Scared of having another miscarriage?!?

Sammm0706

About five months ago on may 13th i got the worse news of my life. I was 7 weeks along and had a miscarriage. One of the most painful things I've ever when through.

Right now im 6 weeks and 3 days, im so afraid of reaching 7 weeks. I am trying to stay hopeful, since this time around it feels different. Im actually getting nauseous, fatigue, and my boobs have gotten so sore this last week.

queenklau

I am so sorry for your loss. We also had a mc with our last pregnancy. It can be nerve wrecking to cross the different milestones. I hope that you get your rainbow baby this time around. Take care and welcome!

kimey1

The "Trying to get some of that excitement back..." Thread at the top of this board helped me, esp. when I had my milestone appointment. I had a mmc between 8-9weeks and I will be 11weeks in a few days. Try and read that thread above- you'll see that you're not alone
Not sure about some other boards but this board is definitely very supportive. Welcome and hang in there. We're all taking it day by day.

Here's the link:
https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12622224/trying-to-get-some-of-that-excitement-back-anyone-with-me#latest

Skydance

First, congratulations! Hope you have your appointment/ultrasound soon or can get your levels checked to help with staying positive. I was a nervous wreck until I crossed my 8w milestone, now at 11 weeks I still worry but definitely a lot less. Take it one day at a time. And enjoy those reassuring symptoms

Sammm0706

I have an appointment on the 20th 1st ultrasound, I will be 8wks. Once i get passed 7wks on sunday im sure ill be less worried.

Thank you all, i havent been able to talk about my fears to anyone. Besides my husband but he said not to worrie. This time around is definitely different, (meaning my mood swings, and pregnancy brain) lol.

babycakes8214

Congratulations!

 

I am in a similar boat. I found out at 9 weeks that I had a missed miscarriage on May 8th. I am now 6 weeks 3 days pregnant and also finding it hard to remain calm and optimistic. I have no ultrasound until 10 weeks so it's going to be another long 3 weeks. Just know you are not alone and this board is a great place to come to find some hope and some grounding.

 

mrszoess

I had a mc at 6.5 weeks in January. I will be 7 weeks tomorrow and while I had a great looking sac and yolk at 6w3d my doctor was cautiously optimistic. my husband is having a harder time than I am. I feel much different and "more pregnant" than my previous situation and he thinks the sicker I am the better off we are.

true confession: I'm scared to death. I have an ultrasound on Wednesday at 7w2d.

nekedfeet

I hear you-  afraid of it all.  I had a necessary induction at 14wks, after the 13wk scan revealed big problems.

I'm scared for the first scan I haven't even gotten to yet (3w6d now) and I think "abject terror" doesn't begin to describe how I feel about the 13wk NT scan.

Try to remember that every pregnancy is different- last times milestones shouldn't have any bearing on this time.  I know it's easier said than done... but we're all with you.

Sending you positive vibes...

mrszoess

nekedfeet said:

I hear you-  afraid of it all.  I had a necessary induction at 14wks, after the 13wk scan revealed big problems.

I'm scared for the first scan I haven't even gotten to yet (3w6d now) and I think "abject terror" doesn't begin to describe how I feel about the 13wk NT scan.

Try to remember that every pregnancy is different- last times milestones shouldn't have any bearing on this time.  I know it's easier said than done... but we're all with you.

Sending you positive vibes...

sending positivity to you too!!! whenever I have a scary thought I try and center myself and remember that how I feel mentally affects how baby z does physically.

kimey1

@mrszoess Thank you for this. I quickly smiled as I read this! Happy mama happy baby

mrszoess

kimey1 said:

@mrszoess Thank you for this. I quickly smiled as I read this! Happy mama happy baby

make sure you say that to yourself after a craving meltdown too!

keywestmommyof4

Scared of everything. I lost my last pregnancy at 14 weeks. I have 3 children already but I can't describe the devastation of my loss. I'm 11w 4d now. I pray everyday for my rainbow baby to be ok. So you aren't alone sister. I've actually spotted a couple times. But nothing is wrong. Every cramp or twinge send me into an uneasy stage. Best of luck to you.

PlainJane8350

I lost my first pregnancy and it was shocking, but I had my rainbow baby last month! I was scared the entire time, even on the way to the hospital (she wasn't moving, but it was 5:30 A.M. so it was probably just too early for her). Just because you've had one loss, you're not more likely to have another one. Every pregnancy really is different. Sending positive thoughts and sticky baby dust your way!

Sammm0706

Ok today i freaked out. Spotted tonight after work. My heart was in my stomach, so badly wanted to cry at work but no one knows im even pregnant. So i just did my best to hide it until we clocked out after we closed. Then i Headed to er with my husband. All i could think on the way to the er was why, is there something wrong with me im almost 22 shouldnt i be healthy and able to carry. My husband re-insured me that this time around it is different, to think positive.
We sat in the waiting area (because er was packed at 11 at night) i was nonstop shaking , fearing the worst but hoping for the best. I started feeling hopeful after we got to er because the bleeding had stopped none on pad or even when i wiped. Then finally after an hour I finally go called into ultrasound she wasn't showing us the screen, so i got even more nervous. Then finally she turned it around and show us the little baby, which had a heart beat. My nerves finally relaxed at that moment. I never felt so relieved, i cried because of how happy i was.
They explained to me that the bleeding can be from implantation since the baby does officially move down into the uterus. I know anything can still happen, so as of right now im still taking it one step at a time.
I do however have a uti. But thats nothing compared to a loss. Im so greatful for all the great support ive gotten on here.
My dr appointment is the 20th gonna call too see if they want to see me earlier since i was in er.

CherylR

I am in the same boat. I just turned 40 and found out I was pregnant last Thursday. It was the furthest thing from my mind that I could be pregnant and now all I do is hope that it sticks. The last pregnancy ended in blood and an ectopic pregnancy. My kids knew about it and were excited to hear the heart beat that never was. This time I think I am 7 weeks and don't plan to tell them till at least 12 weeks. I am terrified daily wondering will I start bleeding? Is there a heart beat? My first appointment is Friday but it is the initial with blood test and paperwork. I need to hear a heart beat to put my heart at rest. Praying daily this one sticks. I have two beautiful kids age 8 and 6. My daughter would be over the moon.

PlainJane8350

So scary! I'm sorry that happened to you. U.T.I's can make you bleed, too...but I'd still try to get in sooner.

peregrinefalconx

I just wanted to mention that I had a full on bleed with some clots about 5 hours after my BFP confirmed by an HCG test. I just assumed the worst, but further betas showed that everything has been progressing normally. Interestingly, I had to pee nonstop from the time of my embryo transfer (all day, all night) for those 10 days and as soon as I started bleeding, the need to pee went away [no UTI]. I was so "relieved" I didn't need to pee anymore that I didn't even get that upset. Next Friday is US...