I Need Eggs & Advice!

wannabeamother

So this last April MH and I had an unsuccessful  round of IVF but with that we learned that our unexplained  IF may actually  be on my end.... my eggs are crappy and so i need to use a donor egg.... MH and i are both on the  same page of wanting to use a DE and to fertilize with his sperm.... but the problem  is i dont know how about going for a Donor. 

All my friends and family  know but #1 i would never ask someone  straight up to donate and #2 those wo have volunteered  to donate may not be the prime canidate...my RE would prefer a donor  to already have children. 

So besides making a shirt that would  read "have crappy eggs... please donate" (kidding) i do not know as to how to pursue getting an egg. All i know is that i wanted to be pregnant  like yesterday...as do we all... but i just feel  stuck in cement and i can see what i want but i can't  move to get  to it....

Any advice on how to advertise that we need an egg would be so deeply appreciated!  And also sorry  if this is a strange/awkward question! 

moodytuesday

My RE does all the donor egg footwork. You get on their list for donor eggs and they match you. I am surprised your RE doesn't have a list or refer you to a clinic that does

jnissa

Are you specifically trying to avoid anonymous donor scenarios, or is it just that your RE hasn't made you aware of those options yet? 

I have a list of agencies if you're considering anonymous donor eggs. It can get pricey though.

(ps - I actually think any reputable RE would insist that donors already have had children. It's expensive to get a donor egg even from a volunteer you know - so they wouldn't want to risk your spending all that money and not having usable eggs at the end)

wannabeamother

Thanks for the responses! @jnissa I'm actually pretty open to anything! I would love to have your list of agencies so I can research more... and you are right about any reputable RE insisting on that... sorry sometimes I forget that I don't need to elaborate on here about certain details lol I just think I'm used to friends and family asking for all the details!

And I know! Money is always an issue with IF treatments which totally sucks and makes decision making that more daunting. And to be honest we are saving up again while we figure out what path were taking. I so badly wish IF treatments were covered by our insurance!!!!