I am very talkative and hate awkward silence. However, I get socially drained really easily. I need my alone time. I worry about everything and am completely disorganized. I am more nurturing and have a very difficult time saying no.
DH is the type that doesn't talk much but is an amazing listener. Even though he is quiet, he is more of an extrovert than I am. He can handle social situations much better than me. He is organized, amazing with finances, and rarely worries about anything. He is a caring person but is much more cut and dry with people. He is very blunt and doesn't have a hard time telling people exactly how he feels without much concern about how they might react. The best way I can think of to describe DH is the strong silent type from an old western. lol
We do have our similarities though. Both of us are very family oriented. We are very minimalist, we don't buy many things that we don't need. We also share a lot of common interests like health, gardening, being outdoors, sports, etc.
We both have learned a lot from each other during our relationship and I think that is one of the things that make us work so well. He helps me stand up for myself and be more confident. I have helped him to become a little more compassionate for others and open up about his feelings a bit.
We are two very different peas in a pod. We disagree on most of the major stuff like religion and politics. But we are both very accepting of the other's point of view and know when it is time to just agree to disagree. It sounds crazy but it's such a healthy relationship and we are so in love.
I love this post! Goes to show how different we all are and how every couple is different. It's pretty amazing to see who's two of a kind vs complete opposites and how you make it work for you as a couple.
My husband and I have a lot of similar qualities but we also have A LOT of things we don't agree on! So we are a little bit of both.
We are both so stubborn. I fear for the days of our daughter becoming a teenager, especially with this stubbornness that she's bound to have.
We enjoy doing the same things, going to the beach, staying active, vacationing, trying new things and restaurants.
We are both very family oriented. Family is very important to us and can't wait to start that trend with our daughter.
Neither of us like to be the center of attention, but are both social. I am probably more social than him though. We prefer more one on one/small groups than large crowds.
We disagree on entertainment. I love country and pop music, he loves heavy metal. I like to read, he hates it. I like to watch TV for entertainment, he watches it mostly for sports or education. There are so few shows we can watch together, it makes me sad!!
We also disagree on a lot of larger issues. Like you @MeganKGarcia we have different views on religion and politics. We usually just agree to disagree on those because we know we can't change the others mind about those.
I say I have a realistic view on life and he is pessimistic, but if you ask him he has a realistic view on life and my view is rainbows and butterflies! Ha!! Not quite!
It will be interesting to see how our parenting styles are different because I just know we will butt heads of a few things when it comes to raising our child. Some of that has to do with our cultural differences and how we were brought up though. I suppose everyone goes through that to some extent.
Love him to death and wouldn't change our relationship for the world. Well, maybe the stubbornness we both possess!
@BoomBarian haha I agree! she's pretty awesome. Sounds to me like your SO isn't very considerate when it comes to understanding you. He doesn't seem very open to change but it's ok, he can totally work on that! You may be the first person to ever challenge him on these things and that's a big deal. But make sure you're happy! If its worth it, majority of the time you'll feel glad to help make changes.
@aprosch@MamaOwl15 Ha! I love that your DH's love metal, I'm super into grindcore, hardcore, metalcore \m/ (and pop/indie/singersongwriter) and my husband isn't into music at all haha
I love this post! Goes to show how different we all are and how every couple is different. It's pretty amazing to see who's two of a kind vs complete opposites and how you make it work for you as a couple.
My husband and I have a lot of similar qualities but we also have A LOT of things we don't agree on! So we are a little bit of both.
We are both so stubborn. I fear for the days of our daughter becoming a teenager, especially with this stubbornness that she's bound to have.
We enjoy doing the same things, going to the beach, staying active, vacationing, trying new things and restaurants.
We are both very family oriented. Family is very important to us and can't wait to start that trend with our daughter.
Neither of us like to be the center of attention, but are both social. I am probably more social than him though. We prefer more one on one/small groups than large crowds.
We disagree on entertainment. I love country and pop music, he loves heavy metal. I like to read, he hates it. I like to watch TV for entertainment, he watches it mostly for sports or education. There are so few shows we can watch together, it makes me sad!!
We also disagree on a lot of larger issues. Like you @MeganKGarcia we have different views on religion and politics. We usually just agree to disagree on those because we know we can't change the others mind about those.
