I'm 14 weeks pregnant with my first baby and we just found out we are having a girl! We are both so excited and so is my family but my mom is really bringing me down. My mom is an alcoholic and abuses prescription medication and she has for most of my life. This year she has been worse with her addictions and I barely ever talk to her because it's always a stressful conversation. She has a way of always turning everything around and making it someone else's fault. I have always tried to be there for her and help her but have come to realize that me helping is hurting and enabling her. I really wish I had my mom because when she was sober she was amazing. It's like an empty spot that can't be filled and no matter how hard to try she continues to drink. I feel like now more than ever I need her for advise or someone to go shopping with but she's not interested. It's really hard to for me realize this is how it's going to be and my daughter won't have a grandmother (my husbands parents live in South Africa). Is anyone else dealing with this and how do you cope? I've been so down and stressed lately.