1. "How did LO sleep?"(Because DH is unconscious all night)
2." You should do something with your day." ( as if looking after our son, doing chores, food shopping and family/doctor visits etc isn't busy enough)
3. "I'm really tiered" ( this one pisses me off the most DH has been off work for 10 weeks with a broken hand. He goes out all day with friends and comes back "tiered" this is when I wish I knew kung fu to whoop his ass lol because he instantly falls asleep when he sits on the sofa)
I know he's kidding when he says it, but really dude? We made this child consciously together, don't make it sound like a mistake just because I complain when it gets tough.. I'm allowed to complain to my husband about these things!
1. "You can sleep all day." Really? Can I? :-w 2. "Just give her formula." When he knows I'm trying to build my supply and EBF as much as possible. We feed on demand, so if she's hungry shortly after we nurse he is ready to use formula. On top of the fact I told him she's going through a growth spurt. Ugh.
I found this one funny but only because he said it right after my epidural kicked in and my sense of humor was back. After 2.5 days of labor and pushing for 3 hours already, DH says in the hospital "man, I shouldn't have worn these shoes. My feet are killing me!"
My response, "oh poor baby! Nurse, get this man an epidural!" She was cracking up. It was the only stupid thing he said or did during labor, but I will never let him live that down!
"Are you done yet? I feel like you've been in here for hours" when I am in the nursery feeding LO (still not comfortable doing it in front of neice). Um...I'm here as long as he is eating and I would love to be out in the living room spending time with you, but I'm not on my own clock anymore!
And "why didnt you ask, I don't mind helping" when I am doing anything for LO (diapers, pjs ect). If I want help, I will ask beleive me. But...when I ask him to get me water or anything while I am feeding LO, I get eye rolls and "you should have grabbed it before you fed him" Please make up your damn mind.
DH always asks while LO is crying "Is he hungry?" And I will respond with no he just ate. Then he proceeds to tell me just to stick my boob in his mouth.
Seriously? How about you get up and walk around or go rock him. Try something other than telling him "Your okay buddy" gosh that man can get under my skin!!!!!!!!
Last night I pumped so often as I'm trying to increase my supply and have bottles for the night. Well he offered to take the first shift after feeling guilty for snapping at me for asking for his help earlier in the night. At 5 am LO was screaming and I look over at SO sound asleep and ask if he took his shift yet. He says "Yeah"...
So I am up for an hour bottle feeding LO and pumping afterward. At 8 am I woke up and the sun was up and I could CLEARLY see that bottle had never even been used beside his bed. I'm more upset that he wasted my hard earned breastmilk than anything.
Last night I pumped so often as I'm trying to increase my supply and have bottles for the night. Well he offered to take the first shift after feeling guilty for snapping at me for asking for his help earlier in the night. At 5 am LO was screaming and I look over at SO sound asleep and ask if he took his shift yet. He says "Yeah"...
So I am up for an hour bottle feeding LO and pumping afterward. At 8 am I woke up and the sun was up and I could CLEARLY see that bottle had never even been used beside his bed. I'm more upset that he wasted my hard earned breastmilk than anything.
OFF WITH HIS HEAD! But no really I would be seriously pissed too.
Last night I pumped so often as I'm trying to increase my supply and have bottles for the night. Well he offered to take the first shift after feeling guilty for snapping at me for asking for his help earlier in the night. At 5 am LO was screaming and I look over at SO sound asleep and ask if he took his shift yet. He says "Yeah"...
So I am up for an hour bottle feeding LO and pumping afterward. At 8 am I woke up and the sun was up and I could CLEARLY see that bottle had never even been used beside his bed. I'm more upset that he wasted my hard earned breastmilk than anything.
OFF WITH HIS HEAD! But no really I would be seriously pissed too.
THANK YOU. Haha I'm sitting here fuming while he is burping LO in bed next to me. He tried to feed him the old breastmilk this morning (Maybe feeling guilty realizing he forgot his shift??) And I switched it for the new stuff from 5 am. Angrily.
