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mileidy12mileidy12 member
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Hey I was wondering and I wanted a few opinions. Should I do a baby shower it's my first pregnancy and how early should I do it.
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    ashton2190ashton2190 member
    mileidy12 said:

    Hey I was wondering and I wanted a few opinions. Should I do a baby shower it's my first pregnancy and how early should I do it.

    It's tacky to throw your own. A baby shower is a gift-giving event so hosting your own looks really selfish. It's typically the mom-to-be's mom or best friend that throw it
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    mileidy12mileidy12 member
    My fiancé wants to throw one for me but i don't know if I want one.
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    missemmawoodhousemissemmawoodhouse member
    mileidy12 said:

    My fiancé wants to throw one for me but i don't know if I want one.

    It is also frowned upon for the Father-to-Be to throw a shower.
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    mileidy12mileidy12 member
    Well I guess I won't be the first person who baby father does the baby shower. Don't like to depend on other people.
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    mileidy12mileidy12 member
    Thank and yeah but I just don't like other people doing things for me , I had my parents wanting to do it but I just don't like depending on someone to throw me a shower I went through a lot when I depended on people you know. The only person I said yes to was my fiancé and he's really excited to throw it for me I really didn't want a shower or anything but is something sweet coming out of him so why not have him surprise me.
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    mileidy12 said:
    Thank and yeah but I just don't like other people doing things for me , I had my parents wanting to do it but I just don't like depending on someone to throw me a shower I went through a lot when I depended on people you know. The only person I said yes to was my fiancé and he's really excited to throw it for me I really didn't want a shower or anything but is something sweet coming out of him so why not have him surprise me.
    If you don't like people doing anything for you why are you letting your fiance do it? What makes him any different from your parents? Both are wanting to do something nice for you?
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    flowerpower5838flowerpower5838 member

    Assuming your fiancé is the father of the baby, it would be the same as you throwing a shower for yourself. It's considered bad form for someone to throw themselves a shower (again, assuming your fiancé is the dad-to-be, the gifts received will benefit him as well).

    A shower is a gift that someone gives you, not one that you give yourself. If your parents have offered, I'd let them know you had a change of heart and ask if they'd mind taking the lead on planning the shower.

    I also don't understand how you can justify the mentality of not depending on others while still depending on them to buy you gifts and come to the shower you plan? Sounds like you just want to have things your way. If that's the case, just be honest about it (not that it makes it any better).

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    mileidy12 said:

    Thank and yeah but I just don't like other people doing things for me , I had my parents wanting to do it but I just don't like depending on someone to throw me a shower I went through a lot when I depended on people you know. The only person I said yes to was my fiancé and he's really excited to throw it for me I really didn't want a shower or anything but is something sweet coming out of him so why not have him surprise me.

    Question. Would you allow your fiancé to throw you a birthday party and to have a gift registry for the party and expect your guests to bring gifts to the party? Because that's essentially what you're talking about doing.

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    mountainmommy18mountainmommy18 member
    So, is there anyone else that's 18 or near it. Having their first baby. I really need someone around my age to talk to..
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    mrsloriwmrsloriw member
    Why not have the fiancé work together with the parents to plan and throw it? Then everyone's happy
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    kynbar5 said:
    Lmao. Thanks for that giggle. I've been gone for a week but that was pretty great! And yes, if you're going to call someone a dumb ass, at least spell it correctly! :)) And I quote "why not have him surprise me" hahha
    Thank and yeah but I just don't like other people doing things for me , I had my parents wanting to do it but I just don't like depending on someone to throw me a shower I went through a lot when I depended on people you know. The only person I said yes to was my fiancé and he's really excited to throw it for me I really didn't want a shower or anything but is something sweet coming out of him so why not have him surprise me.
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    DrillSergeantCat said:
    kynbar5 said:
    Lmao. Thanks for that giggle. I've been gone for a week but that was pretty great! And yes, if you're going to call someone a dumb ass, at least spell it correctly! :)) And I quote "why not have him surprise me" hahha
    Thank and yeah but I just don't like other people doing things for me , I had my parents wanting to do it but I just don't like depending on someone to throw me a shower I went through a lot when I depended on people you know. The only person I said yes to was my fiancé and he's really excited to throw it for me I really didn't want a shower or anything but is something sweet coming out of him so why not have him surprise me.
    Is it still a surprise if you know about it?
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    Zombies gonna zombie, but let your parents throw the shower if they want to, not your fiance.

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