How much time did you have off work?

SonyaL9

Hi all,
Very new to this group and in truth somewhere I hoped I'd never settle but here we are and reading the comments already helps so much!
Ive just found out I've lost my baby at 6wks, I've chose to have a natural miscarriage but after reading up maybe I should go for a medically managed one.
The docs have given me a sick note for a week and said see if I've passed it etc by then and we'll review but I'm just so bored at home however I'm terrified to go back to work incase I suddenly get cramps and bleeding and I just don't know what to expect.. Soo scared x

cammlyn

I am so sorry for your loss. I had an emergency D&C so I am not sure I am much help. I was off a week and 2 days. Once again I am so sorry for your loss. The board has helped me in ways I never thought possible. I have a great support system at home but this ladies have been there. It's home. 

jonesl12

I had a d&c because I wanted to get back to normal life. I bled after a little bit for about a week after and took 2 days off work total. I just wore a heavy pad. that was a month ago and now we're ready to try again . Life goes on and you will be ok just give it time and take off as much work as you need. My friend took a whole week off when she went through the same thing.

amyeva1989

Hello. I'm sorry

candicek15

I had a natural miscarriage and bled for about 3.5 weeks total, but only two of those days were insane, the rest were like a mild to moderate period. I've never had a D&C before but I can tell you I am glad I did what I did. Keep in mind the day when you pass the sac will be very painful. Everyone says that you experience "cramps" but they are really contractions. Good news is that they don't last too long. I went to work in the morning on a Friday and felt bad cramps and passed some clots. By lunchtime I went home because the pain was increasing. Late afternoon the pain was brutal and then it stopped and I passed the sac. Lots of bleeding for about a day after that and then a few more days of more period-like blood before it finished. I took one week off work but it was more for emotional reasons rather than pain. I know this is a ton of info and maybe TMI but I really wish I had a better idea of what to expect before it happened to me. I'm sorry for your loss and hope whatever you choose goes as smoothly as possible for you.

SonyaL9

That is so helpful thankyou for sharing and I'm sorry for your loss and that you had to experience that.
I started really heavy bleeding last Friday and went home from work early, found out Tuesday the preg wasn't viable but as had no pain or clots as yet it was still very much still in there. The nurse gave me a docs note for a week which carries me until Tuesday but if still nothing happened I just hate the idea of going back to work and then leaving again as its started cramping, feel like they then have to know the in's and outs and it's just too personal for me. I just want this traumatic experience to be over so can start healing and moving on I guess but I know it's not that simple x

amyeva1989

Hello wrote a post earlier but only the first few words have posted.
I started spotting last Tues and had a scan the following day. My 8 week baby had no HB and it had stopped at 6 weeks.
I am having a natural miscarriage too which is the best way I feel! Just have faith in your body to deal with it the way it should.
I have a sick note for a week. Mine began Wednesday of last week and I am still heavily bleeding now. The contractions will start soon honey and they are painful. Codeine and paracetamol is what I have taken. On 2 hourly cycle. I passed the baby last Friday then clots up until yesterday. Yesterday i went for a scan to find out there was 3cm of tissue left but wanted to just leave my body to expel it. When I got home from the scan I passed a large ball and then the pain instantly stopped! I am still bleeding (no clots) just bright red blood.
I'm a teacher and am going back tomorrow for the morning. I think a week is needed, maybe longer with it being natural. It can take time x x x

amyeva1989

Breathing & hot water bottles really helped me with the contractions too. Really deep breaths.
Once the physical nastiness is over with we can start to heal emotionally can't we x x x

SonyaL9

Hi Amy, your replies are really always so helpful thankyou, reading everyone's experiences reminds me that I'm not on my own with this.
I've still had no development today so I've decided to have medical management on Sunday and go take the pill to kickstart, not something I wanted to do at all but the waiting is driving me crazy and the thought of another week of this is driving me mad, I now want to get back to work and start getting stronger and I think if I'm back at work I'll be constantly waiting for cramps and bleeding to start and worrying about leaving early again. My sick note runs out weds so hopefully if I have the treatment Sunday the worst will be over by then Lots of love as always to you all and sorry that we have to go through this xxx

MWoodside

I'm so sorry for your loss. With my prior loss I had a d&C after waiting a week to bleed on my own. I took off 8 work days. I had a dr note, but std denied it. I was 14 wks when my loss was discovered.

This time I'm 8w3d waiting to miscarry. I will prob end up with a d&c and if that is the case I'll take 1-2 days off (day of procedure and day after unless procedure is in a Friday).

nerdymama15

I think I got lucky with the work thing.  My work told me to take a week off.  I was just going to take the two days on my doctor note, but they told me to take a week off.  They marked it as vacation time so I got paid. 

