it isn't that bad. Of course, we have our bad days but the good outweigh the bad!

luluroo

shopgirl78:

I am at the 15 month into being a mom of two and honestly it isn't that bad. Of course, we have our bad days but the good outweigh the bad!

 Ditto this, although I am at the 18 month mark.  Of course there are moments when it is craziness, but for the most part it is easy....hence why I want a third someday

amiamish

getnmarried910:

I thought the adjustment from taking care of one (alone since I'm a SAHM) to two was rough, but didn't take too long.  I just had to figure out how to make sure DD didn't feel left out since I was nursing so often and a new baby likes to be held a lot.  After the first couple weeks of getting that down it's been smooth sailing till recently.  Now that DS seems to have a mind of his own, he and DD play together, but it usually ends in fighting over a toy and both have those high pitched screams.  It's harder to take them both out alone now since DS isn't in a baby carrier anymore.  I liked when I could just stick his seat in the back of a cart and put DD in the front.  Now, neither wants to sit, and I can't get any of the things I need trying to chase just one of them.  DD IS getting better about walking next to me and holding onto the cart though.  Wow...after writing that it makes me wonder what I'll do when we have a third!

I'm scared and worn out just after reading this!!! OMG! I think I'll perm. keep my legs crossed and never have another!