Its hard to enjoy the holiday when...

KristinaD217

All you can think about is, "Ok I have like six weeks until my baby is here. I have to clean and figure out how the he'll to kick my inlaws out of my house without pissing off my husband so I can get my damn house in order." -.-

Really, I feel like I am alone on this and when I try to bring it up to my husband he doesn't care or says "we will make it work". my mom us driving in and we made these plans long before my in laws decided to stay with us. But all of the rooms in my house are occupied. -.- even the nursery which has been rearranged so my nephew can stay in there. I'm just so damn stressed.

Sorry, just had to rant because my voice (haha words) weren't getting heard.

CaliforniaDream87

When are they leaving? I would be annoyed too. Seriously, your H needs to help you figure this out.

KristinaD217

It is unknown when they are leaving.

cosplaymom

What the hell. Give them a week to get out of your house. That's more than generous! Baby could easily come in 3 weeks and you do NOT need the stress. Your husband needs to get on board. Tell him he needs to support you right now or he can move into the nursery with your nephew and move the crib in with you. >_<

Seed0824

Why are they staying with you as in do they think they are staying until baby is born? Do they live far?

KristinaD217

They are wanting to move back to Colorado, they were supposed to leave the 23rd of last month and while I was on my trip (I left the 23rd) I got a call from h saying they were staying for another month. I'm trying my best to get my house ready around their stuff, but it is really hard!

astreetx3

In my opinion, its very rude of them to intrude on your space when youre so close to your due date, especially in baby's personal space. Your husband really needs to step up and say something. Last thing you need is unwanted guests when you bring baby home

hcook321

I've learned this lesson the hard way too with "temporary living" situations with family. My brother moved back home to PA from TX 2 summers ago. We knew he'd be quitting his job so we offered him our spare room for the summer (June- Aug/Sept) on the premise that he'd find a new teaching position or any position for that matter by the end of the Summer. He didn't and just ended up substitute teaching. He definitely "took it easy" and wasn't looking as hard as he should...it wasn't until February that he finally moved out after I had to basically ask him to leave as I felt we were enabling him at that point. Sure enough, he found a full-time job shortly after. Moral of the story- plan for 2-3x longer of a stay than they say they initially intend.

KristinaD217

I told h that once this baby is here, they are gone. Period, because I am not dealing with working around them. I finally got downstairs cleaned and organized to where I had it before they came, now it's just keeping up with it! I just worry because it does seem like they aren't looking as hard as they should. If I can get the downstairs and her room totally ready, I think I'll be happy.

SashaDenn25

I completely agree talk with DH about getting them out, which seems like you did, but I think I would almost be like look if you all are going to be here I have things I need to get done and you all could help me out on this. I get their stuff is still something you have to work around, but screw it if they are intruding this close to due date then put them to work!!

KristinaD217

Talked to h, and he said that he doesn't want to put his brother back in the hell hole that he was in, he was really depressed to the point where they almost got a divorce. Even though it's my sister in laws fault. (She said let's move, he fought her on it, she won. They moved, things didn't work out, she left a good paying job and now has to start from scratch) I finally broke down and said that I'm not happy and I felt/feel like h doesn't have my back on anything. (Like don't fucking rearrange my kitchen. seriously, who does that) to which he said that he didn't see it as a big deal. But he did agree to try harder and that we will talk to them tomorrow. Wish me luck.

MouseMama817

Rearranged your kitchen? Oh hell no.

GOOD LUCK!

sushilove15

Just wanted to say that I empathize with you. My in laws have visited 5 times this year already and stay for at least a week each time. They are awkward people at that and my FIL thinks it's humorous to throw "funny" insults at me.

Seems like you have really handled your situation with grace. Good luck.

jadetree1080

I don't know if you have a yard, but what about renting a 5th wheel or RV and parking it out back. Hotels are not an option in our small town, so this is what husband and I will be doing for my parents. Gives everyone there own space to escape to while being close.

KristinaD217

@jadetree1080 , we live on base so that is a no go. I would love to do that though!

@mwt8673 I'm sorry! I hate those "funny" insults! And it's hard to handle this situation because all I want to do is scream and say "don't touch my shit!" But instead I just smile and walk away

MouseMama817

I didn't think I was one of those people that got bothered by others being in her kitchen, but my MIL came over to make Father's Day breakfast with me. I got super annoyed that she opened a new carton of milk instead of using what was left in the one right in front of it. Who knew?
Needless to say, someone else rearranging my home would probably make my head explode.

sushilove15

@messymolly08 That would tear me apart, it's the small things that are so aggravating because they build up! There's only room for one woman of the house!