I was wondering if anyone would be interested in doing a pair off of having a labor buddy. One of my last groups did this and I think it was quite fun. Comment here if you are interested along with your due date!
It's a more personal level than a big thread of check ins. Each buddy would ask how things are going, remind to do kegels, I think a few even did a Christmas exchange/baby gift if people were comfortable giving out that info.
I think it's way to early for that. There are still a ton of people on this BMB and a lot of people will still leave for one reason or another. Maybe waiting til later in the 2nd trimester may be better...
It's a more personal level than a big thread of check ins. Each buddy would ask how things are going, remind to do kegels, I think a few even did a Christmas exchange/baby gift if people were comfortable giving out that info.
For sure way too early! Usually the group of ladies that continue to post on TB goes way down throughout the course of their pregnancy. I would wait until like November before trying to organize anything like this. I think with my last board we waited until women started hitting 30 weeks before organizing this.
Yeah I think we talked in the beginning about waiting a while before doing labor buddies. There are people here still experiencing losses. I would say at minimum not before everyone is in the second Tri, maybe not till late second Tri.
Benjamin born on - 4/5/12 BFP 12/31/14, EDD 9/08/14 ~ Natural M/C 2/21/14 at 11.5 weeks BFP 5/24/15 - EDD 2/4/16
I didn't want to start a new thread since there are so many already, but are we doing this..? If so, when? Also is there a way to pair up FTM and STM/TTM (etc) I know I'd really benefit from someone to pester with my millions of questions.
I didn't want to start a new thread since there are so many already, but are we doing this..? If so, when? Also is there a way to pair up FTM and STM/TTM (etc) I know I'd really benefit from someone to pester with my millions of questions.
I believe the consensus was to wait until most people are in the 2nd tri. Pairing up FTMs with STM+ seems like a good idea though!
Benjamin born on - 4/5/12 BFP 12/31/14, EDD 9/08/14 ~ Natural M/C 2/21/14 at 11.5 weeks BFP 5/24/15 - EDD 2/4/16
I didn't want to start a new thread since there are so many already, but are we doing this..? If so, when? Also is there a way to pair up FTM and STM/TTM (etc) I know I'd really benefit from someone to pester with my millions of questions.
I believe the consensus was to wait until most people are in the 2nd tri. Pairing up FTMs with STM+ seems like a good idea though!
I thought pretty much everyone was in the second trimester now? I know some of us are starting our third. (Then again pregnancy brain and math don't add up) I'm a clueless FTM so I'm just curious thanks for responding!
I read in a previous forum that they give you someone who isn't due too close to you, that way neither of you will be in labor at the same time. That was from another BMB though, I googled it.
I didn't want to start a new thread since there are so many already, but are we doing this..? If so, when? Also is there a way to pair up FTM and STM/TTM (etc) I know I'd really benefit from someone to pester with my millions of questions.
I believe the consensus was to wait until most people are in the 2nd tri. Pairing up FTMs with STM+ seems like a good idea though!
I thought pretty much everyone was in the second trimester now? I know some of us are starting our third. (Then again pregnancy brain and math don't add up) I'm a clueless FTM so I'm just curious thanks for responding!
Also,Please excuse the bad pun. Not intended.
AHHH pregnancy brain! I meant third tri, not second. Lol!! People wanted to wait until late second tri, which I know many are probably several weeks away from still.
Benjamin born on - 4/5/12 BFP 12/31/14, EDD 9/08/14 ~ Natural M/C 2/21/14 at 11.5 weeks BFP 5/24/15 - EDD 2/4/16
Typically, yes. You get paired up so you aren't with someone who is due around the same time as you. Less likely that you will both be in labor at the same time and unable to update.
Benjamin born on - 4/5/12 BFP 12/31/14, EDD 9/08/14 ~ Natural M/C 2/21/14 at 11.5 weeks BFP 5/24/15 - EDD 2/4/16
I didn't want to start a new thread since there are so many already, but are we doing this..? If so, when? Also is there a way to pair up FTM and STM/TTM (etc) I know I'd really benefit from someone to pester with my millions of questions.
I believe the consensus was to wait until most people are in the 2nd tri. Pairing up FTMs with STM+ seems like a good idea though!
