Has anyone not announced their pregnancy yet?

spicedice

DH and I plan on announcing on Thanksgiving. I'll be 19.5 weeks along at that point. Anyone else still waiting to let everyone know? For moms with multiple kids, what was the latest you waited before announcing? We announced at 9 weeks with our first, so waiting this long has been a long and crazy ride.

Somersky

@fbanke42, it sounds like you and I are due around the same time.  I was planning to wait until Thanksgiving, but had the opportunity to announce to most of my family in person on Halloween (I won't be seeing them for Thanksgiving), so my family and DH's family now know.  But I still haven't told people at work.  It's like this delicious secret that's MINE and I don't want to share it with them yet!

I am starting to look a wee bit thick in the middle, though.

rebelone

Longest I waited was until I got my MaterniT21 Plus test results back and confirmed it was a boy. Then I told my kids, immediate family, then the rest of the family. That was at 13 wks so that was early.

spicedice

@Somersky Immidiate family knows, but pretty much no on else. We wanted to make sure family knew before we spilled the beans to everyone. I've been out of work since September because of a broken finger, so work doesn't know yet.

@rebelone We were hoping to wait until we found out if we were having a boy or a girl, but decided we couldn't hold it in an extra week. Last time, we had a gender reveal party, but this time, we're just going to announce it on holiday cards.

NachosAndPeaches

We told my family after free cell testing. At about 14 weeks we started telling friends in person as we are no longer hiding it, but we haven't publicly announced yet. Well make a Facebook announcement in December.

mrstrax

DD - my boss figured it out at 9 weeks, told immediate family at 10-11 (first time we saw them in person), extended family at 12 (Thanksgiving) and announced on FB at 12 weeks. 

DS (this pregnancy) - told close friends and my daycare parents at 7 weeks, immediate family at 8 weeks (again, first time we saw them in person), extended family at 9-11 weeks, and announced on FB at 11.5 after hearing the HB at my first OB appointment. 

My OB typically only does one u/s at 20 weeks, so we post one of the profile shots with an update for family then to cover both how the health side went at the u/s and to do a "gender reveal". 

Daniep08

We haven't formally announced, besides family and friends. Everyone else has either figured it out by gossip, because I started to show, or they still don't know.  I am 20weeks. We were just talking last night about how we might just wait until the baby is born and post a picture on Facebook!

yodiggity

Immediate family knows and so does work. Word is starting to trickle through the office.

We haven't made anything FB official. We tentatively decided to do so in December when we are having maternity photos done but then earlier this week my mom overbearingly posted on FB (she did it knowing that we weren't ready to share on FB) and after I made her take it down immediately, I'm not sure if I want to post on FB at all.  

Goldsgirl9

Work knows and two of my sisters but that is all. After two losses we are nervous to announce. We wanted to wait until after our a/s but my belly is no longer cooperating. We will not be in town on Thanksgiving so we're going to text our immediate family and maybe one or two close friends and that is it. At that point I'll be 18w1d. Everyone else will find out through word of mouth or when they see us. 

We don't send out announcements or FB posts. Didn't do it with DS either although we told immediate family right away with him. Losses have made us very cautious.  

sarahufl

Immediate family knows, and close friends we see often. I only told work on Wednesday because no amount of scarves in the world will cover this belly.

I told my mom yesterday she could tell extended family and their friends. There will be no other formal announcements (either at work or on social media) until after the baby is born. People can just realize it on their own from here on out.

Dmurphy10

We have told close friends and family, but have not made a FB announcement yet. At this point we have out a/s next week so we might announce once we know what we are having.

spatter1

Finally told work yesterday as well as some of our more extended family. Aside from that parents, siblings, and some friends know. Will start telling more friends and family now as I'm afraid it's only a matter of time before someone "accidentally" posts about it in Facebook. Our loss has made us cautious too and I really think I'd be fine waiting until the baby is born to make any kind of Facebook announcement. However we'll probably do something after our a/s on Dec 1 so at least if something gets posted we are in control of it.

ladylolly89

We've announced to some family and a few close friends. A few people at work have started to figure it out. We'll probably announce to extended family at Christmas, and other friends/aquaintances will eventually figure it out too. We don't plan to announce on social media at all, so there will be plenty who don't know until after he is born.

