baby shower..

leenajosephine

I never realized that planning your own shower was a huge no no. So quick question, if no one has offered.. Do you just not get one?

bbiutmcph

leenajosephine said:

I never realized that planning your own shower was a huge no no. So quick question, if no one has offered.. Do you just not get one?

Yes, if no one offers you don't get one. Honestly it's not that big of a deal many people don't have them.

DylansCandyBar

bbiutmcph said:

leenajosephine said:

I never realized that planning your own shower was a huge no no. So quick question, if no one has offered.. Do you just not get one?

Yes, if no one offers you don't get one. Honestly it's not that big of a deal many people don't have them.

This.

It's still early yet. Someone may offer to throw one.

tate62610

Yeah sometimes you just don't get a baby shower. I've never had one. Honestly, it was disappointing because I've hosted several and dreamed of this beautiful shower one day being for me. But, I got over it. We were still very much showered with gifts, food, money and help. There just wasn't a big party.

Still register even if no one has offered a shower. People will probably still want to buy things for you

Sbrouwer0706

I also believe that is no one offers to throw you a shower then you just don't have one. I did want to say to register though because not only might people still buy you gifts like has already been mentioned, but you can get discounts that way as well  

rfigurasmith

My husband and I are hosting a bbq and calling it a baby-que. We shared our registry and it feels totally comfortable for us and our friends and family. I know there's etiquette that might say otherwise, but we're doing what works!

cgummie

My mom just asked yesterday about when I would like my shower. Some people are just slow, and she even said she feels like pregnancy takes forever so she didn't want to start planning too early.

And we planned on having a sip n see type gathering if we didn't get offered a shower. You have options

savsimon

This is probably just me but I don't see an issue with throwing your own. If you want one I say you throw one. More than likely you will still get the gifts from those people now it's just a fun event everyone can go to. The world is changing and you don't have to follow a rule just because someone online says it's not polite, I just really don't see why it's such a big deal. I've know multiple people who have done their own or had cookouts like previously mentioned and I never though twice about it or offended that they threw it themselves.

tate62610

Yeah! YOLO! Seriously, do what you want

casserole27

I agree I think it's a little early to assume no one is going to throw one and plan your own. I recently learned a couple people were kind of assuming that I knew they wanted to throw me one. I would wait and if no one throws you one then go ahead and do something, like a SipNSee, or your BBQ idea.  

Leabyrd

I honestly don't see what the problem is with throwing your own. It's 2015, I'm having a Co-Ed shower/ bbq since it's not just my child it's my husbands as well, why shouldn't he be involved in celebrating his child as well? I would wait a little longer to see if someone offers but eventually if they don't and you don't mind putting it together then throw your own! I'll probably get slaps on the wrist for this but like other posters have said do what feels comfortable for you, your family, and friends- everyone is different!

MamaOwl15

When you're the person who doesn't get a shower, it's normal to feel left out. Or if you just get a quick little family-only gathering and not a big party. But yes, traditional etiquette is against hosting your own.

I agree with the PP's though, it's a little early yet. Someone may be planning to surprise you later on. My shower for DS wasn't till May '13 and I was due in June. Also, you'll still get gifts from anyone who wants to give them,
even if they're not given at a big, fancy party.

Personally, I see nothing wrong with a "baby-q" because I feel like that's different than a shower. If you want to host a late-summer backyard BBQ, and it so happens to be in honor of baby, that's fine. Just don't expect gifts (people might bring them anyway, but unlike a shower, registry info wouldn't be shared on the invite).

momming247

I'd do it myself. Seriously, those who love you will come. Who cares what people think, it's not that big of a deal to me!

DylansCandyBar

BrooklynBroussard said:

rfigurasmith said:

My husband and I are hosting a bbq and calling it a baby-que. We shared our registry and it feels totally comfortable for us and our friends and family. I know there's etiquette that might say otherwise, but we're doing what works!

Lol, I've heard a lot of people doing this! For some reason, I always think the name sounds like you are grilling the baby ! I think I just have a strange mind.

I always think that when I see people write that! :::shudders::::

jenb0203

I think a sip n see party is so cute! Like beer wine appetizers and a little bundle of joy! So cute!

MrsFaust1432

No one has offered to throw me one yet either so I know how you feel. I threw my best friend a really nice baby shower 2 years ago and she, nor her family has offered to throw me one yet.

My question is though, I feel like some of my friends and family may ask when the shower is. When I tell them we aren't having a shower, and they ask why not, what should I say to that?

jenspeake

I would shrug my shoulders and say....not sure....no one was has said anything to me about throwing one.  That would probably get them talking.  I know if I said that to one of my friends they would ask around and find out or get a group of friends together and throw one.

carlymarie021

there's no law on throwing your own. Your going to need a lot of stuff. And u can do it as like a small gathering backyard BBq (babyQ) like everyone said. My boss threw her own. Got a lot of nice stuff. Good luck !!

Celly2015

My mother in law threw my first one and my best friends are doing my current one but I have to say. Not that it's the same for everyone but I received more blessings and shower upon baby AFTER baby was born. If my friends weren't so insistent I would not one before but have a Huge welcome after the baby is born.

It's up to you.

But people may shock you as you get closer and want to do one for you. That was my situation the first time. They came up and planned one the month before I was due. And when I found out that no one was doing one for a family member of mine, the mother in law and I put one together in a week. And it was a blast!!!

Good luck!!!

FrozenMommy

MrsFaust1432 said:

No one has offered to throw me one yet either so I know how you feel. I threw my best friend a really nice baby shower 2 years ago and she, nor her family has offered to throw me one yet. My question is though, I feel like some of my friends and family may ask when the shower is. When I tell them we aren't having a shower, and they ask why not, what should I say to that?

Straight up honest, no one has offered! That sucks tho, you always hope that after you do something wonderful that they would do the same, but life gets in the way these days. 

rue:D

Most showers I've been to are usually when the MTB is 7-8 months along, so there's still time! Etiquette says it's a no no to throw your own shower, so if you want to follow that then yep, you just wouldn't have one.

Personally, I don't see a problem with someone throwing a shower for themselves. Like someone else said, it's 2015 now...a lot of traditional etiquette rules have gone out the window for the most part. Do whatever makes you happy!