Anytime I've had enough and am ready to cry he says 'Well, we can send him back if you would rather?'. It just pisses me off. Any sympathy at all??
Me: 37, DH: 38: ttc 7 years, dx: unknown 10/11: after 2 years, saw a RE, FSH 5.4 11/11: BFP! (surprise after thyroid & normal hsg), 12/11: missed m/c after 7 week u/s, 1/12: D&C 6/12 IUI#1-IUI #3: clomid = BFP!, C/P IVF #1(10/12) FSH 5.4, AFC: 16 long Lupron, 5R/5M/4F, all 4 made it to 5dt, 1 blast/1-8 cell transferred=BFN IVF #2(12/12)AFC 21, MD lupron, 4R/4M/3F, 5dt of 1 blast and 2-8cell. BFN. IVF#3(4/13) Natural start antagon protocol, 12R,11F. one PGS normal at day 6 transfer. BFN. IVF#4 (11/13) C.CRM (ODW.U normal 8/13 Still no Diagnosis) EPP/antagonist. ER 13R/7M/6F. Only 1 made it to freeze. Abnormal.
Looking into options of DE, Fresh vs frozen. 10/14 new local RE to look into what's next. CD3 FSH 4.7, AMH 0.9. Met with DE agencies and exploring options for feb/march 2015. Surprise natural bfp (4 days before donor is signed). Beta #1 at 9dpo: 51.8, 2nd beta: 195 (25 hours doubling) @11dpo. 3rd beta (12/15): 516 (35 hrs doubling) 4th beta(12/17): 895 (58 hours doubling) 5th beta(12/19): 2120. U/S at 5w0d(12/22): one gestational sac with yolk sac. U/S #2 (6w0d)12/29. One little bean measuring 6w0d with HR 124. 3rd u/s(1/4)7w0d: baby measuring 7w2d. HR 134. 3/30: A/S at MFM went great except for low lying placenta. Verifi results are normal! Team Blue!
Please send any positive thoughts our way! EDD:8/24/2015
Baby Will born 8/18. He's perfect.
Me and my partner sleep in different rooms due to his snoring. I do all but 1 night a week of the night care and every evening my other half wishes me goodnight by saying 'sleep well'....are you for real???!!! X
I recently started pumping and wanted to show him how my pump works. I took out my boob and was setting everything up when he goes, "You really don't have to show me. I already know how it sucks your whole boob in. I can see your boob is already all stretched out." My boob obviously isn't stretched out from one pumping session. But thanks. If I wasn't insecure before, I am now. I know he didn't mean to say it so I'm not mad or upset. But at the time it sucked!
My favourite line which I forgot to add is "why are you crying? Try not to stress!" Seriously dude? Your pissing me off either comfort me or fuck off sorry for the bad language but sometime I want to kick this man in the nuts lol
"Well its not like you do anything, at least you get to stay home and rest." Tf?! If Im not doing school online, Im breastfeeding on demand, if Im not doing that I'm holding her to get her to go to sleep so I can attempt to pump
"Skylearrrrrrrr, the baby is crying!!" No shit, Im not deaf. If you're laying with her and she starts crying and I know she just ate then why don't you get your ass up and attempt to soothe your daughter while I can get to her or when I finish what I'm doing.
"Im so tired." I. WILL. CUT. YOU. I'm sorry we're you the one up with her all night? Are you the one that feeds her? Holds her constantly? Bathes her? Changes her? No. And if you were tired than on your day off you should've rested and stayed home with your family instead of going to the club, the hookah lounge and the casino and coming home at 3-6am. Then MAYBE you wouldn't be tired!
"Just give her the boob. Can't you see she's hungry!" First of all, I know she aint hungry she just ate and if she is that os the reason ai am pumping so you can help me. Second of all, your an ass.
And "why didnt you ask, I don't mind helping" when I am doing anything for LO (diapers, pjs ect). If I want help, I will ask beleive me. But...when I ask him to get me water or anything while I am feeding LO, I get eye rolls and "you should have grabbed it before you fed him" Please make up your damn mind.