Mailmans Baby Momma

We told family and close peeps, but not officially announced. It's getting pretty obvious though.

I had a friend ask me at a restaurant tonight when we were going to have another, so I told her April. Saw a coworker at the OBGYN too, so word will get around.

We will probably do a Facebook announcement after the AS.

WiseUsagi

Immediate family and close friends know but I haven't done a FB announcement and didn't go out of my way to tell the dozens of aunts/uncles spread about the country. We'll tell everyone when the dozens of us come together for Thanksgiving and I'll throw up an announcement/gender reveal on FB then.

Ready4theParty

We are not going to announce on social media, although it's super tempting now that we know 3 people due in May, June and one just annonced for July. Our close friends and most of the family knows. Weve been letting our parents tell their siblings. I am not super close to my extended family so whether or not they know..eh I am not too worried about.

kimey1

We kept it quiet till we told our parents. We aren't making announcements - news is shared in person only. The only people that we've told via text/email are friends abroad.
In-laws at 14weeks
My folks at 16weeks
Relatives at 17weeks
Friends from 16weeks

ivyvines6

No. The Leo in me wouldn't allow it to be a secret. We announced at the eight week mark to our close friends, and family, about like fourteen weeks to all my acquaintances, and I waited until about 18 weeks to tell my employer.

brie_and_almonds

I didn't "announce" until after my AS at 19 weeks, but it wasn't a secret so most people already knew I think.

Monicagail1

My first pregnancy we told everyone at about 10 weeks. The second time I told immediate family early, extended family/friends around 12 weeks, but didn't announce at work until about 30 weeks, maybe closer to 32. I never showed much so it wasn't difficult to hide.

helleebellee

We're still waiting, too.  I was going to do some sort of announcement around Christmas, but a few people have made it clear that they feel I shouldn't be having any more kids, so we've decided not to say anything until people start asking.  We won't do any sort of social media announcement until baby is born.  The longest I've waited with any other baby was 14 weeks.  

AmadorRose

SweetBriarBee said:

We're still waiting, too.  I was going to do some sort of announcement around Christmas, but a few people have made it clear that they feel I shouldn't be having any more kids, so we've decided not to say anything until people start asking.  We won't do any sort of social media announcement until baby is born.  The longest I've waited with any other baby was 14 weeks.  

I hate this. So long as you can afford and provide for them, it's no one else's business how many children you have.

helleebellee

@AmadorRose I completely agree! I get so tired of hearing it, and honestly, if they don't want me to have more, then they don't need to be around. At least my kids will be happy. All they talk about is having a baby brother or sister. I still haven't decided when to tell them. I bought an extra stocking and thought about hanging that up Christmas morning and seeing how long it takes them to figure it out.

ivyvines6

SweetBriarBee said:

@AmadorRose I completely agree! I get so tired of hearing it, and honestly, if they don't want me to have more, then they don't need to be around. At least my kids will be happy. All they talk about is having a baby brother or sister. I still haven't decided when to tell them. I bought an extra stocking and thought about hanging that up Christmas morning and seeing how long it takes them to figure it out.

THAT IS THE MOST ADORABLE IDEA EVER!

(Caps were a definite must. I got really excited. I'm just going to pretend my stanger feelings were appropriate, and go back to lurking now...)

Cynthia1207

We announced to my mom and stepdad at 5-6 weeks. Announced to the IL at 9 weeks when we went to see them. H opened his mouth at a bachelor party so a lot of friends knew when I was 6-7 weeks.

We announced to my dad when I was 16w and to my dads family at a party this weekend at 20w.

Still no FB announcement but I'm thinking of doing the stocking as well, taking a picture and posting it as our Merry Christmas FB post. See how many people catch on. I did one at Halloween with pumpkins but it was too subtle and got zero response lol.

AmadorRose

@SweetBriarBee I would get side-eyes at Christmas if I don't have at least four. My family reproduces like jack rabbits but I can't imagine how boring a quiet Christmas would be.

