Anybody's husbands freaking out?

soccerajb3

My fiancé and I are expecting our first. Although he's happy to be having a baby, he's also freaking out. He feels like his life is over and he won't be able to do anything fun anymore. He has been doing as much as he can in these last few weeks before baby comes (going on our boat, hanging out with friends, etc.). He is still a big help with prepping the nursery and such and obviously includes me in all these plans but sometimes it can get frustrating when I want nothing more than to get the last finishing touches of the house done. Anyone else in the same situation?

CarelessDiva89

Having a baby can add extra stress & pressure to any relationship/or person. The unknown can be scary but it's probably just his nerves. I think it's always best to communicate how each other is feeling & making a common goal to understand one another & get on the same page. I would just assure him that his life isn't over but a new chapter is beginning. Communication is always key in any relationship

JNOVA2015

My husband is the opposite - he's so calm about it that it sometimes freaks me out!  His approach to everything is "people have been having babies for thousands of years and we're reasonable, educated people - we'll figure everything out, I'm not worried about it."  I signed us up for baby class because neither of us have spent a lot of time around babies and I don't really know how to do things like swaddle or breastfeed.  When we left the class DH was like "that was 6 hours of stuff we could have figured out by common sense and 45 minutes on the internet, but I guess it's good to know."

We had most of our crazy times in our early and mid-20s (we are both 30 now), and had slowed down the partying already before I got pregnant, so he hasn't gone too crazy on the "last hurrahs."  His friends did take him to Vegas in May as a last trip without baby, but other than that he hasn't seemed too worried about it.  I'm sure your fiance will adjust when baby gets here!

netters625

Mine hasent said anything, but told be the other day he had 2 dreams in the same night about the world ending....I laughed and said yup our world as we know it is ending.

ann_jeremiah

JNOVA2015 said:

My husband is the opposite - he's so calm about it that it sometimes freaks me out!  His approach to everything is "people have been having babies for thousands of years and we're reasonable, educated people - we'll figure everything out, I'm not worried about it."  I signed us up for baby class because neither of us have spent a lot of time around babies and I don't really know how to do things like swaddle or breastfeed.  When we left the class DH was like "that was 6 hours of stuff we could have figured out by common sense and 45 minutes on the internet, but I guess it's good to know."

This sounds just JUST like my husband! haha!! Baby #3 for us here, though. I do have to say we went to child care, birthing and breast feeding classes together and for some reason when  DS1 was born he almost passed out (according to him.. he needed food). He was also pissed thinking there was going to be some drape that falls from the ceiling so he didn't need to see my business or baby being born.. ha! with DS2, it was different again as it ended with a csection. This time we are having our first baby girl.. I wonder if he's terrified. )

countryrhodes90

My husband is the calm one, I'm the one freaking out! ) he's getting more excited about the baby as we near the date, and as I get nervous I think he gets more excited. He's always telling me everything's going to be fine and not to worry.

hitcj4687

We are both anxious and excited. He feels like he needs to be doing things because he doesn't think he will get to do anything fun for awhile, but that's kinda true!

archetypeblonde

My SO is getting extremely excited! For the entire pregnancy to this point I've had to reassure him that he will figure out the dos and don'ts as we go, like diaper changing, bottle feeding, how to properly hold a newborn, etc. But recently something switched and he has gone from terrified anxious to confident dad! So cute to see him crawl into bed with his baby book and read facts to me. Every dad is different! Let him find his way and "freak out" a little in the mean time and reassure him that he can do it.