OMG THIS!!! he tells me "I'm going to make you a pre-nursing list so you don't forget what you need before you sit down." Are.you.kidding.me. if I had time or the brain capacity I would have already done it. And if all you have to do is stop watching TV for one minute while you bring me a glass of water you really shouldn't be complaining.
I know he's kidding when he says it, but really dude? We made this child consciously together, don't make it sound like a mistake just because I complain when it gets tough.. I'm allowed to complain to my husband about these things!
Every time LO is screaming for no apparent reason DH asks "what's wrong with her?" As if she's broken... ~X( ,I don't know, why don't you ask her, or shut your mouth before I cut you.
When LO finally falls asleep I run around the house trying to do all the chores, including making dinner, while he watches tv or sleeps. Then he says later "I'll do chores if you ask", you're a grown a** adult, you know when the sink is overflowing with dishes that they need to be washed. I don't like feeling like his mother so I continue to do it all myself.
And he is sooooo loud, he slams EVERYTHING. Just as I get LO to fall asleep he will make a loud noise and wake her up.
While I'm trying to soothe LO, "Hey, you wanna do something naughty later?"
I am sorry @micshi this made me laugh though. That would turn me off big time. Ugh, men!
DH was wanting some ST this morning, I'm still not cleared, but he knows that my pants have to stay on, so to speak. Anyway, we were just getting into it when DS starts to cry. He said "what is his deal?" I said, it's been 2.5 hours. He's hungry. He seemed so irritated by it. I wanted to slap him or kick him or something. I'm doing this favor for you, since I can't get that much pleasure out of it. Don't act like OUR child is ruining your life just because you can't get off.
I'm just not wanting sex at all. I don't really feel like I ever will again. It just irritates me.
DH just came home after 12 hour shift LO has been screaming all day not slept once and he says..."if you are calm the baby will be calm" he then takes him rocks him for 2 mins and he's fallen asleep. 1. I have been calm all fucking day. 2. Fuck off back to work smarty pants lol
"Can you make breakfast?" As I'm changing a screaming baby...
He tried to play it off as if he was giving me a break so I could eat but he knows I'm going to make enough for both of us and end up eating mine with her attached to my boob.
When people ask, "so are you getting any sleep?????" And he answers "well I am. I tell her to wake me if she needs me." Really???? He needs to be helping and not me asking. He wanted this baby just as much, if not more than me so step up and help. Also, he works all the time. Says he's just trying to make some extra money. In all honesty I think he doesn't want to be here. There are days he doesn't even see our daughter awake. It's very sad. Sorry for the rant!
Every time LO is screaming for no apparent reason DH asks "what's wrong with her?" As if she's broken... ~X( ,I don't know, why don't you ask her, or shut your mouth before I cut you.
When LO finally falls asleep I run around the house trying to do all the chores, including making dinner, while he watches tv or sleeps. Then he says later "I'll do chores if you ask", you're a grown a** adult, you know when the sink is overflowing with dishes that they need to be washed. I don't like feeling like his mother so I continue to do it all myself.
And he is sooooo loud, he slams EVERYTHING. Just as I get LO to fall asleep he will make a loud noise and wake her up.
Last night I pumped so often as I'm trying to increase my supply and have bottles for the night. Well he offered to take the first shift after feeling guilty for snapping at me for asking for his help earlier in the night. At 5 am LO was screaming and I look over at SO sound asleep and ask if he took his shift yet. He says "Yeah"...
So I am up for an hour bottle feeding LO and pumping afterward. At 8 am I woke up and the sun was up and I could CLEARLY see that bottle had never even been used beside his bed. I'm more upset that he wasted my hard earned breastmilk than anything.
( I am crying for your wasted milk. I know how hard it is to set up, pump,and wash your pieces. It's almost an hour process. So for it to go to waste is a damn shame.
