This is why you read medically based articles and not mommy blogs written by teachers if you want to keep your sanity. This is only fuel to the awful fire that can frustrate just about anyone. Don't waste your time!
To be honest, with my first baby I was pretty sure people who would undergo med-free birth had to be out of their mind. But after researching further I found a lot of information that states how med free births support baby in the first days of life. There are lots of reasons why it is good for baby to go through a vaginal delivery without the meds in their system. That being said, if it is not a possibility for whatever reason it's also critical that you have an open mind to do what's best for you and baby. And at that point it may mean meds/c-sec.
I think this is all about moderation and open mindedness. The more frustrated we get because we assume we are being judged the more fuel we add to the fire. If there's one thing I've learned in the first years of motherhood is that I can't care what everyone else thinks, you really have to educate yourself and trust your gut.
Ummmmm you should read the article instead of just reading the title.
Yeah, I get it but I just don't think this kind of stuff does us any good- unless you're just trying to get kicks out of someone else's opinions. I'm all about keeping it positive and I just don't like her take on things. I would rather spend time reading medically based info that might actually help me in the future rather than comparing what this woman thinks is "easier". And the way she dramatizes everything only makes the mommy debates worse...in my opinion anyways!
This is why you read medically based articles and not mommy blogs written by teachers if you want to keep your sanity. This is only fuel to the awful fire that can frustrate just about anyone. Don't waste your time!
To be honest, with my first baby I was pretty sure people who would undergo med-free birth had to be out of their mind. But after researching further I found a lot of information that states how med free births support baby in the first days of life. There are lots of reasons why it is good for baby to go through a vaginal delivery without the meds in their system. That being said, if it is not a possibility for whatever reason it's also critical that you have an open mind to do what's best for you and baby. And at that point it may mean meds/c-sec.
I think this is all about moderation and open mindedness. The more frustrated we get because we assume we are being judged the more fuel we add to the fire. If there's one thing I've learned in the first years of motherhood is that I can't care what everyone else thinks, you really have to educate yourself and trust your gut.
Ummmmm you should read the article instead of just reading the title.
Yeah, I get it but I just don't think this kind of stuff does us any good- unless you're just trying to get kicks out of someone else's opinions. I'm all about keeping it positive and I just don't like her take on things. I would rather spend time reading medically based info that might actually help me in the future rather than comparing what this woman thinks is "easier". And the way she dramatizes everything only makes the mommy debates worse...in my opinion anyways!
Scary Mommy is not a single person. It's a collection on articles written by all different people. This article is actually about what this woman went through to have a very difficult c-section.
ETA She's making a point about those women who say it's taking the "easy way out"
This is why you read medically based articles and not mommy blogs written by teachers if you want to keep your sanity. This is only fuel to the awful fire that can frustrate just about anyone. Don't waste your time!
To be honest, with my first baby I was pretty sure people who would undergo med-free birth had to be out of their mind. But after researching further I found a lot of information that states how med free births support baby in the first days of life. There are lots of reasons why it is good for baby to go through a vaginal delivery without the meds in their system. That being said, if it is not a possibility for whatever reason it's also critical that you have an open mind to do what's best for you and baby. And at that point it may mean meds/c-sec.
I think this is all about moderation and open mindedness. The more frustrated we get because we assume we are being judged the more fuel we add to the fire. If there's one thing I've learned in the first years of motherhood is that I can't care what everyone else thinks, you really have to educate yourself and trust your gut.
Ummmmm you should read the article instead of just reading the title.
Yeah, I get it but I just don't think this kind of stuff does us any good- unless you're just trying to get kicks out of someone else's opinions. I'm all about keeping it positive and I just don't like her take on things. I would rather spend time reading medically based info that might actually help me in the future rather than comparing what this woman thinks is "easier". And the way she dramatizes everything only makes the mommy debates worse...in my opinion anyways!
I can see where you're coming from. I personally disagree, but I enjoy and can very easily pick up on satire. Not everyone who reads it can. Not saying that you can't, but I can definitely see how someone googling for their side of the mommy wars could misunderstand satire as fact. Not necessarily that article seeing how it's dripping with sarcasm, but I get it.
Yep, I got cha. I'm just talking about this woman's article not the whole website. I don't read this kind of stuff while preggers just because I'd rather focus on positives. When it comes to the mommy wars I just say we should stop partaking altogether. That is all
Well darn it to hell ladies. I had to take the popcorn out of the microwave before hitting start as clearly this isn't going to be one of "those" threads. It's almost as though a group of ish starters just up and left for a new board
I love the mature dialogue going on here and thought I would throw in my 2 cents. I don't believe there is an easy way to deliver a baby and all women deserve props regardless of the method selected to ensure the safest possible delivery of a beautiful new life. I hate words like "natural" because it inadvertently implies the alternatives to be unnatural. I'm adopted and DH and I have no option but to build a family via IVF as result of a male factor condition. We are quite the poster family for family planning options! I can't imagine my life without my amazing parents and can't fathom life without my wonderful DS. None of it would be possible were it not for medical advances and alternate methods of building a family. I am a firm believer that there is no unnatural way to build and love a family.
Wow. Didn't expect this to blow up over night. Yay for mature adults discussing a topic in a manner that does not reflect poorly on humanity/society. Also, I'm pretty sure I'm in love with @thegingeravenger You made my point in a much more succinct and awesome manner than I did.
So glad to see a mature well thought out discussion on this topic. This hits home for me too. I've had two births and had an epidural for both. After my first was born I was overwhelmed with guit for not going natural and not being able to breastfeed etc. I then realized I was letting these mommy wars attack me, and for what? I personally think that all births are awesome. This is my opinion and I know it might sound weird but we as humans walk on two legs whereas animals walk on 4 (mostly). Walking on two legs seems to have changed the position of our pelvis (just from research I've done) which in turn made birthing a bit more difficult. Now I may be out there thinking this way but when I do it helps me remember that no birth should be shoved aside or frowned upon it should be celebrated as an accomplishment.
Re: UO Natural Birth - Annoyed by semantics
ETA She's making a point about those women who say it's taking the "easy way out"
Edited because words are hard.
I love the mature dialogue going on here and thought I would throw in my 2 cents. I don't believe there is an easy way to deliver a baby and all women deserve props regardless of the method selected to ensure the safest possible delivery of a beautiful new life. I hate words like "natural" because it inadvertently implies the alternatives to be unnatural. I'm adopted and DH and I have no option but to build a family via IVF as result of a male factor condition. We are quite the poster family for family planning options! I can't imagine my life without my amazing parents and can't fathom life without my wonderful DS. None of it would be possible were it not for medical advances and alternate methods of building a family. I am a firm believer that there is no unnatural way to build and love a family.