My husband and I are really laid-back and our style of clothing is very similar: black, grey, white, brown leather, etc. (neutrals). Since we're having a baby girl, we didn't want to follow a dumb gender style, like pink and frilly just because she is a girl. Much less, because that's not what we like ourselves. Most of the things we have already bought for her are light grey, mint, beige, neutral baby colors ^_^ and it's really cute!
My mother is just as excited as we are (first grandchild) and has bought her some blankets, socks, beanies,...in hot pink!! >.< why mom...after I told her the colors we chose for her room, outfits, etc. (and I don't have to, because she knows me well). As much as I appreciate how much love she has put into her gifts, we don't like it and I know it's mean, but I think we would pick out the things we chose for our baby, rather than things we don't like. She shows me the things she bought her. I can't fake excitement or "aw, how cute!" and gets mad, calls me unappreciative, because I don't like it. Um, sorry mom, but you know I don't like that...what did you expect
This might be a white whine, but has anyone else experienced this? Did you suck it up, or stood your ground? I know, our baby isn't an accessory ^_^ but she is our little mini me
Re: Grandma, no pink & frilly, please
Me: 29 DH: 31
Married 10/13/12
TTC Since 8/2016
This. And to me, this is such a minor thing to even be getting bothered over. Pick your battles. I wouldn't want to upset my mom over something like this. Especially when she's being nice and buying MY child things.
Exchange what you don't want OP or give it away. Problem solved!
But don't be surprised when she doesn't buy baby stuff in the future!
Unfortunately, you don't get to dictate the gifts people buy you. You can specify that you're not big on pink and make a registry, but ultimately people are going to get your baby when THEY want to buy your baby.
Me: 29 DH: 31
Married 10/13/12
TTC Since 8/2016
Grandmas and granddaughters have special relationships too, and I think this is one to let go of. It seems like there is more to lose than to gain by fighting, and unless you pick this battle to fall on your sword, I would save the hassle of a fight for something bigger down the road.
Like pp's said you can't control or dictate what other people gift you. Just say thank you and appreciate their thoughtfulness.
As PP's said, you can return things you don't want.
Jamie
Oh not at all our plan is to let our baby be her own person and grow her own personality! "Oh, you like pink, baby...then you wear the hell outta that pink!" lol I wouldn't want to hold her back, especially not because of a color I don't like
And, I completely understand where everyone is coming from: "at the end of the day they will all get pooped and barfed on." It just bothers me that she gets upset because I don't like, yet completely ignores what I DO like.
Sigh..mothers
Just pick your battles.
Once baby in about a year to 1.5 years old, they will start telling you know THEIR style. My youngest will run up to anything frilly or tutu in stores. That is what she wants.
This is not about you any more. Wear you grey, black and white. No one is stopping you.
That's how my mom raised me-even if neither of us like the clothes we are gifted we at least try them on (so if they honestly don't fit/work we can say so). A gift is a gift-smile and say thank you.
At the end of the day there is only a short amount of time before my daughter gets to choose her day to day outfits-who's to say what she will like.
The only thing I won't put on my child is Winnie the Pooh branded items-but my family knows my feelings on that as do the in laws. Just can't stand that bear. If someone gifts me it I'll hold onto it for emergencies till it's too small and donate later.
I have had a few outfits for my little boy that I think are gross, but to be honest I'll be grateful for them when he's pooped on everything else and the washing machine has blown up or something... I've got the problem of far too many clothes - I've had to tell people to stop buying him outfits because he will just never be able to wear them all in time!