March '16 February Siggy challenge- After Pregnancy hopes
Swillah said:Where do you even look for someone like this?? I searched baby nurse and it just gives me registered nursing jobs..
Ok I understand if you really want to do this and you have the money, go right ahead BUT that is a lot of money (to me) and could go towards baby's college fund or savings account or something. It's really not that hard taking care of a newborn. DH and I have no family close by and survived the first 2 weeks by ourselves before mil was able to fly in and help. PPs made some good points: you're gonna want all those snuggles before it passes you up and if you're breastfeeding, you have to get up all the time anyways! To each their own but I think it's a waste of money.
I'm in agreement with other posters that you will probably need more help with all of the "other stuff" than with the baby. However, I do think that hiring a non-family member (if you can afford it) is wise. Moms and mother-in-laws are great, but especially with a first baby they are probably going to want to help out with the baby more than anything else and that's only natural. Also, they have their own lives to live and jobs to do, so asking for a lot of help can be hard on them. I'm all for leaning on family for support, but only to a level that everyone can be happy with. Hiring someone else who isn't going to constantly want to hold your baby when you need to be bonding/feeding makes sense to me. I haven't been in the position to do it, but if I had my pick I would hire a cleaning lady for sure. The "downside" of breastfeeding (if it can be called a downside) is that baby is going to want and need YOU. My husband would try and soothe our newborns and he was certainly helpful with diaper changes, etc., but I was still the one who had to get up and feed the baby because no one else can do it! DS was especially difficult and really only wanted mom, ALL the time, so having a baby nurse probably wouldn't have done much for me.