Toughchick823

Sorry for everyone's losses. I took three weeks off from work when I miscarried. The first week was more for the physical pain and bleeding. The other two I took off for the emotional. Make sure you take time for yourself and your spouse.

katempar

I just had my D&C this morning and am actually considering going back to work tomorrow. My boss is really understanding, but I think it might help me to get back into my normal routine. I also want to give myself enough time to cope, though...

bjornbear

At end of week 10 i found out there was no heart beat on Friday, started cramping Sunday lunch and then bleeding a crazy amount (couldn't get off toilet without filling a pad directly and had enormous clots) for 4 or 5 hours (cramps eased once started bleeding). Then bleeding eased a lot. Then had cramps on the Tuesday afternoon and passed the sac. After that I've had small amount of bleeding for a few days which now seems to have stopped. No pain since Tuesday but had bad headaches (prob stress) and am anaemic now so trying to eat iron rich foods. It hit me emotionally on the Tuesday when I passed the sac. Had been pretty ok before that. I took 3 days off work. Was glad to go to work on the Thursday to get my mind of things. But you have to do what is best for you as every miscarriage will have different degrees of physical and emotional pain for each person. Don't push yourself and give yourself time to grieve if you need that. Hugs to get you through this

GridIronGrrl34

I am so sorry you are going through this! I took one week off work and have miscarried naturally. I had some mild cramping on Wednesday but have had absolutely no pain other than that. Passed the tissue in Thursday. From a physical standpoint, I could easily have worked (and
I have a pretty physical job) through the whole thing. I took time off for emotional reasons. Good luck to you in making your decision.

daystardreams

I'm sorry for your loss.

With my first, I found out at a routine OB appointment that the baby had passed at 10 weeks. I opted for a D&C which they scheduled for Thursday. I took off the whole next week and returned the next Monday. So I was off for nine days but only took five days off.

I found out I would miscarry a second time from beta levels on a Tuesday. I left as soon as I got the phone call. The next day happened to be Christmas Eve so I was off work anyway for two days. The miscarriage started naturally Christmas morning. I took the following day off and returned to work on Monday. So I was off five days but only missed one technical day of work.

My third miscarriage was discovered via ultrasound in a Monday. I couldn't miss work so I worked the week anyway, scheduled the D&C for Friday. I missed that day of course but returned on Tuesday so only four days off but I was only scheduled to work Friday.

Take all the time you need though. I'm sorry for your loss.

Romano123

Hi! So sorry for your loss. I didn't take any time off work. I found out Friday afternoon the pregnancy wasn't viable at 12 weeks. Took cytotec the next morning and was back at work on Monday morning. I just have a desk job and being at work was much better to keep my mind occupied.

Newlywed_Amanda

A little over a week from when I realized I was miscarring. A full week off after my D&C.

stacyhenry329

I had a natural miscarriage at 5 weeks. I bled for about a week. I took off two weeks of work. I wanted to go back when the bleeding stopped and when I emotionally felt I could. If you are worried about work you probably aren't quite ready. You could also try to work out something with your work to work a lighter load or less hours when you go back. Do what is best for you!

valleric

I had a natural miscarriage on a Sunday and went back to work 3 days later on a wednesday

DrKariC

I took cytotec on a weekend that I wasn't working and didn't take any time off except a doctors appt early on to confirm the mc. Cytotec didn't actually work and I naturally miscarried a week later while in the middle of my shift, but I'd been bleeding slowly for 3 weeks already so it wasn't too heavy and I didn't go home. For me taking time off would have been too hard - I needed to keep my normal routine.

fsuswim

I had a natural miscarriage at 7 weeks. I took off a total of 6 days from work. The cramping and bleeding slowly got worse so I had plenty of time to get home to rest. My hot water bottle and warm baths with lavender and Epsom salt helped to ease the process.

almostahawk

Happened naturally and I've taken 3 days off work.  I intend to go back after the weekend.  To be honest I was physically okay to go back yesterday, but not emotionally ready to deal with people asking if I was okay.  No one at work knows what's happened, but they know something has and will be asking about it.  I'll feel more able to put on a brave face and brush it off and forget on Monday after a weekend has passed and everyone's probably forgotten that I was off in the first place. 

EDIT: Damn, seeing my signature hasn't helped at all. 

tennisbabymama

I'm going back on Wednesday. I miscarried Thursday night and have still been having pretty severe cramps. My doc says this can last a week. Still trying to get it together emotionally.

jackieoickle

Sorry for your losses. I miscarried yesterday using mistroprostol. I went for a dating 2 weeks ago thinking I was close to 10 weeks only to find out I was only showing 5 weeks. My doctor was hopefully and said wait it out another 2weeks to go for an ultrasound again, maybe my dates were off. A couple days before the ultrasound I started showing signs of a miscarriage. I'm hoping I passed everything yesterday, I'm feeling much better just a bit weak due to not eating much. I'm hoping to return to work Tuesday. So 3 days I hope is all I will be taking off

queen_frostine

I scheduled a d&c for a Friday and only missed that day (back at work Monday). I probably could have worked the next day if I'd really needed to - I teach college, so the most strenuous part of my job is walking from one class to another. (Yes, I stand up and walk around while lecturing sometimes, but I can also do that from my chair.) I can't miss any work without specifically getting another person to take my classes, so I chose a d&c partly so I would be able to control when I had to be absent and how long. I didn't want to be stuck in a public bathroom trying to frantically text someone to take my class in the next five minutes. While at the one hand I'm a bit envious of people able to take days off just to deal emotionally, I think having a distraction and something to put my energy into is much healthier for me personally.

@almostahawk I just did that to myself, too. (Not to mention that my baby was supposed to be the size of a blueberry and when my husband did the shopping for me on the day of my procedure, he brought home some treats including... blueberries. I didn't say anything to him, though, because he was trying and he also bought plenty of chocolate.)