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alishavirginia

Long time looking just couldn't bring myself to post until now. My nerves are shot. Miscarried @6 weeks in June. Dnc July and 4 weeks now. Just found out today. First set of blood work set for Monday. This will be my first child. Any advice?

bntfroggie

Congratulations, my only advice is to just breathe.

ALC08

Just breathe!! Those first few weeks can be rough but your nerves should slowly get better. I had two mmc in the past year and i'm 11 wks now. This will be my first as well. I know it's really hard when you have never had a healthy pregnancy. Hopefully your numbers will be great and that will bring you some peace of mind. We also decided to tell our parents at 6 wks and it actually helped us a lot. With my history it was really hard on us to go through it alone and i think we were both tired of having to tell them about mc's. Congratulations and i have my fingers crossed for you!!

cammlyn

I would say to.relax and breathe but knowing first hand that is probably not going to happen lol try and enjoy everyday that you are pregnant. This time I have a picture of my baby. I didn't get that with the last one. So just wake up everyday and tell yourself today I am pregnant with a baby that I love and adore.

Skydance

Getting pregnant after a loss is both joyful and scary.. Just know that this pregnancy is completely different to your previous.. hope you can try and relax and breathe! Congratulations:)

mwmiller4

Congratulations!! Pregnancy after a loss is a total roller coaster. I would say don't set expectations about how you'll feel or what you'll do. I felt terrible for being disconnected from the baby at first (though thrilled to be pregnant). I also worried way past when I miscarried last time which I didn't expect and I'm still pretty paranoid. Keeping active and having a couple of close people, especially those who experienced a loss, to listen to my worries without judgment or trying to tell me everything would be ok helped keep me sane. Here's to a very happy and healthy 9 months!

queenklau

I am on the same boat, a little over 5 w here. I had my mmc at 11 weeks last time so it will be loooong road for me too. I agree with PPs, take it one day at a time. We will get through this anxious time together. Remember "we are pregnant today!" It's my daily/hourly mantra haha!

alishavirginia

Thanks everyone! It's great knowing that there is a community here that I can talk to.