It was like 3am, I just finished feeding my son, tried to gently put him in the pnp without waking him but of course he wakes up and starts to fuss. DH wakes up and asks me "when did you last feed him?" Like I'm not doing my job...so annoying at that time of night when I'm out of my mind tired.
1. "How did LO sleep?"(Because DH is unconscious all night)
2." You should do something with your day." ( as if looking after our son, doing chores, food shopping and family/doctor visits etc isn't busy enough)
3. "I'm really tiered" ( this one pisses me off the most DH has been off work for 10 weeks with a broken hand. He goes out all day with friends and comes back "tiered" this is when I wish I knew kung fu to whoop his ass lol because he instantly falls asleep when he sits on the sofa)
This exactly and add in "sleep when she sleeps" MORON: if I *could * sleep when she sleeps, don't you think I would? I put her down and all hell breaks loose. Ugh...
I'm a bit of a grammar fanatic (when I'm even close to well rested) so my annoyance is a bit different. I hate it when my husband says "you did that so good" to my lo. No. No he did not do it "good". Do not teach my kid to do "good".
I know he means well, but if DD's first stretch of sleep is 3 hours I'm lucky and it just goes downhill from there with length. And when she is sleeping, I'm only half sleeping.
I don't think I've had proper restorative sleep since the night before I went into labor over five weeks ago.
Same with DH saying he's tired because I usually do night shift solo but I'll add my brother to this. Since LO has been born, literally EVERYTIME I see him or talk to him he says how tired he is. I have to bite my tongue. Seriously.
Ugh, too many to choose from. I think my least favorites are 1) when SO tells me I'm spoiling our 5 week old daughter because I pick her up when she cries and 2) when I mention I'm exhausted and SO asks 'why? What happened today?' In a sincerely surprised tone of voice. Umm I get no sleep and spend all day with a screaming infant 7 days a week.
Re: Sentences your husbands/boyfriends say that piss you off!
I know he's kidding when he says it, but really dude? We made this child consciously together, don't make it sound like a mistake just because I complain when it gets tough.. I'm allowed to complain to my husband about these things!
Haha, no but really....who has time to cook?!!
2. "Just give her formula." When he knows I'm trying to build my supply and EBF as much as possible. We feed on demand, so if she's hungry shortly after we nurse he is ready to use formula. On top of the fact I told him she's going through a growth spurt. Ugh.
My response, "oh poor baby! Nurse, get this man an epidural!" She was cracking up. It was the only stupid thing he said or did during labor, but I will never let him live that down!
And "why didnt you ask, I don't mind helping" when I am doing anything for LO (diapers, pjs ect). If I want help, I will ask beleive me. But...when I ask him to get me water or anything while I am feeding LO, I get eye rolls and "you should have grabbed it before you fed him" Please make up your damn mind.
....
Are you fucking kidding me?!
(Sorry for the language)
Or , "hun just take a nap today"
And finally.. The second DS starts fussing while he's holding him he'll be like, "I think he's hungry now" even if I just fed him 15 minutes ago.
Seriously? How about you get up and walk around or go rock him. Try something other than telling him "Your okay buddy" gosh that man can get under my skin!!!!!!!!
So I am up for an hour bottle feeding LO and pumping afterward. At 8 am I woke up and the sun was up and I could CLEARLY see that bottle had never even been used beside his bed. I'm more upset that he wasted my hard earned breastmilk than anything.
But no really I would be seriously pissed too.
10/11: after 2 years, saw a RE, FSH 5.4
11/11: BFP! (surprise after thyroid & normal hsg),
12/11: missed m/c after 7 week u/s, 1/12: D&C
6/12 IUI#1-IUI #3: clomid = BFP!, C/P
IVF #1(10/12) FSH 5.4, AFC: 16 long Lupron, 5R/5M/4F, all 4 made it to 5dt, 1 blast/1-8 cell transferred=BFN
IVF #2(12/12)AFC 21, MD lupron, 4R/4M/3F, 5dt of 1 blast and 2-8cell. BFN.
