Ok, I know that proper etiquette says no to a second baby shower, especially if they are less than 5 years apart. My fiancé and I don't totally disagree with this. But the first time around we had a boy and we are now having a girl. We have every intention of getting all of the big items like crib, infant car seat, and trading up our one child stroller for a two child stroller. We haven't been buying anything because we had some close calls and there was a close call recently where we may have actually lost the baby. Now that we have been cleared and given the everything is ok, our doctors are just idiots, we are coming to the realization we are down to 100 days and the holidays are right around the corner. To add to the stress my MIL says that it's fine to have a second baby shower with a registry and everything. My fiance's family is going to bring a ton of gifts whether or not we want them, so my question is, do I create a registry for smaller items so that I get the things I like rather than things I don't or do I just take a chance on the family?
Please be nice, I don't have the patience for rude people.