Waiting to miscarry

luvablegrace154

So right now I am waiting to miscarry. I'm supposed to be 10ish weeks and I found out Friday afternoon that our baby did not have a heartbeat and was measuring 8 wk 2 days. This is not our first loss, we had one in 2013 the same time frame and fetal age. That loss was a surprise, we found out as it was happening. However this time I know that the baby is gone and it is absolute torture to wait it out. I am supposed to wait until Friday and then discuss with my midwife what my options are. I am terrified to go through it again.

Hopefully not but if you have been in my situation, what was your choice and outcome? I cannot bear to wait more than a few weeks.

Also how do you pass the time? I do have other children so I cannot just sleep all day long waiting for it to happen I don't feel like I can fully start grieving until its all done...

If it takes until Friday which is likely because my body isn't really showing any signs of realizing what is going on, how scary is a d and c? I am completely scared to death of that procedure.

misslissa32

I had a d&c friday and it was completely painless. I was also terrified but so glad I went that route, could not imagine waiting it out. They whole procedure is 20 minutes, and you are fully asleep so don't know or feel anything. I was home within a few hours. Have had light bleeding but not as much as a period and hardly any cramping. Honestly nothing to be scared of, I'm such a baby with anything medical and it was seriously no big deal (physically anyway). I was 11 weeks and found out baby stopped growing around 8 weeks, also had no signs of miscarriage. I'm sorry you are going through this.

Betsyj0418

I'm sorry for your loss. I'm also waiting to miscarry. I found out Wednesday that there was no heartbeat. I've started cramping so I'm hoping it will be over soon. I too had a previous miscarriage(same time frame). My Midwife had me take Cytotec to speed everything up. Unfortunately I didn't deliver everything and had to have a D & C. It was scary but I felt much better after. I go back to the Dr tomorrow to find out what my levels are and to decide if I will need a D&C again. Good luck to you.