IVF#3(4/13) Natural start antagon protocol, 12R,11F. one PGS normal at day 6 transfer. BFN.
IVF#4 (11/13) C.CRM (ODW.U normal 8/13 Still no Diagnosis) EPP/antagonist. ER 13R/7M/6F. Only 1 made it to freeze. Abnormal. Looking into options of DE, Fresh vs frozen.
10/14 new local RE to look into what's next. CD3 FSH 4.7, AMH 0.9. Met with DE agencies and exploring options for feb/march 2015.
Surprise natural bfp (4 days before donor is signed). Beta #1 at 9dpo: 51.8, 2nd beta: 195 (25 hours doubling) @11dpo. 3rd beta (12/15): 516 (35 hrs doubling) 4th beta(12/17): 895 (58 hours doubling) 5th beta(12/19): 2120. U/S at 5w0d(12/22): one gestational sac with yolk sac. U/S #2 (6w0d)12/29. One little bean measuring 6w0d with HR 124. 3rd u/s(1/4)7w0d: baby measuring 7w2d. HR 134. 3/30: A/S at MFM went great except for low lying placenta. Verifi results are normal! Team Blue! Please send any positive thoughts our way! EDD:8/24/2015
Baby Will born 8/18. He's perfect.
Really? I'd love to.
Tf?! If Im not doing school online, Im breastfeeding on demand, if Im not doing that I'm holding her to get her to go to sleep so I can attempt to pump
"Skylearrrrrrrr, the baby is crying!!"
No shit, Im not deaf. If you're laying with her and she starts crying and I know she just ate then why don't you get your ass up and attempt to soothe your daughter while I can get to her or when I finish what I'm doing.
"Im so tired."
I. WILL. CUT. YOU. I'm sorry we're you the one up with her all night? Are you the one that feeds her? Holds her constantly? Bathes her? Changes her? No. And if you were tired than on your day off you should've rested and stayed home with your family instead of going to the club, the hookah lounge and the casino and coming home at 3-6am. Then MAYBE you wouldn't be tired!
"Just give her the boob. Can't you see she's hungry!"
First of all, I know she aint hungry she just ate and if she is that os the reason ai am pumping so you can help me. Second of all, your an ass.
Wow. That felt good. Lol
When LO finally falls asleep I run around the house trying to do all the chores, including making dinner, while he watches tv or sleeps. Then he says later "I'll do chores if you ask", you're a grown a** adult, you know when the sink is overflowing with dishes that they need to be washed. I don't like feeling like his mother so I continue to do it all myself.
And he is sooooo loud, he slams EVERYTHING. Just as I get LO to fall asleep he will make a loud noise and wake her up.
Needed to vent (
Me: 25 | DH: 25
DD: Aug. 15
I am sorry @micshi this made me laugh though. That would turn me off big time. Ugh, men!
I am sorry @micshi this made me laugh though. That would turn me off big time. Ugh, men!
DH was wanting some ST this morning, I'm still not cleared, but he knows that my pants have to stay on, so to speak. Anyway, we were just getting into it when DS starts to cry. He said "what is his deal?" I said, it's been 2.5 hours. He's hungry. He seemed so irritated by it. I wanted to slap him or kick him or something. I'm doing this favor for you, since I can't get that much pleasure out of it. Don't act like OUR child is ruining your life just because you can't get off.
I'm just not wanting sex at all. I don't really feel like I ever will again. It just irritates me.
As I'm changing a screaming baby...
He tried to play it off as if he was giving me a break so I could eat but he knows I'm going to make enough for both of us and end up eating mine with her attached to my boob.
Sorry for the rant!
This exactly and add in "sleep when she sleeps"
MORON: if I *could * sleep when she sleeps, don't you think I would? I put her down and all hell breaks loose. Ugh...
I know he means well, but if DD's first stretch of sleep is 3 hours I'm lucky and it just goes downhill from there with length. And when she is sleeping, I'm only half sleeping.
I don't think I've had proper restorative sleep since the night before I went into labor over five weeks ago.