I thought pretty much everyone was in the second trimester now? I know some of us are starting our third. (Then again pregnancy brain and math don't add up) I'm a clueless FTM so I'm just curious thanks for responding!
Also,Please excuse the bad pun. Not intended.
AHHH pregnancy brain! I meant third tri, not second. Lol!! People wanted to wait until late second tri, which I know many are probably several weeks away from still.
Ohh! Okay! Thanks again, I know nothing about this stuff. It just sounds fun! So I'm assuming admin will start this later?
I didn't want to start a new thread since there are so many already, but are we doing this..? If so, when? Also is there a way to pair up FTM and STM/TTM (etc) I know I'd really benefit from someone to pester with my millions of questions.
I believe the consensus was to wait until most people are in the 2nd tri. Pairing up FTMs with STM+ seems like a good idea though!
I thought pretty much everyone was in the second trimester now? I know some of us are starting our third. (Then again pregnancy brain and math don't add up) I'm a clueless FTM so I'm just curious thanks for responding!
Also,Please excuse the bad pun. Not intended.
AHHH pregnancy brain! I meant third tri, not second. Lol!! People wanted to wait until late second tri, which I know many are probably several weeks away from still.
Ohh! Okay! Thanks again, I know nothing about this stuff. It just sounds fun! So I'm assuming admin will start this later?
I didn't want to start a new thread since there are so many already, but are we doing this..? If so, when? Also is there a way to pair up FTM and STM/TTM (etc) I know I'd really benefit from someone to pester with my millions of questions.
I believe the consensus was to wait until most people are in the 2nd tri. Pairing up FTMs with STM+ seems like a good idea though!
I thought pretty much everyone was in the second trimester now? I know some of us are starting our third. (Then again pregnancy brain and math don't add up) I'm a clueless FTM so I'm just curious thanks for responding!
Also,Please excuse the bad pun. Not intended.
AHHH pregnancy brain! I meant third tri, not second. Lol!! People wanted to wait until late second tri, which I know many are probably several weeks away from still.
Ohh! Okay! Thanks again, I know nothing about this stuff. It just sounds fun! So I'm assuming admin will start this later?
Admins don't assign labor buddies. Usually one of the members will do a document for it and assign randomly based on due date.
Benjamin born on - 4/5/12 BFP 12/31/14, EDD 9/08/14 ~ Natural M/C 2/21/14 at 11.5 weeks BFP 5/24/15 - EDD 2/4/16
I didn't want to start a new thread since there are so many already, but are we doing this..? If so, when? Also is there a way to pair up FTM and STM/TTM (etc) I know I'd really benefit from someone to pester with my millions of questions.
I believe the consensus was to wait until most people are in the 2nd tri. Pairing up FTMs with STM+ seems like a good idea though!
I thought pretty much everyone was in the second trimester now? I know some of us are starting our third. (Then again pregnancy brain and math don't add up) I'm a clueless FTM so I'm just curious thanks for responding!
Also,Please excuse the bad pun. Not intended.
AHHH pregnancy brain! I meant third tri, not second. Lol!! People wanted to wait until late second tri, which I know many are probably several weeks away from still.
Ohh! Okay! Thanks again, I know nothing about this stuff. It just sounds fun! So I'm assuming admin will start this later?
Admins don't assign labor buddies. Usually one of the members will do a document for it and assign randomly based on due date.
Oh to me admin is the people who have been creating and regulating the weekly posts, sorry. I don't mean actual admin who post like rules and stuff. I keep forgetting my brain and thoughts are different than everyone else's.
I saw this in January 16 and loved this idea ! Random sounds like the best idea to me ! I'm interested do you think we should organize by due date and location ? if possible that way if the other buddy is comfortable texting one another would be an option
I agree with random, but if possible I would prefer someone who has already had a baby so they could tell me all the details and I could try going to them for questions before posting a thread about like diaper sizes or something. (Bad example)
I saw this in January 16 and loved this idea ! Random sounds like the best idea to me ! I'm interested do you think we should organize by due date and location ? if possible that way if the other buddy is comfortable texting one another would be an option
Why location?