I think I'm going to post a photo of DH and I holding an u/s photo on thanksgiving and just caption it, "This is what we're thankful for." I'm going home for Christmas and would rather it not be a surprise for everyone who sees me (and hasn't seen me in several years), as I'm definitely look more pregnant than fat and I haven't seen anyone except immediate family in a couple of years.

mojomama6

We haven't really announced, and don't really plan to. Everyone has just figured it out as I've gotten bigger, and I'm good with that.
Although I guess we sort of announced to my bil and BFF. Bil is out of the country, and we thought it might be weird if we just had a 16 month old when he comes home, so dh put together a cute little slide show and emailed it to him. My best friend and I talk literally every single day (usually half a dozen times a day), but rarely actually see each other, so it got to a point where I was like, idk when I'm going to see you, but I'm knocked up again, and far enough along that it feels weird that you don't know yet.

spatter1

AmadorRose said:

@SweetBriarBee I would get side-eyes at Christmas if I don't have at least four. My family reproduces like jack rabbits but I can't imagine how boring a quiet Christmas would be.

I think I'm going to post a photo of DH and I holding an u/s photo on thanksgiving and just caption it, "This is what we're thankful for." I'm going home for Christmas and would rather it not be a surprise for everyone who sees me (and hasn't seen me in several years), as I'm definitely look more pregnant than fat and I haven't seen anyone except immediate family in a couple of years.

We thought of doing something similar! We were going to post a pic of our mini gender reveal and say something like "lots to be thankful for this year!"

AmadorRose

@spatter1 the only reason we're doing something is because I want to make it very clear to anyone who may see me waddling around at Christmas time (I assume I'll be waddling by then) that I am indeed very excited for this LO. I like that it's understated but gets the message across.

spatter1

@AmadorRose Same here. Well that and I want to make sure if anything gets posted I'm the one doing the posting not DH's Facebook-obsessed family!

spicedice

@AmadorRose We want to make a point of announcing since this baby was 100% a surprise, but we're really happy and excited. DH and I weren't planning on trying for another until DS was 2-3 years old. We conceived this baby the month DS turned one. I can only imagine I'm going to get some flack for how close together the kids will be in ages... Oh well. This took the stress out of TTC for a second one, since we had so many problems conceiving with DS.

0408Bear

The only ppl that we have told are my athletic trainer (he was the first), my best friend. I won't be able to keep DS a secret much longer as I am really beginning to show. We went downtown tonight for our towns tree lighting ceremony and not one, but 3 ppl asked me why I didn't have on a coat (it is 39*). I ordered one from old navy and haven't gotten it yet. One of the 3 was my mother. We are thrilled about our new bundle, but because it is unplanned, I can hear the grief and sighs we will get once the news spreads. DH and I are just enjoying my bouncing belly each and every day!

Pinguinageddon

We finally announced to all of our family and friends yesterday for Thanksgiving

Mailmans Baby Momma

Finally got a plan! I got DS a big brother book as a stocking stuffer and I'm going to take a pic in front of the tree of him "reading" it and announce it around Christmas. He will probably be sporting a big bro shirt too.

NachosAndPeaches

fbanke42 said:

@AmadorRose We want to make a point of announcing since this baby was 100% a surprise, but we're really happy and excited. DH and I weren't planning on trying for another until DS was 2-3 years old. We conceived this baby the month DS turned one. I can only imagine I'm going to get some flack for how close together the kids will be in ages... Oh well. This took the stress out of TTC for a second one, since we had so many problems conceiving with DS.

I don't think 21 months is that close together honesty! I would say that's just about two years. It'll be hard at first but isn't it always?

AmadorRose

fbanke42 said:

@AmadorRose We want to make a point of announcing since this baby was 100% a surprise, but we're really happy and excited. DH and I weren't planning on trying for another until DS was 2-3 years old. We conceived this baby the month DS turned one. I can only imagine I'm going to get some flack for how close together the kids will be in ages... Oh well. This took the stress out of TTC for a second one, since we had so many problems conceiving with DS.

