Am I ready?

haysnicrob

I lost my baby due to an ovarian ectopic pregnancy. It is extremely rare. It only happens to about 1% of ectopic cases and in my case my right ovary was removed. A few weeks from now will be three months since the surgery which is also when my doctor suggested I try again. She urged me not to wait too long because it was more likely to happen to me again the longer j wait. My problem is not that I don't want another baby but that I am still grieving over my loss. I believe I have developed anxiety and I live in almost constant fear of what could happen. I want to be pregnant again and I don't want to miss my window but I'm afraid to rush myself due to my anxiety situation. What should I do?

cyntodd

The anxiety is perfectly normal. Before I lost my baby I never suffered from anxiety but now I do get anxious over certain things. It is up to you when to move on. With that being said I think we will always greive the loss of the baby we lost but we can allow ourselves to move on from the sadness. I know I am struggling with that myself. I am heartbroken but I think if you can try again you should. You will always be nervous and scared no matter how long you wait. We lost the innocence of a perfect pregnancy. I hope that helps somehow. I am sorry you are going through this. (Hugs)

haysnicrob

Thank you so much. Since its been almost three months since It happened people assume I'm okay now and don't need to talk about it. They couldn't be more wrong. Thank you for taking the time to answer my question. God bless you and your angel baby

katempar

I'm sorry that you are having such a hard time. I'm thinking of you and praying for you.

Miscarriage is a traumatic experience, and your anxiety is completely understable. If you feel like it is really interfering with your life though, you might want to consider talking with a therapist or counselor. I have heard from other women that it has definitely helped them cope and heal. Sometimes venting to someone who is objective and removed from the situation can be very cathartic.

haysnicrob

Thank you so much for your reply. You make several good points.

MamaRoni

Today was 4 months ago we lost our Angel Baby at 11 weeks... I am almost 5 weeks pregnant and am so anxious and panicked and scared that I am not sleeping or anything. I am SO SCARED. I cried to DH today and said it all my fault because I naively thought I was ready.... and clearly I'm not. Like NOT. His reply was.. Baby, you've got me. I'm right here. Every single step.
Well that made me feel worse! Gah.... why can't we just have happy healthy pregnancy thoughts?

So sorry we've ALL been thru the ringer!

haysnicrob

I'm so sorry that you've been though this loss. I pray that your fears are alleviated and that your baby is healthy and safe!