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Getting worried of having a super large baby

So I am currently 20 weeks and 5 days preggo with my first. I have been able to feel my monster moving around since around 14 weeks, however; this last week the kicks and stretches are actually getting painful. His favorite thing to do, and yes he has me trained, is to try to fit back into my pelvic area and stretch sideways pushing my hips apart so that i will get up and walk around. My boyfriends mom has been telling me horror stories from when she was pregnant with him involving being bruised from the inside from his kicks and that fact that he was over 10 pounds and 24 inches long. The stories combined with the pain im getting at least once a day if not more from the monster is causing me to have nightmares of a HUGE baby. Also, ive read and been told that he should be sleeping 12 or so hours a day, but the longest i have gone without movment in the last 2 weeks is an hour. He even wakes me up moving around at night. I guess im just curious if anyone else is having some of the same things or not? I am classified as over weight even though i dropped 25 pounds in the first trimester from how sick i was and have yet to even gain a pound since then, so im not super skinny like others who i have heard being able to feel some of these things at this stage. Bright side: my boyfriend actually got to feel the baby kick for the first time this week and he is now even more excited then he was before for our monster to get here. 

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    I can't speak from personal experience about any of this, but I know some people opt for induction to avoid baby getting too big if it's going that route...my brother was a big baby (and had to be in the NICU for a day or two because of complications due to his size...which is hilarious because he's now the skinniest person I've ever met), so my mom induced my sister and I because we were already a few days past our due dates and she was too scared that we'd stay in a couple weeks longer and grow to his size (we were both completely average sized). Some doctors will even suggest inducing if baby is measuring quite large to avoid a possible c-section later.

    That said, he may just be an annoying mover and not be that big for all you know, I'd talk to my doctor if I were you, and feel lucky at least that you get to feel him...mine is measuring a little small and I would LOVE to feel her moving around right now!

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    I feel very blessed for being able to feel my baby moving around especially as this is my first and mom wasnt able to feel me till around 22 weeks i think is what she told me. I have my ultrasound on the 4th and get to find out gender and size and such and planned on talking to my doctor about the painful movements then. I really hope you can feel yours moving around very soon caraboonie. 
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    You'll be ok but I totally get the fear! My daughter (2nd baby) was 10 pounds 3 oz. I did not induce early just out of personal preference to let it happen naturally if possible. She was on time. I'm pretty petite and my husband is not overweight but he's a foot taller than me. He was nearly 11 lbs as a baby but he was 3 weeks late (they don't let you go that long now). My baby was measuring very big starting at 20 weeks so I had two follow up growth ultrasounds to see how big she was getting. I was terrified. I did not need a c section- the baby being big in general does not usually mean you'll need one but your OB will do wars best for you and baby! my labor was more tiring/felt like more work than my first but I had an epidural so I felt no pain at all and I had only a first degree tear, which meant 2 small stitches. My recovery was not bad at all. (also, because it was a fear of mine, I'll add that no, I was not all stretched out permanently after that lol.)

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    I can't imagine how much your baby would have to weigh at 20 weeks to be causing that much pain and discomfort already. Maybe they need to adjust your due date the baby is that big.
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    I get the fear. The tech lady said my son was 10 ounces. so I looked up weigh and for being 19 weeks along, he's weighing the size of a 20-21 week fetus. Which has me worried. Especially since I'm already worrying because MIL said "Brandon's shoulders were huge" (talking about DH). Like thanks a lot lady.

    Plus I heard your second baby is always bigger than your first?
    DS was 6lbs 13oz at 37 weeks.
    So I'm probably looking at a 7lb+ baby to be born in January?
    So many worries.

    I don't want to rip or be cut, I wasn't with my first. I don't want to with this one either. My MIL doesn't help with my fears.
    But. Doctors won't have you deliver a baby that's too big for you. If worse comes to worse, they'll do a c section.
    Try not to worry too much. They'll start measuring belly, and if you get too big for how far you are, they'll talk to you about options.
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    The doctor should be able to tell if your baby is getting to large to be birthed vaginally, and suggest options. Just because your SO was a large baby doesn't mean his genetics determine everything. How big were you and your siblings matters as well.

    DH and his brothers were all over 9 pounds, as were his niece and nephew. But my family full term babies ranged from 6-8.
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    I'm expecting to have another giant baby. Both my other kids were 10+ lbs, so I assume this one will be the same. I had c-sections with both, which I'm so happy about. They didn't expect me to have such big babies. I didn't gain a ton of weight and I measured right on track. So you never know.

    For the record, my husband and I are both average size people. And we were both around 8 lbs at birth.

    This baby is super active and the kicks can sometimes feel a little uncomfortable, but I think of it more as my body getting used to it than the baby being huge.
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    I can't imagine how much your baby would have to weigh at 20 weeks to be causing that much pain and discomfort already. Maybe they need to adjust your due date the baby is that big.

    Same thing I was thinking and I'm 21 weeks. I mean today I could feel when he moved lower down and caused me some discomfort but it's nothing really really painful it just hurts depending on the positions I move in.
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    My brother was big he was 10lbs almost 11 still came out vaginally with no tearing (me and my mom have talked about tons of things now that I'll be going through what she already has) but I was small. Mind you my mom is only 5'1 I'm 5'0 that's a big baby for her. Maybe you should tell them about your extreme discomfort. Sure there's not twins? Sorry I just think that baby barely weighs a pound right now so it's hard to imagine him doing all that.
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    I get the fear. The tech lady said my son was 10 ounces. so I looked up weigh and for being 19 weeks along, he's weighing the size of a 20-21 week fetus. Which has me worried. Especially since I'm already worrying because MIL said "Brandon's shoulders were huge" (talking about DH). Like thanks a lot lady.

