Disinterested In-Laws....

StressedButHappy

MyCousinVinny

First, I'm sorry that they are treating you and your family this way.  It seems extremely immature on their end and it's not fair to either of you.

Having said that, has your H talked to his parents about this?  Since you sense animosity from his mother, I would let him handle this conversation on his own.  

But honestly, it looks like you've extended the olive branch more than a few times and they haven't taken you up on it.  At the end of the day, it's their loss and they are missing out on a relationship with their grandchild.

I know it hurts but if you've done everything you can and they haven't reciprocated, I'd stop wasting my time.  Who knows, maybe once you've stopped asking them to visit, they'll realize what they are losing out on.

mamom0103

My in-laws are completely disinterested in our kids. They live 6 hours away and DHs brother lives much closer with his kids so they're much closer to them. Even when we're with them they have little interest in our kids.

It's frustrating but I take solace in the fact that my parents love them to death and spend tons of time with them. As far as I'm concerned it's their loss.

saric83

I would definitely have your husband talk with them, but how did their first visit go?  Did they get a chance to hold LO?  One set of our parents isn't super interested in visiting now simply because most of the time when they have come, DS is sleeping or needs to be fed, so they pretty much just get to look at him.  I think they're just waiting for him to be a bit older to be able to engage with him a bit. Maybe that's the case with your ILs?

StressedButHappy

Bigboobsmcgee

You can't change people or make them be a part of your family so don't stress over them and focus on the family that DOES care.

delujm0

You say your husband talks to his father daily...it sounds like they're close enough that your husband could ask his dad about it.

My in laws live 8 hours away but have been down here twice in 8 weeks to see the baby. It sounds like you live close and maybe there's something going on...or maybe they just don't know what to do with a newborn and are waiting until the baby is older to participate more. My mom was here last weekend and basically only participated in the 20 minute periods post nap where LO is alert and not yet cranky...she didn't know what to do with a screaming baby really.