I'm maybe not the best judge because the women in my family pop them out left and right (my 5 older siblings were 8 and under at one point, I tagged along at the end), but in my experience the kids who have siblings close in age get to watch their kids entertain each other and grow up being very close. I'm a bit envious that all of my sisters were in high school/junior high at one point and could share clothes, hung out with the same group of friends, etc.

My pregnancy was unexpected and a bit untimely, as I'll have a year of school left after she makes her debut, but I'll relay what one of my sisters told me: a baby is always a blessing. If someone says something about your children being too close, you could always ask which one you should drop at the fire station. That usually shuts them up. The only concern people should have is for your health and wellbeing - as long as you are physically and mentally able to have another child, it's no one's business what goes into or comes out of your vagina.

spicedice

AmadorRose said:

fbanke42 said:

@AmadorRose We want to make a point of announcing since this baby was 100% a surprise, but we're really happy and excited. DH and I weren't planning on trying for another until DS was 2-3 years old. We conceived this baby the month DS turned one. I can only imagine I'm going to get some flack for how close together the kids will be in ages... Oh well. This took the stress out of TTC for a second one, since we had so many problems conceiving with DS.

I'm maybe not the best judge because the women in my family pop them out left and right (my 5 older siblings were 8 and under at one point, I tagged along at the end), but in my experience the kids who have siblings close in age get to watch their kids entertain each other and grow up being very close. I'm a bit envious that all of my sisters were in high school/junior high at one point and could share clothes, hung out with the same group of friends, etc.

My pregnancy was unexpected and a bit untimely, as I'll have a year of school left after she makes her debut, but I'll relay what one of my sisters told me: a baby is always a blessing. If someone says something about your children being too close, you could always ask which one you should drop at the fire station. That usually shuts them up. The only concern people should have is for your health and wellbeing - as long as you are physically and mentally able to have another child, it's no one's business what goes into or comes out of your vagina.

We actually ended up announcing it right before Thanksgiving (we couldn't wait anymore), and surprisingly had a better reception to the news than we did when we announced we were having our first! With DS, everyone was trying to convince us to wait or asked if it was too late to have an abortion (seriously, I had two people ask that to my face)! I had two miscarriages before the doctor put me on Clomid. DS stuck on the first round. When we announced that we finally had a sticky baby, a lot of people were terrible about it... Our situation has changed a lot since I was pregnant with DS. We no longer have our own place, but plan on moving in early March, since we don't feel like it's fair to bring another person into my parents' home. I kept thinking we would get a lot of flack. The only person who said anything negative was my FIL, who told us that he was happy, but thought we weren't ready for another one. Since then, I think he's changed his mind.

AmadorRose

fbanke42 said:

AmadorRose said:

fbanke42 said:

@AmadorRose We want to make a point of announcing since this baby was 100% a surprise, but we're really happy and excited. DH and I weren't planning on trying for another until DS was 2-3 years old. We conceived this baby the month DS turned one. I can only imagine I'm going to get some flack for how close together the kids will be in ages... Oh well. This took the stress out of TTC for a second one, since we had so many problems conceiving with DS.

I'm maybe not the best judge because the women in my family pop them out left and right (my 5 older siblings were 8 and under at one point, I tagged along at the end), but in my experience the kids who have siblings close in age get to watch their kids entertain each other and grow up being very close. I'm a bit envious that all of my sisters were in high school/junior high at one point and could share clothes, hung out with the same group of friends, etc.

My pregnancy was unexpected and a bit untimely, as I'll have a year of school left after she makes her debut, but I'll relay what one of my sisters told me: a baby is always a blessing. If someone says something about your children being too close, you could always ask which one you should drop at the fire station. That usually shuts them up. The only concern people should have is for your health and wellbeing - as long as you are physically and mentally able to have another child, it's no one's business what goes into or comes out of your vagina.

