daycare change? WWYD?

mommymegan831

I have a 5 year old daughter and 3 year old son.  My daughter has always been a bit of a hand full at home, but both kids have never had an issue with their behavior in daycare.  DS moved rooms about 3 weeks ago.  The 1st 2 days she told me how great he was, that she barely noticed he was there, which I didn't really take as a good thing, I want my child to be noticed and involved in the class.  However, she has since told me twice about him hitting other children who are smaller than him, my son is very tall but the youngest in the class.  I believe that this has happened, but knowing my son it's out of play not aggression, she said this too.  I was really looking forward to him moving into this room, it's bigger, more kids, they do more, and the teacher seemed great.  I guess part of the reason I liked her was because I noticed how many parents she's friends with on facebook.  I thought it was sweet she was so involved, although as a teacher I wondered why she would put herself out there like that, I figure she's young and may not get that it's not a great idea, but now I'm wondering if she's showing favoritism.  On one hand, my son will be in the class all of next year, and the majority of the kids, her favorites, will be moving up.  She seems to be friends with alot of the parents she babysits for so maybe she'll form new favorites but we next to never need a babysitter, and when we do we use a grandparent or aunt for free.  She also just graduated college and I'm assuming would like to get a public school job, although that's hard to do so who knows if that will work out and if she'll stay or not

This is all happening at a time we were considering changing daycares.  There is a brand new Learning Experience that opened much closer to our house last year.  Our current daycare is about 5-10 min from our house on my way to work.  It's not a big deal, but my daughter is going into kindergarden in September and I may have to pick her up 1st to get there in time, so it would be pretty inconvenient to then go back to him, especially because I was hoping to spend time at the playground at her school after dismissal.  Both kids will be home with me over the summer so we can do a fresh start where ever in September.  

My only concerns with the new place is it doesn't give me a warm and fuzzy feeling, although our current place doesn't really either and maybe at 3 1/2 it's time for him to be more serious about learning and maybe more structure will help with the hitting.  However, if he keeps having these problems, then I may regret changing him.

After writing this all out I think I may have made my decision, but WWYD?

BabyHope2013

If I were you, I wouldn't make any sudden decision right now. Kids go through phases. At one point at my daycare, my DS got bite like three times in a matter of two weeks by the same kid. I was about to pull him out and then it was resolved and never happened again. 6 months later, my kid was the biter and bit several kids over a matter of few weeks---but then just when I thought my kid was going to be an awful person he stopped too. 

I would talk to his teacher about how she addresses the behavior---then you can be consistent with how you address things at home. I would also let it play out to see if she is even there come September when you go back. You could always tour the new center and check it out to see what kind of vibe you get from there. 

WLJ2

Before I switched jobs my son was at a learning experience. I can say it was by far my favorite. When I did the tour it did not give me the warm an fuzzy feeling. I felt like the women in management seemed to have attitudes all the time. But the teachers were very nice. My son's teacher at the time was amazing with him! However, he was having a lot of behavioral problems at the school. Once we switched daycares all the behavioral issues stopped. Kids are resilient. If it were me i would probably switch daycares. Traffic here is horrible and I would hate to have to drive back to pick up ds.