Hello ladies! Ok so I have thought about posting about this issue for a couple weeks ... I finally decided that this may be a good place to open this discussion. We're all about the same age and I'm hoping someone relates! So particularly mommy's with one or more smallish children, can any of you relate to stress w/ your DH. I am a SAHM at the moment and we are having #3 (2yo DD / 5yo DS). There is building resentment between us for a couple reasons: for me DH is really good at taking the reins a couple night a week when the kids are infants so I can sleep but at 2 & 5 not so much. Both of my kids are difficult at night. DS can take hours to get to bed and DD is STILL waking up 1 or 2 times a night. So needless to say I am exhausted in the mornings dealing with them & being pregnant (14 weeks). DH says he's sick of me saying Im tired & he had the nerve this morning to say: Well you don't get up and help me get ready for work in the morning! ... Does he think he's my 3rd child? Side note: We are currently in transit moving across country staying at my IL's house so that argument isn't even relative at the moment. So to DH's issue: we definitely have a less than an enviable sex life. I remember my feelings changing about half way through my pregnancy with my DD. I'm trying to sort out the root of this ... Hormonal or just resentment from past issues (and exhaustion). Before this pregnancy I actually had an extensive panel of blood work done & everything is normal. In any case it's a cycle. I say women need to feel support and kindness to want to be intimate and he says the lack of intimacy makes him standoffish & grouchy. Oh lord it's a mess. I honestly could go w/o it and not even think about it but I know this is not healthy (and completely abnormal for me). Anyway! It was good to just get this all out! Thank you for reading if you've gotten this far
Re: Mommyhood & relationship issues
Thank you for your response! You can definitely relate! Intimacy issues are difficult regardless if it's doctor enforced or otherwise. I think it's very complicated for men too ... Weirdly I think they feel rejected even if it's completely out of our control
Elizabeth 5yrs old Jane 3yrs old
@KateLouise thank you for the great practical advice! I can relate to so much of this! And I think I will talk to my dr again just to double check there is not a medical issue lingering.