Ergo Aversion

Curlygirl2415

Recently my 12 week old daughter has started to hate going in the ergo. I the past I could put her in it and bounce her for a couple minutes, and she'd go right to sleep. Now she just gets so upset I eventually just give up and take her out. This is exasperating for me because I have a two and a half year old, and the ergo was the only was we got out to do anything (baby will rarely sleep in stroller, and the only with constant motion). Lately I have had a lot of difficulty getting her to nap in her rock n play during the day, so she just ends up napping super short periods of time on my lap on the couch, in between bursts of noise from my toddler. I hate asking him to be quiet so much, he just wants to be a normal little boy and have fun. But I don't know what the alternative is. I don't want to go in a different room to put baby to sleep, because then he'd just be sitting by himself for half an hour or more. I know it will all pass in time, and there isn't really a solution to this (but feel free to offer if you have one). This is really just more of a frustrated I'm-going-crazy vent. Any advice on the ergo situation is welcome.

Bigboobsmcgee

Regarding the Ergo...my son was like that as a baby. He didn't like to be worn at all. He also didn't want to nap anywhere but on me. My daughter was the opposite. I'm convinced naps just suck until babies are around 6 months old.

I had my daughter when my son was 2.5 so I get it. It was really hard to balance them both and not neglect my 2.5 year old but sometimes that was unavoidable. Unfortunately my son was using his Kindle a lot more often than I wanted but I had to take care of the baby. Most of the time my son would sit quietly on my bed with me while I gave DD a bottle then put her down for a nap. My son did really well with this and stayed quiet so he wouldn't disturb her. Eventually as DD got older, it was easier to have them both in the same room and my son didn't disturb her as much. It's just hard for the first 6 months or so of having 2 young children, then it all gets so much easier.

You really have to find a routine and schedule that works for both kids. Find something to occupy your older child while you handle the baby. It might not be ideal, like the TV or a Kindle but you do what works at the time. I know you hate asking him to be quiet but it really is temporary and he won't remember any of this so just do what you can to get through this right now and then it will be smooth sailing

Curlygirl2415

Thank you, you always give great advice:) I tell my son all the time that I'll make it up to him next summer, even though he doesn't really understand what I'm saying. Have you used a baby bjorn with either of your kids? I'm wondering if she'd like that any better.

So as your daughter got older, it didn't disturb her as much to have your son in the room while you were putting her down for nap? I'm asking because this has been the hardest part about having two kids for me, so I like to hear about easier times ahead☺️

Bigboobsmcgee

Well I hope I'm helping because I've been there and know exactly what you are going through!

My daughter likes the Ergo but I used a Baby Bjorn with my son when he was little and he seemed to like facing outward. I'd give it a shot.

as my daughter got older I stressed less and less about my son being noisy around her. She had to get used to it and after a while she stopped being bothered by noises and would nap anyways. Eventually I started leaving DS downstairs while I took DD up for a nap because it didn't take so long to get her down as she got older. (She's 10 months now) I'm here if you have other questions

Curlygirl2415

Thanks! I don't doubt I will have questions. It's nice to talk to someone who's a little ahead of where I am.

pixieprincss

It's the age. In years of babywearing education I've found that many parents have the same problem at 3-4 months. I think it is increased curiosity and social desire. They want to see the world! I would try to put one of her arms out so she can look around a bit more. In another month or so when she can sit supported, you can try a hip carry. That lets baby look all around but also burrow in when she's reach her stimulation max. This too shall pass!

CanadaMom17

12 weeks is the fussy period too, it could get better yet.  Also, see if there is a baby wearing group in your area.  They often have carriers you can try out to see if there's one that works better.   I love my Lillebaby - good for any size of baby, and six carrying positions.

Curlygirl2415

Wow I didn't even know there was baby wearing groups! I will check it out, thank you!