We actually ended up announcing it right before Thanksgiving (we couldn't wait anymore), and surprisingly had a better reception to the news than we did when we announced we were having our first! With DS, everyone was trying to convince us to wait or asked if it was too late to have an abortion (seriously, I had two people ask that to my face)! I had two miscarriages before the doctor put me on Clomid. DS stuck on the first round. When we announced that we finally had a sticky baby, a lot of people were terrible about it... Our situation has changed a lot since I was pregnant with DS. We no longer have our own place, but plan on moving in early March, since we don't feel like it's fair to bring another person into my parents' home. I kept thinking we would get a lot of flack. The only person who said anything negative was my FIL, who told us that he was happy, but thought we weren't ready for another one. Since then, I think he's changed his mind.

One of my sisters tried to convince me to give this LO up for adoption and another told me that "at least you didn't have an abortion." People just don't think when they speak. But I'm happy your family welcomed the news - that makes life much easier!

spicedice

AmadorRose said:

fbanke42 said:

AmadorRose said:

fbanke42 said:

@AmadorRose We want to make a point of announcing since this baby was 100% a surprise, but we're really happy and excited. DH and I weren't planning on trying for another until DS was 2-3 years old. We conceived this baby the month DS turned one. I can only imagine I'm going to get some flack for how close together the kids will be in ages... Oh well. This took the stress out of TTC for a second one, since we had so many problems conceiving with DS.

I'm maybe not the best judge because the women in my family pop them out left and right (my 5 older siblings were 8 and under at one point, I tagged along at the end), but in my experience the kids who have siblings close in age get to watch their kids entertain each other and grow up being very close. I'm a bit envious that all of my sisters were in high school/junior high at one point and could share clothes, hung out with the same group of friends, etc.

My pregnancy was unexpected and a bit untimely, as I'll have a year of school left after she makes her debut, but I'll relay what one of my sisters told me: a baby is always a blessing. If someone says something about your children being too close, you could always ask which one you should drop at the fire station. That usually shuts them up. The only concern people should have is for your health and wellbeing - as long as you are physically and mentally able to have another child, it's no one's business what goes into or comes out of your vagina.

We actually ended up announcing it right before Thanksgiving (we couldn't wait anymore), and surprisingly had a better reception to the news than we did when we announced we were having our first! With DS, everyone was trying to convince us to wait or asked if it was too late to have an abortion (seriously, I had two people ask that to my face)! I had two miscarriages before the doctor put me on Clomid. DS stuck on the first round. When we announced that we finally had a sticky baby, a lot of people were terrible about it... Our situation has changed a lot since I was pregnant with DS. We no longer have our own place, but plan on moving in early March, since we don't feel like it's fair to bring another person into my parents' home. I kept thinking we would get a lot of flack. The only person who said anything negative was my FIL, who told us that he was happy, but thought we weren't ready for another one. Since then, I think he's changed his mind.

One of my sisters tried to convince me to give this LO up for adoption and another told me that "at least you didn't have an abortion." People just don't think when they speak. But I'm happy your family welcomed the news - that makes life much easier!

Neither one of my SILs took the news well, but I'm pretty much just avoiding them. One was being terrible about it because she thinks this baby will take all of my MIL's attention away from her (she's 15 and is extremely demanding about going to do the things that she wants to do, such as ride her horse). DH has since calmed her down and told her that we are going to do our best to have both kids with is as much as possible, even if it means not having any time off together.

My other SIL isn't happy because it's not her that's pregnant. My BIL has told her no more kids (they have a 14 month old) until after they are settled into a house, which they are no where near close to doing. He only recently started working (he got out of the marines this summer and took a couple months off), so they only started making money again a short time ago. My SIL is kind of a "look at me look at me" kind of person, so I think this has more to do with the fact that the attention isn't on her. When I was pregnant with DS, she tried to say she was a little farther along than I was when she was actually 11 weeks less than I was...

The rest of the family and our friends have been very supportive though! My BF is actually TTC, and has been my biggest supporter. I felt terrible that I had an oops when she's been trying for ages... She's actually in the testing for infertility phase of TTC.

helleebellee

I made it through the Thanksgiving holiday and no one suspects.  We have decided we're not going to say anything, not even to the kids, and just wait until people start asking.  That's partly because the DH just lost his work (not any fault of his, just how things worked out) and the things people are going to say are bound to be far worse now than they would have been two weeks ago.  Oh well.  One more month of family gatherings to get through.  FX I make it.