Benjamin born on - 4/5/12 BFP 12/31/14, EDD 9/08/14 ~ Natural M/C 2/21/14 at 11.5 weeks BFP 5/24/15 - EDD 2/4/16
@bookqueen I just saw that's what a few other birth month groups had and they said it worked nicely so they could text one another instead of having to deal with long distance charges. It doesn't matter to much to me because there's always this app or Facebook to connect with my labor buddy ! Just an idea ☺️
I think location is sort of silly because depending on how the relationship evolutions it might be creepy. I think it's best the relationship start off here then the buddies decide where/how to communicate.
You could do it t time zone, doesn't have to be location specific. Then it isn't as big of an issue or too personal?
Although, I live in the eastern time zone and both sides of the fan are pacific, so I'm used to texts and calls at midnight because they don't realize what time it is.
I think it would be good to put people together that want similar things. I'd like to text mine and be friends on Facebook maybe. For example wisco and I might not be the best pair because she doesn't want to share private numbers
I offered awhile ago to organize and I'm still happy to do so, or help whoever wants to.
Fwiw, I think we should leave it open- if you've already clicked with someone here, feel free to ask them if they want to be LBs. If not, we can randomly assign based on due dates, no problem. I know some ladies here have already chosen buddies, so it shouldn't be a big deal to do it both ways. If no one has any objections, I will start the new official thread to get this going and explain everything there?
I think it would be good to put people together that want similar things. I'd like to text mine and be friends on Facebook maybe. For example wisco and I might not be the best pair because she doesn't want to share private numbers
I agree! I'm an open book and have no issue sharing (probably because of the military forcing me to live and shower with 80 women..) so I would prefer to be able to at least email them from time to time. I prefer texting since it doesn't use my data, but whatever works for them. I'm super glad people actually saw this!
Thanks to everyone who explained it to me as well.
Re: Labor Buddies
maybe wait until post anatomy scans etc??
BFP 12/31/14, EDD 9/08/14 ~ Natural M/C 2/21/14 at 11.5 weeks
BFP 5/24/15 - EDD 2/4/16
Kiddo #1 = 10 cycles of trying, 1 CP and is now a toddler
BFP 12/31/14, EDD 9/08/14 ~ Natural M/C 2/21/14 at 11.5 weeks
BFP 5/24/15 - EDD 2/4/16
(Then again pregnancy brain and math don't add up)
I'm a clueless FTM so I'm just curious thanks for responding!
Also,Please excuse the bad pun. Not intended.
*Kate*
February 2016
BFP 12/31/14, EDD 9/08/14 ~ Natural M/C 2/21/14 at 11.5 weeks
BFP 5/24/15 - EDD 2/4/16
BFP 12/31/14, EDD 9/08/14 ~ Natural M/C 2/21/14 at 11.5 weeks
BFP 5/24/15 - EDD 2/4/16
BFP 12/31/14, EDD 9/08/14 ~ Natural M/C 2/21/14 at 11.5 weeks
BFP 5/24/15 - EDD 2/4/16
I will start a sign up for a buddy thread once we decide if it's random or picking.
Random you would just post that you want one and then I'll take all the names and match
You pick- you will write you're interested in a buddy then once that's done you can see who else wants one and ask them?
BFP 12/31/14, EDD 9/08/14 ~ Natural M/C 2/21/14 at 11.5 weeks
BFP 5/24/15 - EDD 2/4/16
BFP 12/31/14, EDD 9/08/14 ~ Natural M/C 2/21/14 at 11.5 weeks
BFP 5/24/15 - EDD 2/4/16
Although, I live in the eastern time zone and both sides of the fan are pacific, so I'm used to texts and calls at midnight because they don't realize what time it is.
*Kate*
February 2016
Fwiw, I think we should leave it open- if you've already clicked with someone here, feel free to ask them if they want to be LBs. If not, we can randomly assign based on due dates, no problem. I know some ladies here have already chosen buddies, so it shouldn't be a big deal to do it both ways. If no one has any objections, I will start the new official thread to get this going and explain everything there?
Thanks to everyone who explained it to me as well.
https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12637147/official-labor-buddies-thread#latest