Unbelievably angry today

chels0120

i miscarried last weekend. My third in a row after 4 years of trying to have our second child. I found out the day my SIL had her baby. A girl. Which we would die to have. And named her ONE LETTER OFF from the name I've dreamed of using for a girl for forever. I thought I was dealing with this loss ok until today. We hadn't told anyone we were pregnant. But my DH talked to his dad yesterday and told him we had lost another one. I was totally good with him telling his dad because I know he needs someone to talk to about all this too. But today I get a text from SIL saying she heard and is so sorry. And I'm so angry. I'm angry she now has three children that she whines about constantly. I'm angry she took a name so meaningful to me. I'm angry that we keep losing babies we would cherish more than anything on earth. Sometimes it just feels so unfair.

I'm sorry for the vent. I just needed to get that out.

rachrobertson

I am sorry for your losses. Vent away! I feel like that is all i do these days. I found out about me mmc on a Monday, my SIL was induced that Thursday with her 4th baby, I had my d&c that Friday, and mothers day was that Sunday. My SIL is so sweet and a great mom, but I am still bitter that she gets 4 and I just want a second one. Her second pregnancy resulted in twins, mine a mc. It is hard not to be angry/jealous when you want it so bad and it is so easy for some people.

whit3183

I'm sorry for your losses.  I've had 2 miscarriages (no successful pregnancies), and hearing people complain about their children is the worst! I have a co-worker whose wife had twins the week that was my original due date from my first pregnancy AND, coincidentally, also the week I miscarried my second pregnancy (i.e. worst week ever for me), and he complained incessantly about not wanting to have kids and now continues to complain incessantly about how hard it is to have twins. There were a couple times when I completely lashed out as a result of his complaining, and he finally got the memo and stopped bringing up his kids in front of me.