    Plus I heard your second baby is always bigger than your first?
    DS was 6lbs 13oz at 37 weeks.
    So I'm probably looking at a 7lb+ baby to be born in January?
    So many worries.

    I don't want to rip or be cut, I wasn't with my first. I don't want to with this one either. My MIL doesn't help with my fears.
    But. Doctors won't have you deliver a baby that's too big for you. If worse comes to worse, they'll do a c section.
    Try not to worry too much. They'll start measuring belly, and if you get too big for how far you are, they'll talk to you about options.

    Second babies aren't always bigger! My second was a full pound smaller than her brother and she stayed in a week longer than him. Girls tend to be smaller than boys in general too.

    OP, you could look into gestational diabetes diet stuff and try starting something like that. Basically limiting carbs, it can help keep baby's size down a bit.
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    @mommaSimpkin my baby also measured 10oz at our anatomy scan at 18w6d. I was shocked to see that it was at least a week ahead! I know those measurements aren't completely accurate but I am going to discuss it with my ob at my next appointment. Since my forster was a preemie and tiny, I have no problem with a big baby, it'll come out somehow!

    @jtaylor1989 have you had your anatomy scan yet? They should be able to estimate how big your baby is from that. Until then I wouldn't try anything to keep the baby's weight down, especially without having consulted my doctor. Having a big baby can certainly be a concern but as pp have said a baby that weighs less than a pound can't really do much damage. You can try doing some yoga poses that will help to lengthen your torso so baby has more room to move in the future but please don't try to limit your baby's size!
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    I just had an ultra sound this week and my tech told me that all baby's develop the same during the first part of pregnancy that's why they can tell exactly how far along you are by the baby's size. Knowing that I would say right now you have a wiggly baby not a giant one. My mom had 10lb baby's but my husband way only 5lb (so tiny), for me I don't stress to much about a giant baby, although it's a thought, it's going to hurt no matter what and its just more insulation to keep our winter baby's warm and healthy :)
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    MrsB915: i am not doing a thing to limit the baby's size. I only eat when i am hungry however which doesnt seem to be often as of yet. My anatomy scan is in less then 2 weeks so i'l find out where we are sitting. my first due date was in december then my first ultrasoud placed him first week of january so im wondering if my first due date is more acurate. 
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    I'm scared of a large baby too! My husband was a 10lb twin! But really, the doctors monitor all that stuff and we are still so far off from delivery :)
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    I'm slightly nervous about a big baby.  Our baby is measuring right in the middle size wise so far, but I'm only 18 weeks and 2 days, so we'll see!  I was an 8 pound baby, so was my brother, so was my husband, so I'm expecting a big-ish one, but not crazily huge.  But I'm a FTM, so thinking of anything weighing 8 pounds being delivered vaginally sounds... intimidating, haha.

    I would be thrilled with a 7 pound baby, but hey, whatever size she'll be is fine with me as long as she's healthy.  :)
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    It's such a hard thing, thinking about baby's size. I guess all I'll add to the discussion is that even if the doctors tell you that your LO is going to be big, it's not necessarily true. With DD I had an ultrasound about 3 days before I delivered and they claimed she was nearly 9lbs. She came out well under 7lbs. It's all scary, but as long as baby doesn't have some genetic abnormality like gigantism, and you don't end up with GD, odds are baby will be perfect size for you to deliver. :)
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    I was terrified I was having a huge baby with my first. I had painful movement probably from 22 weeks. I was an almost 9 pound baby and DH is 6'4" 240, my son was 6 lbs 11 oz. honestly there isn't much you can do to limit the baby's size unless you have GD, so don't freak out and just know that your doctor is trained to watch that.
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    I had two detailed ultrasounds at 19 weeks and his head was in the 97th percentile. Let that soak in for three weeks and you'll be about where I am now: going he comes a little early! Big babies run in the family. I also went through a lot of lower abdomen pain from him lying transverse and growing like crazy but he explores the whole womb now and doesn't give me trouble. I've been feeling him move all day every day since 16 weeks and he's getting strong! I feel like I'll see little feet and hands through the skin soon he kicks so hard.

    Anyway, I'm not going to cut him out or induce labor (I work in a maternity ward and doctors use the synthetic hormone for induction way too much these days, despite risk to the baby, just to hurry the natural process along it seems to me) but I sure as hell will be drinking tea, eating spicy food and having lots of sex to move things along at 39 weeks or so!! My doctor told me when I expressed my concern that ultrasound measurements, even at full term, can be a pound off in either direction and you never know for sure if a woman's pelvis will expand to allow the birth of any baby so the only way to know is to give it a try!

    So, ladies, let's just... Give it a try!
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    DH's family has big babes, 9-10+lbs, and even though my family's women have all delivered vaginally, we have babies whose heads do not mold. My little man was measuring 14oz at 20+1, so I definitely get the fear!! Here's to hoping all goes smoothly :)

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    When I was pregnant with my son my friend was also pregnant (about a week apart). She was so crazy worried about having a big baby and I was all "meh, he'll be the size he is meant to be". I figured he'd be pretty big, most babies in our family are over 8lbs and I knew there was nothing that I could do about it. At nearly 2 weeks over due my son was 7lbs 9oz; way smaller than expect, especially since he consistently measure 5-8days ahead. My friends baby was 9lbs 10oz.
    Moral of the story is stressing over babies size won't help anything. Also, ultrasounds are highly inaccurate at weighing the baby. I was once told they are usually within 2lbs of baby's actual weight.
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    Babies move a lot when they're asleep in the womb as well.
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    My baby is over 12 inches and 16 oz at 21 weeks 1 day. They think he is just a big bit like his daddy. Don't be concerned yet! They may move your due date.
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