Plus size, pregnant, and annoyed...

astreetx3

Im kinda tired of friends, family, and strangers saying to me " you dont even look pregnant!" I'm 36 weeks, do they think that's a compliment or something? I just want to be like, "Gee, thanks for basically saying i just look fatter than usual"
I don't get why people feel the need to comment on a pregnant womans body all the time.

jillianmae2ndstar

The only acceptable thing is to say "congratulations, how wonderful and I'm so happy for you!" When will people learn!!!

atthemoment

Im 5'3 200lbs and 35w. Everyone keeps telling me how big i look and that im gonna go into labor early.... Or that i "look ready to go"... Really? I have a solid month til my due date!!

anythingelseplease

I am going to start a Kickstarter to raise money to buy every pregnant woman a scale and a mirror because apparently pregnant women have no idea how they look. Everyone they meet must know about the disappearance of these items during pregnancy because they must inform them every time they see them of their size/weight/shape. I am so glad for the public service of others, I don't know what I would do without them.

Joie80

jillianmae2ndstar said:

The only acceptable thing is to say "congratulations, how wonderful and I'm so happy for you!" When will people learn!!!

This along with, "You look great! "

astreetx3

I kept thinking "how big do you think i was beforehand?" ive gained a little over 30 lbs and i have a definite bump going on here, im all belly as far as i can see!

abbybaby19

I get a lot of surprised looks when I mention being pregnant. I know Im fat, but can people not tell the difference? Every time I go out I try to wear clothes that look the most pregnant in the hopes that I wont get that reaction anymore.

Miz_Liz

My advice is just always have some whitty comeback to say to people when they make a rude comment. Say something like, "Well, I sure hope I am because otherwise my husband is going to be pissed we have paid for all of those Dr's appointments and Ultra Sounds for nothing!" or "That's just because you are so distracted by my stunning good looks!" Saying something whitty back at them will probably make them realize that they are a total ass. Also, remember that the people who do make these comments are the ones who really do not matter in your life or who you will never see again - and if it is someone who DOES matter in your life, tell them they are being an ass!

carriebelle77

That happened to me with DD #1, then it was more obvious w/DS#2....now w/ #3....the baby bump is CLEAR!! I don't know which is more irritating...having people be surprised I was pregnant w/ #1 or having people say I look like I'm going to give birth any minute w/ #3.

Sbuxtonteaches

I have the world's largest belly! After ordering my coffee at Dunkin donuts the ladies behind the counter kept telling me I was going to go any day - all just staring at me and assessing my belly while the customers on line behind me waited for their turn. Humiliating! But honestly - i try so very hard to believe that no one is saying this to be malicious. I think people are just infatuated w baby bumps. They say such stupid things but I cope with the belief it was out of kindness not cruelty!

kelseyrayay

In the words of Chris Brown "put your middle finger up let the index finger follow". >-

dkizz82

Exactly! I am so sick of hearing that. It's not a compliment because you apparently think I always look this way. I want to bitch slap the next person who says that to me.

kettlekitten

Miz_Liz said:

My advice is just always have some whitty comeback to say to people when they make a rude comment. Say something like, "Well, I sure hope I am because otherwise my husband is going to be pissed we have paid for all of those Dr's appointments and Ultra Sounds for nothing!" or "That's just because you are so distracted by my stunning good looks!" Saying something whitty back at them will probably make them realize that they are a total ass. Also, remember that the people who do make these comments are the ones who really do not matter in your life or who you will never see again - and if it is someone who DOES matter in your life, tell them they are being an ass!

Or 'you're looking a bit chubby yourself, you're not pregnant as well are you/have you gained weight?'

talisha1992

Had my baby shower on Friday and my aunt (who I haven't seen in months) said " oh my god your belly has now caught up with your ass" I was gobsmacked, all I could say was "this ass definitely runs in the family" she then acted hurt and shocked. I just laughed and carried on with my party lol

sarahmu7

My shower was on Saturday and I got both sides of the spectrum. "You look like you've lost weight!" And "maybe it's twins!" I have lost weight, I was heavier to begin with and morning sickness was terrible well into the 2nd trimester. I'm still not eating a whole lot since I get full quickly. And unless the 2nd baby is an exact mirror to the first, there's no way there's twins in there with all the ultrasounds and whatnot I've had. I chalk it up to people not knowing what to say and just saying the first thing that pops in their heads. So far nothing has been said with malice, but I still have 6 wks to go and another family barbecue this weekend so I may feel differently next week.

xsunshinelady15

I say, let the rude comments be your motivation to get into shape after baby comes. Don't let the cruel comments take your spirit. After you are given the all clear from doc, plan to eat right, workout, feel and look your best! Best revenge is letting the negative folks wish they looked as good as you after birthing a baby! Just my take on it. In other words, let the haters be your motivators. Making that change will give you more energy to chAse after LO anyway right? See bright side to everything.. Hope you feel better after all of these supportive posts