I say I have a realistic view on life and he is pessimistic, but if you ask him he has a realistic view on life and my view is rainbows and butterflies! Ha!! Not quite!
It will be interesting to see how our parenting styles are different because I just know we will butt heads of a few things when it comes to raising our child. Some of that has to do with our cultural differences and how we were brought up though. I suppose everyone goes through that to some extent.
Love him to death and wouldn't change our relationship for the world. Well, maybe the stubbornness we both possess!
Oh, this! My husband grew up in south Florida, near Miami. He thinks people are generally bad - aggressive, selfish, and out to get you. I grew up in rural New England. I think people are generally good - willing to help out, good-hearted. We can walk down the same street and he will see something completely different than I will. And we both are pretty sure our own view of people is the realistic one. It's hard to reconcile sometimes. I'm hoping that living in Vermont and raising a child here will help him get a different outlook on people. For the most part, we live in a very safe and open community. People here tend to be quite laid-back. South Florida is culturally way more interesting, but definitely a "rougher" place to live. I can totally see how our upbringings have colored our view of humanity.
We are almost complete opposites personality wise except that we are both introverts. He's a big picture person and I am detail oriented. He picks the direction and I make it happen! He's a thinker I'm a feeler. He is task oriented I'm people oriented. He tells stories to make a point, I just go straightforward the bottom line. His love language is touch and words, mine is service and quality time. Most of our fights when we were first married were about how we were fighting! It has been a long process of learning each other and to appreciate our differences.
My husband and I are completely. entirely. sometimes painfully. opposites. I'm extremely introverted but love a lively discussion with my family about religion and politics. I love attending lectures. I'm ridiculous type A since organization is kind of my coping mechanism in life. I knew what I wanted to do with my life and sacrificed everything in order to get there (not that it worked out...) My husband on the other hand can make easy conversation with anyone and is always the "clown" making everybody laugh. He HATES when I go off on political or theological tangents. He slept through half of highschool (until I entered the picture and forced him to study). Doesn't mind leaving messes until later and having mismatch everything and just winging things without a plan. Our relationship has been the most of difficult challenge we've had (and both of us have been through hell) and have nearly given up a few times... But at the same time, we both can accomplish what the other cannot and we really appreciate our differences. We continually push each other to do better, to be more honest with ourselves, to communicate more. We get stronger year after year after year and I can't wait to look back and know it was all part of the plan to get us where we needed to be and the be the best people, apart and together, that we can be!
@anorthro that sounds just like us! I grew up in rural Illinois where most everyone is very accepting and open to differences. He grew up in Serbia during the wars, moved here to Jacksonville FL (where we live now) when he was 19 and has a completely different view on things than I do. He is like your husband in how he views most people, thinks that most people are bad. I always tell him I wish he would have moved to a northern state when he moved to the US and he probably wouldn't feel the same about half the stuff he does and would probably understand me better . It's interesting and I kind of understand why he thinks the way he does, but at the same time I wish he would be more open! Hope he doesn't teach our daughter to think like that!
I feel like causes you are passionate about that your SO is opposed to would be deal-breakers. For my husband and me, it would have been a deal-breaker if he was opposed to religion (especially me exposing the kids to religion), rather than just personally not practicing. If your SO is opposed to abortion, would be be able to, in good conscience, support you at a pro-abortion rally? (His non-answer makes me think no.). That could be a deal-breaker, if this is something that you're truly passionate about.
Re: Opposites Attract or Two of a kind
@aprosch @MamaOwl15 Ha! I love that your DH's love metal, I'm super into grindcore, hardcore, metalcore \m/ (and pop/indie/singersongwriter) and my husband isn't into music at all haha
@jenn2132 ummm cutest couple ever!!
I feel like causes you are passionate about that your SO is opposed to would be deal-breakers. For my husband and me, it would have been a deal-breaker if he was opposed to religion (especially me exposing the kids to religion), rather than just personally not practicing. If your SO is opposed to abortion, would be be able to, in good conscience, support you at a pro-abortion rally? (His non-answer makes me think no.). That could be a deal-breaker, if this is something that you're truly passionate about.