I'm 34 weeks and it's getting down to the wire so of course I've been thinking about delivery all the time. I've had two dreams that I'm in labor; however I never have my baby girl in my dream. When I think about going into labor I get real uneasy and have to shake the feeling. This is my first and I'm scared to no end. Plus it still amazes me that something that big can come out of a woman's stomach and exit through such a small hole. 8-X
Awe, the fear is normal. You are going to be ok! It is a little mind boggling how it all works but it does! Labour is extra scary the first time because you just have no idea, but your body knows what to do and it'll take over. You also will have well trained doctors and nurses that'll be there to assist you in meeting your baby girl. You will do great!
Also FTM and freaking out! Im scared that I will pass out due to my blood pressure during labor ( it's kind of a silly thought.. but I've been so close to it so many times this pregnancy that makes me so nervous). Anyone have good tips on how to calm down the anticipatory anxiety?
When I freak out about it I just think of the fact that billions of women have gone through it and millions went through it in the 1400s and stuff with no medicine or anything really! Definitely helps calm my nerves
Get yourself a Hypnobirthing book!! If you ignore that "hippy" name the books actually speak pure logic. They teach you how to confront your concerns about birth, how to day dream about your perfect birth because often what the brain thinks the body follows. It explains about the natural process of the hormones that are released and that by being fearful you are encouraging your body and your cervix to tighten and stay closed. By relaxing and trusting your instincts your body opens and naturally lets the baby out. Also, did you know there are actually no pain receptors in you uterus?! How crazy is that! Anyway, sorry for the long post but get a book they are brilliant and took a lot of my concerns away because it all made perfect, logical sense.
I'm beginning to get scared of delivery too! I actually had a dream where the hospital called us and told us to hurry down because the baby was being born without us! Talk about disconnect, ha ha ha...
Don't freak out, honey! Your body was made for this. It will know exactly what to do! I have been talking myself up for weeks with positive thoughts and sayings!! I do this before massive presentations and tests, also. Lol Be confident in your mind, because your body already is confident in knowing what to do! Relax and let it take over.
KatashaC said:
Plus it still amazes me that something that big can come out of a woman's stomach and exit through such a small hole. 8-X
I think it was in Ina May Gaskin's Guide to Childbirth that I read something along the lines of - no one is surprised that a man's penis can grow/change shape from time to time, but modern culture doesn't recognize that a woman's body parts are also capable of growing/stretching as needed. There wouldn't be so many people in the world if our bodies weren't capable of giving birth.
Where do you buy a hypnobirthing book? I've checked a local barns and noble to see if they had any birthing books and couldn't find anything! I guess I could order online but if there's some place I could just pick it up I'd prefer that. Lol.
I've really enjoyed Mindful Birthing, it has some good meditations that serve me well beyond just the pregnancy and help with general anxiety. FTM here and I'm feeling pretty peaceful about what's coming next--although I definitely have my moments of occasional panic! ;-)
@hbailey11, have you tried a store like Babies R Us or Buy Buy Baby? Maybe a maternity boutique like Motherhood Maternity may have one also. Of course, you could also ask your Barnes and Noble to order you one ... although as a Prime member I find that Amazon shipping is so fast that waiting a day or two is hardly noticable.
Re: Freaking out
Also, did you know there are actually no pain receptors in you uterus?! How crazy is that!
Anyway, sorry for the long post but get a book they are brilliant and took a lot of my concerns away because it all made perfect, logical sense.
I think it was in Ina May Gaskin's Guide to Childbirth that I read something along the lines of - no one is surprised that a man's penis can grow/change shape from time to time, but modern culture doesn't recognize that a woman's body parts are also capable of growing/stretching as needed. There wouldn't be so many people in the world if our bodies weren't capable of giving birth.