Pregnant after a Loss

Cautious Introduction

Hi!  I just wanted to introduce myself, I am 28 and DH is 34, we will be married for 2 yrs in October.  I just found out we are pregnant again after having a MMC and D&C in April of this year at what would have been my 12+3wk mark (the baby stopped growing at 9+4wks).  I am over the moon excited and paralyzed with fear at the same time I am only 4+4wks along, this is way earlier than I knew last time so more waiting.  I know it is completely normal to be scared, but I'm really trying not to let it overwhelm me. 

I found out about the MMC on the day before my birthday this year, and the new baby is due on my birthday.  I'm really hoping that it sticks or else I may change my birthday to a different day.

Anyway I just wanted to say hello.
BFP 2/11/15 (EDD 10/13/15). MMC 3/30/15 D&C 4/3/15 "We will always love you"
DD1 - BFP 7/23/15 (EDD 3/31/16).  "We believe in you rainbow" DOB 4/2/16
DD2 - BFP 2/9/18 (EDD 10/19/18).  "Grow baby grow!" DOB 10/24/18
BFP 11/16/20 (EDD 7/31/21).  "Round 3 FIGHT!"

Re: Cautious Introduction

  • Awe... Welcome! I'm sorry for your loss, and congratulations on your pregnancy! I found out earlier this time, too and it is more stressful because of your loss and knowing sooner! Are they pulling your levels every other day for the first week? Exciting! My husband never talks about our loss and he brought it up last night. There's no way to do it again without thinking of your loss and getting sad, but we're still excited about this pregnancy. So happy for you!
  • Our OB doesn't do blood draws, at our post op for our D&C we decided to treat the next baby just like any other, so I have an 8wk U/S.  I do think I'm going to request an 11wk and 14wk appt with HB check for my own sanity.  They also had me start progesterone just in case I'm just a worrier in general, I was worried the last time then my worst fears came true so now I am worrying tenfold.  Ugh.

    Do you think it would help my sanity if I got my levels checked?
    BFP 2/11/15 (EDD 10/13/15). MMC 3/30/15 D&C 4/3/15 "We will always love you"
    DD1 - BFP 7/23/15 (EDD 3/31/16).  "We believe in you rainbow" DOB 4/2/16
    DD2 - BFP 2/9/18 (EDD 10/19/18).  "Grow baby grow!" DOB 10/24/18
    BFP 11/16/20 (EDD 7/31/21).  "Round 3 FIGHT!"
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  • Yay! Glad to see you here! I think you were a fellow N15 mom with me? My doctor also started me on progesterone 'just in case'. I take it vaginally, and let me warn you, I have never bled or had spotting in prior pregnancies but, starting three days after I started taking progesterone, I started spotting and had a bleeding episode at one point too. May be coincidence, but I think it is from the progesterone. I hope you have a healthy, uncomplicated 9 months!!
  • I definitely do. You'll only worry for one day, as opposed to until your next ultrasound. The first numbers mean nothing (unless your progesterone is low, but you're already on that so it wouldn't matter), but after two draws and that first number doubling it helped me relax. Even though your doctor doesn't check levels, I do like the fact that they put you on progesterone as a precaution. I think that shows that they understand what you went through and are willing to try what they can to prevent it from happening again.

    I didn't know anything about hcg or progesterone with my first, but after my loss I wanted to know everything. I'm a worrier, too, big time. Once I relaxed about one thing ,like the numbers, I'd start worrying about something new so checking your levels won't make you worry free the entire time.

    I'd ask for extra ultrasounds, too! Regardless of whether you see a regular OB or a specialist they should be sensitive to your loss and try to accommodate you as much as possible. I'd go in sometimes when my doctor wasn't there and just see an ultrasound tech. Their office was slow so they were able to work me in easily and I'd still get piece of mind. Some people don't want to call, but never feel bad about asking for something that will ease your anxiety and help you enjoy your pregnancy more! Every woman deserves that, but especially after a loss.
  • @rachrobertson I was actually an O15 mom, I just miscarried around the same time as a lot of the N15s.  Thank you for your kind words, they have me on some kind of progesterone pill so it is oral, it just makes me sleepy but I take it at night anyway.

    @PlainJane8350 yeah I know if it isn't one thing it will be another.  Right now I'm too early for an U/S so show me anything I want to see anyway.  I'm just going to wait it out until the 19th.  I was even singing that stupid song about if this month has 30 or 31 days in it I was like maybe there is one less day, but nope July has 31 ha ha.
    BFP 2/11/15 (EDD 10/13/15). MMC 3/30/15 D&C 4/3/15 "We will always love you"
    DD1 - BFP 7/23/15 (EDD 3/31/16).  "We believe in you rainbow" DOB 4/2/16
    DD2 - BFP 2/9/18 (EDD 10/19/18).  "Grow baby grow!" DOB 10/24/18
    BFP 11/16/20 (EDD 7/31/21).  "Round 3 FIGHT!"
  • kimey1kimey1 member
    edited August 2015
    Congrats @bntfroggie !! Im so happy for you.

    I just got my BFP today! Im going to go see a doc as soon as I can and get progesterone prescribed.

    Hoping for our healthy pregnancies and births, everybody!!
  • The worrying is exhausting and I have no advice on how to stop it. But... I find this board helpful. Full of ladies who have lost a pregnancy or more than one. And who are willing and open to talking about it (unlike some of our husbands). So congrats on this new baby! Fingers crossed for a fun, healthy and pleasant 9 months for you!
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