My coworker just found out she lost her pregnancy. She didnt yet know exactly how far along she was but she and her family are devistated. My feels are all over for her because I have been struggling myself on TTC so I was excited to hear all her experiences.
I however haven't dealt with anyone close to me losing a pregnancy and I do not want to sound inconsiderate at all to her in the future. Especially since I am TTC myself.
What is appropiate to say? How can I support her in this time of need? I obviously know to give her space until she is ready and to have a good listening ear too.
If I am to find out in the future I am pregnant should I tell her first, as a respect thing?
Re: How to support a Coworker/friend in a early Loss?
It's been a long road- Let's just say that!
Thank you for your advice I appreciate it. You gave me great ideas!
I am also truly sorry for your loss and wish you and your family the very best
Me:24 ~~~~~ DH:26
High school Sweethearts 03/29/07
Engaged 11/29/2009
Married 09/04/2012
TTC#1-06/01/2015
BFP 12/27/2015 EDD 9/8/2016
It's a BOY!
Listen. Say you're sorry for her loss. Let her know how much you care about her. PP gave some good advice as well.
Also it's really nice of you to think about your friend and how to best support her. Loss is upsetting and isolating and confusing, but having supportive friends helps lessen the weight a little bit.
Also @Raincity - I'm sorry for your loss. An adult coloring book and pretty colored pencils was basically what got me through the fog of loss this summer.
TTC #1 --- BFP #1 5/15, loss at 5 weeks --- BFP #2 12/15, loss at 4+3 --- RE testing 3/16 normal, still trying for our rainbow
Me: 32 & DH: 37
BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
IT'S A BOY!!!!
DS Born 10/16/16
Tell her you are thinking of her and are here for her and if she ever wants to talk, you will be there to listen. I love the idea of a care package: tea, bath salts, etc. My family and friends didn't know what to say when I went through my loss but months later when I'd hear that they were thinking of me, that was so helpful. I don't think hearing how common MCs are would have been helpful - it wouldn't have made me feel any better.
TTC since May 2014.
Aug 2014 BFP, EDD April 22, 2015. Low progesterone, started suppositories. Loss at 5w6d.
Nov 19, 2015 BFP at 13 dpo, EDD July 29, 2016. MMC discovered 12/29 (9+4). Natural miscarriage 1/16 (12+1).
AMH results 0.42, 1.2; FSH 12.1, AFC 10, dx DOR.
RPL testing results normal. Nurse recommended progesterone suppositories in TWW.
Clomid + trigger + TI cycle August 2016 - failed. Thin lining.
Femara + trigger + TI cycle December 2016 - failed. Thin lining.
Short LP (8 days).
Acupuncture & Chinese herbs starting January 2017, lengthened LP to 10 days
Summer 2016 LFAF awards:
Winter 2016/2017 LFAF awards:
Me: 32 & DH: 37
BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
IT'S A BOY!!!!
DS Born 10/16/16
TTC #1 --- BFP #1 5/15, loss at 5 weeks --- BFP #2 12/15, loss at 4+3 --- RE testing 3/16 normal, still trying for our rainbow
Married to my Soul Mate since 09/06/09
Jan 10, 2016: Cycle 16. Femara 5mg + IUI #3 - BFN.
Feb 10, 2016: Cycle 17. No IUI or meds. Taking a break - Natural BFP Mar 5, 2016!!!! EDD Nov 16, 2016
Moving to IVF March 2016
Beta at 10dpo: 21, Beta at 12dpo: 98, Beta at 14dpo: 264, Beta at 16dpo: 745
U/S 6w6d: single beautiful heartbeat of 121bpm - It's a boy!!!!
Nov 3, 2016: Our family became complete. Welcome DS #2.
Everybody's grieving time is different. It took me about 2-3 weeks. Her just being there for me meant the world.