First Pregnancy Ended as a Blighted Ovum

themattawedding

I had an US, found an empty sac and was scheduled for a follow up. I went in today for my follow up and the sac had not grown and was still empty.
So my doctor requested that I stop taking my progesterone and wants to give it some time to try and pass naturally. If not I'll be scheduled for a D&C.

I'd love some insight from anyone that has experienced something like this. This was my first time being pregnant so I feel a little lost, a lot of heart break, and even less hope for future pregnancies.

A little about me, I'm 25 and married. I have endometriosis and a slightly retroverted uterus.

I just need some support but also some advice.

MEA0320

I'm sorry for your loss - I'm actually in the same boat and can relate. I was 8 weeks with our first pregnancy but it was discovered last week that nothing was developing as normal. I am scheduled for my first D&C tomorrow.

The first few days after hearing the news is hard... almost unbearable. My husband has been a wonderful support and is as upset as I am, but he is staying positive which is helping. I had also told our parents about the pregnancy and now the miscarriage - everyone has been supportive and helping us get through these hard days. 

I know a lot of people say "Everything happens for a reason" and I'm trying to take that saying in the most positive way as possible at this point. It's really hard, especially, when others are announcing their wonderful news of pregnancy - in my case, 4 close friends are all due around when I was due... But I know in time, we'll be making the same announcement. 

The biggest suggestion I have would be to continue to read the community boards and other posts. Hearing/reading others stories has really helped in knowing that I'm not alone. The next few days are tough but it does get easier. ((HUGS!!))

sammyjosmith

I'm so sorry for your loss. We went in Tuesday and found out blighted ovum too. I'm still dealing with taking the Misoprostol instead of a D&C. I hear that D&C is easier for some people because you are put to sleep. I had lots of pain the first night. I've had bad cramping since then. Today is the first day I haven't had to take a pain pill. Still light bleeding. Still upset and crying. But soon we will try for our rainbow baby. ❤️

huskerfan246

I am so sorry for what you are going through, I am actually in the same situation as you, i'm just a few years older, 32 and married.  I was diagnosed with Endometriosis in 2013.  My husband and I found out we were expecting our first child on May 19th, did the ultrasound and the sac was empty.  They did the bloodwork and my #'s looked good, so they had me come back 2 days later for another ultrasound and bloodwork.  My #'s had gone up like they were supposed to but the sac was still empty.  The Dr. was concerned but scheduled me to come back in a week later.  Went in for my 3rd ultrasound and same results.  They determined it a Blighted Ovum.  I was devastated and couldn't go back to work because I was an emotional mess.  The Dr. told me that the tissue would pass overtime, but after a few days I couldn't take the wait, it was too agonizing.  The worst part about the wait was having all of the pregnancy symptoms, especially the nausea, and knowing it was for something that wasn't going to happen.  I had been doing stuff to keep my mind off it, but there were little things that would send the flood of emotions back, and I didn't want to go on like this.  I called my Dr. and scheduled the D&C, in which I just had this morning.  I know everyone is different but I will say for me, this decision was a huge relief so I can start healing and start focusing on the future of trying again.  We didn't tell many people about our pregnancy, just our parents, and I told my boss so she knows why I had been taking so much time off, but they have been so supportive of us and that really helps, its good to have someone to talk to that will just sit and listen and give you a hug.  This page has been such a huge help in answering questions and the support from everyone is so wonderful.  I am sending you thoughts and prayers of comfort as you go through this.  My advice to you would be if this is just too emotionally painful to wait for it to pass on its own, maybe call your dr and discuss setting up the D&C sooner, so you can begin the healing process.  I actually received that advice on here earlier this week, called my Dr. on Wednesday, and was in there by today.  Sending a hug your way!

themattawedding

@huskerfan246 thank you so much for the insight. I had an appointment scheduled for the 15th of June to check the progress but the doc had to schedule an operation thay day, so Monday I should be able to get a new one. I want to do this naturally, but I also don't want to wait around. I'd like to get started trying sooner rather than later.

Thanks to everyone else for their insights and advice. It's good to have a community of people that have or are going through similar things, I don't feel so alone.

shanae528

Wow, you are not alone. I did not know so many women have experienved this, as this is my 1st pgcy also and I am also experiencing Blighted ovum. I am "13wks" today and I am still waiting on the Dr to tell me what to do this Friday.

My bf and i are very upset but we are supportive of each other and will try again in about 6 months. We were so confused. We didn't understand why my body was/is pregnant, but no baby inside. My doctor said after your first blighted ovum, it is very rare that it will happen again.

Stay positive hun, we do not always know the answers and it's not always for us to know.

jacobsone2

I have had one blighted ovum, then a healthy pregnancy, now I think I am going to have another blighted ovum. I never expected it, I heard it was uncommon to have more than one. But here I am again. Don't lose hope for the future. I know it's hard, I felt the same way. After I had my daughter I just felt like she was the reason my other pregnancy didn't work out. She was meant to be mine and the other baby wasn't. That's how I'm trying to make it through this loss. I know I will get my baby. It doesn't take the pain away, but its the only thing that helps me right now. You will have a healthy baby. Im sorry for your loss. It sucks and I feel like it makes it so much worse when it's the first.

aarchib

I just wanted to shine some hope. I had a blighted ovum in January and conceived first cycle after my miscarriage and am now 14 weeks pregnant with a so far healthy baby

themattawedding

So I've talked to a few of my close military spouses, blighted ovum seem to be fairly common these days, and unfortunately most of the people I've talked to have had multiple blighted ovum much like you @jacobsone2 between healthy pregnancies - so I'm not sure the doctor was correct when they said you usually don't get it again, but maybe I have a group of extra special friends haha These women range from perfect paps all their lives, to train wreck reproductive systems like myself. It just happens I guess. But they are all mothers of 1 or more beautiful children!!

One thing my doctor told me and that I have read multiple places is a lot of times blighted ovum (or other miscarriages) almost "prep" your body for a healthy pregnancy and the chances of a healthy pregnancy within 6 months skyrockets! So @shanae528 if you and your SO want to try before 6 months, you have really good odds, but miscarrying is emotionally stressful so definitely wait until y'all are ready to try again!
My husband and I want to start trying again ASAP, we've been trying for over 2 years and it looks like another deployment will be coming up by summer's end.

I guess the hardest part about this is sitting around waiting to miscarry. It's been 3 weeks since growth in my pregnancy stopped and I don't have pregnancy or period symptoms. It's emotionally and physically draining. I'm starting to lean towards the D&C to just get this over with. I've been scraped for endometriosis, cauterized for cervical cancer, and had multiple biopsies, I feel like one more procedure couldn't do THAT much physical harm
-_____- at least compared to the amount of emotional stress it will alleviate.