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Pregnant after a Loss
nekedfeet
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New here and very early (loss mentioned!)
nekedfeet
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Hi everyone. I'm so glad to finally be visiting this corridor of the bump... pregnant(!!!!!) after a loss.
My story: I had a wonderful, reasonably easy pregnancy for 13 weeks. At the nuchal translucent (12-14wk scan) baby's heart rate was perfect, rate of growth was great, moving around like crazy but what we couldn't see, that the dr.'s could immediately, was the fluid all around her body, as well as a hernia at her in her belly and more fluid around her lungs. She had severe cystic hygroma (or hydrops), which is merely a symptom of an underlying problem- in their opinion a major chromosomal abnormality. Cut to an awful CVS the next day, followed by test results confirming their suspicion: our little girl had Turner's Syndrome, and clearly the severe complications of non-mosaic Turner's. There was no choice to be made... it wasn't an if but a when. No dr. we saw said our baby would have a chance in surviving to term with such severe problems at 13wks. In the interest of saving myself months of being pregnant with a non-viable baby, and saving our little girl possible pain in utero, we agreed to the termination.
July 1, 2015 , at 14 wks, I was induced and 10 hrs later gave birth to our baby girl. Unfortunately the placenta wouldn't budge and I ended up having a d+c late that night. Followed by 4 weeks of spotting, which required another d+c to remove retained (and vascularized!) "product" (i.e. my body still thought it was preggo), followed by 3 wks of continued spotting(thought the hcg disappeared), which required YET ANOTHER d+c (that's 3 in two months!) to remove a very small amount of product still there, still vascularized. Thankfully that time they used the camera scope, and only touched the affected area, and thankfully, found some scarring on the cervix from one of the previous d+c's and removed that. Sheesh. Not only were we devastated and traumatized, but we just had continued AWFUL luck.
Here's where I'm hoping it changes. I had one ovulation cycle 4 weeks after the 3rd d+c, and 6 days after that (WOW-that was way too short a lutuel phase...) had my first, and pretty intense period since the pregnancy ended. Very crampy, bright red craziness... but it ended after 5 days thank god. I was traveling in NYC (I live in Sydney) and OPK's said I had a surge Monday and Tues. (Sept 28/29) and later on Tues. (after jammin' as much as possible with the hubs) I got on a plane.....
And we are.... early as early can be, 10dpo and I got a positive!! Its still faint (yesterday's was super faint) but it is unquestionably there. I am in serious disbelief. Is this really happening??
So scared, and so happy at once. Truly hoping for a sticky baby who wants to stay with me this time. It's really daunting- staring down the gauntlet of the next 9 weeks until that dreaded nuchal translucent scan. I didn't go in with a light heart last time, but I certainly can't do that now. Trying to keep my nerves in check, and my eyes on the prize.
My word is: HOPEFUL
Thanks for listening.
My story: I had a wonderful, reasonably easy pregnancy for 13 weeks. At the nuchal translucent (12-14wk scan) baby's heart rate was perfect, rate of growth was great, moving around like crazy but what we couldn't see, that the dr.'s could immediately, was the fluid all around her body, as well as a hernia at her in her belly and more fluid around her lungs. She had severe cystic hygroma (or hydrops), which is merely a symptom of an underlying problem- in their opinion a major chromosomal abnormality. Cut to an awful CVS the next day, followed by test results confirming their suspicion: our little girl had Turner's Syndrome, and clearly the severe complications of non-mosaic Turner's. There was no choice to be made... it wasn't an if but a when. No dr. we saw said our baby would have a chance in surviving to term with such severe problems at 13wks. In the interest of saving myself months of being pregnant with a non-viable baby, and saving our little girl possible pain in utero, we agreed to the termination.
July 1, 2015 , at 14 wks, I was induced and 10 hrs later gave birth to our baby girl. Unfortunately the placenta wouldn't budge and I ended up having a d+c late that night. Followed by 4 weeks of spotting, which required another d+c to remove retained (and vascularized!) "product" (i.e. my body still thought it was preggo), followed by 3 wks of continued spotting(thought the hcg disappeared), which required YET ANOTHER d+c (that's 3 in two months!) to remove a very small amount of product still there, still vascularized. Thankfully that time they used the camera scope, and only touched the affected area, and thankfully, found some scarring on the cervix from one of the previous d+c's and removed that. Sheesh. Not only were we devastated and traumatized, but we just had continued AWFUL luck.
Here's where I'm hoping it changes. I had one ovulation cycle 4 weeks after the 3rd d+c, and 6 days after that (WOW-that was way too short a lutuel phase...) had my first, and pretty intense period since the pregnancy ended. Very crampy, bright red craziness... but it ended after 5 days thank god. I was traveling in NYC (I live in Sydney) and OPK's said I had a surge Monday and Tues. (Sept 28/29) and later on Tues. (after jammin' as much as possible with the hubs) I got on a plane.....
And we are.... early as early can be, 10dpo and I got a positive!! Its still faint (yesterday's was super faint) but it is unquestionably there. I am in serious disbelief. Is this really happening??
So scared, and so happy at once. Truly hoping for a sticky baby who wants to stay with me this time. It's really daunting- staring down the gauntlet of the next 9 weeks until that dreaded nuchal translucent scan. I didn't go in with a light heart last time, but I certainly can't do that now. Trying to keep my nerves in check, and my eyes on the prize.
My word is: HOPEFUL
Thanks for listening.
1st Pregnancy: EDD 12/31/15; Diagnosed Turner's with terminal cystic hygroma 13wks; induced at 14wks, +3 d+c's.
2nd Pregnancy: BFP 10/8/15; EDD 6/21/16
2nd Pregnancy: BFP 10/8/15; EDD 6/21/16
Re: New here and very early (loss mentioned!)
Stay positive and keep us posted as you progress! Praying for a healthy successful pregnancy!
DD1 - BFP 7/23/15 (EDD 3/31/16). "We believe in you rainbow" DOB 4/2/16
DD2 - BFP 2/9/18 (EDD 10/19/18). "Grow baby grow!" DOB 10/24/18
BFP 11/16/20 (EDD 7/31/21). "Round 3 FIGHT!"
bntfroggie said:
2nd Pregnancy: BFP 10/8/15; EDD 6/21/16