I am only 10 weeks. Will he change his tune once he sees the baby? I am 37 and he is 35. We've been together for two years. Never used protection because I didn't think I could get pregnant. However, he always knew I'd keep the baby if it happened. This is making it very hard for me to feel affectionate toward him at all. As a matter of fact, most days I feel very resentful. We used to have a great time together. Financially I don't know how I can make it work without him but sometimes I wish I was single. It's almost like he thinks I'm still gonna be his girlfriend and live with him but he is going to carry on his life as if there is no baby in it. I feel like I'm going crazy.
Re: Boyfriend doesn't want the baby, but wants to stay together.
I would never be with someone who didn't love and accept my child. Have you asked him what his expectations are for the future?
To the bolded: financially he would owe you child support, whether he chooses to be in the baby's life or not.
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That said, he should still be respectful of you and what you're feeling right now. I was the one that was scared and nervous. My DH, who I thought would feel like I did, was actually over the moon about it.
I think you need to do what you need to do. If that's keeping the baby, then you keep the baby regardless of him. If you terminated based on his feelings.. You'd have a hard time forgiving yourself I think. .
Just remember that we are stronger than we think we are and things somehow have a way of working out. I hope he comes around.